Relationship help

[Vash the Stampede']

So, I plan on asking this girl out right after she is done performing as the lead in one of the university's plays. What I want to know is whether I should demand an answer up front OR tell her to promise me that she will think about it and tell me later?

What do you escapists think I should do?

 

[Irridium]

Well do you know her at all? It'd seem pretty weird to her to have someone she doesn't know just ask her out.

If you do know her, just ask. Thats all you can really do. Just try not to be too pushy.

 

[El Poncho]

Why don't you just ask without demanding or asking if she will think about it.

Give her your number/ask for hers or ask if she wants to go out some time.

 

[loc978]

Holy crap... no, don't demand anything. Ask, give her your number, then follow up after a day or so.

 

[spartan1077]

So, I plan on asking this girl out right after she is done performing as the lead in one of the university's plays. What I want to know is whether I should demand an answer up front OR tell her to promise me that she will think about it and tell me later?

What do you escapists think I should do?

Go up to her, and if you know her ask her out. If you don't know her, ask her out. Don't demand anything or tell her to promise you anything. Just ask her out and if she says "no", shrug and say okay. If she says "yes", exchange numbers and walk on. Also-if you don't know her, go into conversation first! Do not go up to random girls and ask them out without knowing anything about them.

 

[Imp Poster]

Personally, I like an answer upfront so I know where I can go after that.

 

[LiquidSaladDrink]

I think you should just give it a miss, theres no way its going to turn out well.

 

[Vash the Stampede']

We have a class together and we usually talk walking to and from class. She's really busy most of the time with school work and prepping for her first lead in a college play that we don't get to see each other that much. I'm just worried because she has been really hot and cold to me during the last couple of weeks and I'm just not sure if I can get past the friend stage with her.

 

[LiquidSaladDrink]

double post

 

[Celtic_Kerr]

We have a class together and we usually talk walking to and from class. She's really busy most of the time with school work and prepping for her first lead in a college play that we don't get to see each other that much. I'm just worried because she has been really hot and cold to me during the last couple of weeks and I'm just not sure if I can get past the friend stage with her.

Never pressure them to make a decision. Just ask that they consider it. best thing to do

 

[stormtrooper9091]

no no no no, listen man, you ask her out straight up no balling out. That's the ONLY WAY TO DO IT.

 

[Dragunai]

So, I plan on asking this girl out right after she is done performing as the lead in one of the university's plays. What I want to know is whether I should demand an answer up front OR tell her to promise me that she will think about it and tell me later?

What do you escapists think I should do?

ALL OF Y'ALL BACK UP!
I got dis!

You walk up to her and you say:

"One fairer than my love? The all-seeing sun. Ne'er saw her match since first the world begun."

Translated from Romeo into regular male douchebag it means:

There is no woman ever born that is more beautiful than you.
The jist being that "the all seeing sun" in its Eternal life and eye that sees the whole world has never seen a woman finer than her ass.

Who is better with love than Shakespeare!

Now go get some thespian laying down!

 

[Salem_Wolf]

Like the majority are saying, ask her and give her time to think. Generally if she's interested she won't need to think, just say you'd like to take her out to a movie and dinner somewhere. If she needs time to think, give her a few days before you call and remind her that you want to take her out. Otherwise, move on and find someone else.

IMO, demanding an answer, even said nicely is kind of clingy and sends the wrong impression / signals.

 

[BlumiereBleck]

She'll probably give an answer up front

 

[hortez the champion of the frozen wastes]

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Generally "asking girls out" is kind of over-rated. I'm sure BonsaiK is going to pop his head in soon and put it a lot better then I'm about to, but the whole "ask her out thing" is generally unsuccessful. If you make it a big thing, it will weird her out, especially if you don't know her to well, and then you'll just be that creepy guy who tried to get in her pants.

If on the other hand you do know her quite well, you also run the risk of her seeing you as "just a friend," in other words, the infamous friends zone. Here's my personal advice on how to tell: if she talks about troubles of any sort(e.g. boys, finances) , there is a good chance she is "just a friend." However if she giggles a lot, touches your arm or chest while speaking, or makes visible attempts to reignite conversations multiple times, then there is a good chance shes attracted to you and you can go for it.

However either way don't go up and say "do you want to go out?" Even if she is attracted to you there is a possibility she will say no out of surprise. Ease into it. Hey whats up? I was just listening to some , do you like them? I heard they're having a concert . hey you know what we should go to that concert.

One last piece of advice for that last thing: if you mention the thing you want to go do (e.g. coffee, concert, etc.) at the same time as asking her "out," she might still say know out of surprise. But if you go on a tangent and talk about something else in-between mentioning it and asking her to go, then she won't say no out of surprise, at least.

I hope that helps.

 

[zombiesinc]

What I want to know is whether I should demand an answer up front OR tell her to promise me that she will think about it and tell me later?

Don't demand an answer from her, that's a huge turn off. Don't make her promise to 'think' about it... this will also turn her off.

Simply go up to her and ask her on a date. She'll either say yes, no or maybe so. The only possible area for confusion if she says "Let me think about it" or "Maybe", but eventually she'll get back to you, and you should have a better idea of where she stands.