Relationship virgins.

[Ossian]

I'm wondering how many of you out there have never been in a relationship and are adults (18+) Is this considered weird?

I'm 21 and never even held a girl's hand in a romantic way much less kissed or dated one. I've only asked one girl out and she said she couldn't date. I really liked another girl but she has no interest.
Besides that I've had no social fields to find anyone. (I came from being homeschooled)

How many are like me out there?

 

[Exterminas]

Oh, well this depends on how you define relationship. If you define it as "Voluntary bond between two people in which none is depending on the others grace, but cares about the other ones well being nontherless, simply because they love each other", which seems a good defenition to me, then a lot of people out there, who are married and have children, never had a real relationship anyway.

People tend to think too much about this stuff. If you haven't met the right person yet, then there is nothing weird about that. You will probably get to get 80 years+, so why bother about a few years plus or minus? You could have it much worse: Meet someone you like at young age, but then get into a relationship that is depending on something else than love (like money, or children), which chains you to that person, long beyond the point at which you like each other. (I heard somewhere that people tend to change during their 80 years of life)

So don't bother yourself with that. Love either happens or it doens't it's not like washing dishes, something that you can choose to do.

 

[megaraccoon]

I'm wondering how many of you out there have never been in a relationship and are adults (18+) Is this considered weird?

I'm 21 and never even held a girl's hand in a romantic way much less kissed or dated one. I've only asked one girl out and she said she couldn't date. I really liked another girl but she has no interest.
Besides that I've had no social fields to find anyone. (I came from being homeschooled)

How many are like me out there?

unfortunatly im in a relatioship now (its going well) but still its not wired to be as you call it a relatioship virgin it just means you havent met a good enough woman or man yet and i can tell you most of my friends 21 on average are virgins so dont worry im just different cuz i grew up in cwmbran's white trash area as for social fields you have one the escapists forums allow you to socialise in an impersonal fashion, but for more hands on experience i advise you go to conventions and what have you to met other nerds and geeks who probably have the same interests as you, also if i may say tell your parnts they should have let you go to state school at least then you wouldnt have this insecruity about your social graces. hope this helps.

 

[DefunctTheory]

Many here I think, if I remember the last topic like this.

I was 18 before I had sex, so I can kind of see your problem... but you've never dated at all? It's been three years since home schooling, guy. Get on out there.

I don't often suggest this... but you may need to hire a hooker. You're way behind on the game, and dating will be hard if your acting like a 12 year old, blushing from physical contact. There are many prostitutes that will understand (And even cook you dinner!). I suggest you find one.

 

[FortheLegion]

I'm about a week away from being 18 and My first kiss was a few days ago. It went bad. We were both relationship virgins and had no idea how to kiss. Snuggling on the couch is nice.....

 

[_Janny_]

unfortunatly im in a relatioship now (its going well)

Why "unfortunately"? You can always get out of a relationship if you're feeling uncomfortable or whatever.

As for the OP, just switch genders and you get the situation I'm in. I'm not too bothered though, I'm not a big fan of, well, people in general.

 

[Engarde]

Social norms dictate you are a bad man.

In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with what you have done and there would likely be a few in the same boat.

I am in a similar situation, I am still young, but I plan on remaining free of physical relationships until I am at a stable enough frame of mind and stable home environment such that I can enjoy one.

Not to say I do not feel a deep and commited emotional bond to a special someone. But it is complicated. And things.

 

[BENZOOKA]

I "dated" the first time when I was 12 or 13, had sex first time when I was 14-15 and have had about six girls, that could be called as actual girlfriends.

Many here I think, if I remember the last topic like this.

I was 18 before I had sex, so I can kind of see your problem... but you've never dated at all? It's been three years since home schooling, guy. Get on out there.

I don't often suggest this... but you may need to higher a hooker. You're way behind on the game, and dating will be hard if your acting like a 12 year old, blushing from physical contact. There are many prostitutes that will understand (And even cook you dinner!). I suggest you find one.

This is a good advice. Just to get used to physical contact and social interaction with someone of the opposite sex.

Virginity is not a virtue. I'm not telling it's something terribly bad either, but the whole "waiting for the right person" is just a load of crap.

 

[FarleShadow]

There are many prostitutes that will understand (And even cook you dinner!).

What?
Free dinner you say?
Looks like its hooker time!

 

[Onyx Oblivion]

I'm 20 years old, and have ever even been on a date, let alone had my first kiss, even.

I've got no trouble talking to girls, I have trouble asking them out. Never had female friends, either.

Either way, I've dropped out of college for the time-being, so the chances of going on a date are pretty much nil now.

 

[Alfred Chicken]

I'm 24 and I have not what I would define as a proper relationship. I've had sex a fair bit but have never really dated another guy. To a certain extent I think this is a problem with being gay, casual sex is easier to find than long term relationships. Mostly though it's just due to my circumstances, for financial and medical reasons I still live at home. I don't particularly worry about it though because I feel that things will fall into place when I meet the right guy.

 

[DefunctTheory]

There are many prostitutes that will understand (And even cook you dinner!).

What?
Free dinner you say?
Looks like its hooker time!

Its not so much free as it is a... well, imagine you're not really buying sex, but an extremely expensive dinner with a really nice 'dessert.'

 

[Harlemura]

Well, I'm 16, but it still seems pretty strange to not have one judging by everyone else's "track record" at college.
Never had any real interest in one until recently, and whenever I'm near her I get "Raj Syndrome". Anyone who's seen the Big Bang Theory will get that joke. I'm fine talking with most people, it's just anyone I don't want to screw up around.

 

[FarleShadow]

There are many prostitutes that will understand (And even cook you dinner!).

What?
Free dinner you say?
Looks like its hooker time!

Its not so much free as it is a... well, imagine you're not really buying sex, but an extremely expensive dinner with a really nice 'dessert.'

So just like a regular date.
Except an increased chance of an STD. But only slightly.

 

[FarleShadow]

lol doubles.

 

[Ossian]

To clarify, I wasn't really talking about virginity as the sexual sort. I'm talking about people who never even been on a date or had any romantic notions with another person.

Many here I think, if I remember the last topic like this.

I was 18 before I had sex, so I can kind of see your problem... but you've never dated at all? It's been three years since home schooling, guy. Get on out there.

I don't often suggest this... but you may need to hire a hooker. You're way behind on the game, and dating will be hard if your acting like a 12 year old, blushing from physical contact. There are many prostitutes that will understand (And even cook you dinner!). I suggest you find one.

Lolololol... Just.... No... Totally not that kind of guy.

 

[Arkvoodle]

25, I've given up looking for anyone or anything significant.