Erana said:
Mazty said:
Erana said:
No, you cannot deny that sex is disgusting. The only thing is, you have hormones that tell you to ignore that fact and enjoy it anyway. I don't take kindly to ageism, and considering your reasons for why sex is good, I stand by the idea that maturity is more important than age.
You talk about maturity yet are saying that a man putting his penis into a woman's vagina is disgusting. If you can't see past that then you have a lot of growing up to do.
Learn a little about biology. How is sex, the one thing that creates life, disgusting?
Personally, I think that having a hole that runs through my entire body is somewhat disgusting. But that's life. Disgusting is subjective anyway.
And how the ***** can you seriously say that being intimate is an immature view on sex?
You are going to look back at this in a few years and realise how absurd & immature what you are saying is.
I'm not ageist, but don't be conceited.
I
took a course on women's biology. It was disgusting. And I wasn't talking about being repulsed by intimacy or the creation of life, I was talking about the fact that you would compare something to hard drugs.
And have you ever considered the idea that I am repulsed by sex and drugs not because of my age, but because I've seen some of how
horrible and destructive both can be?
I don't get signals that tell me that there is goodness to be had in sex. All I see is the potential for pain, betrayal and heartbreak, which is a necessary toll for procreation. Sex
can be intimate, but intimacy itself does not have to be sexual.
And sex is rarely a fit of passion. Don't lie to yourself and say such things. From what I have found from second-hand sources that don't rose-tint everything, its not
really that great. It is about eleven minutes worth of something that may or may not be pleasurable, and is often awkward. Our society has further laden sex with shame, and you may have well ruined the relationship you once had with someone you care about. And people don't always have sex for sex, it is a filler, an attempt to deal with real life problems, much akin to worry-eating or drinking away one's cares.
Its like Disneyland. Everyone practically worships it as the ideal place for bliss and togetherness, but really, you're just sweaty, dirty, out a few hundred dollars, and you could have had as much fun from staying home and watching a movie.
Wait a second, you said:
"It is disgusting, in actuality. I mean, all the bodily fluids, disease, and proximity to the anus 'n what not...
I'm stayin' a virgin until I find a lifelong mate who can make that sound appealing. "
That means you do find the idea of sex "eeeeeee" to put it in the most blunt way possible.
As for comparing it to hard drugs, that's the pure physical side of it - the release of endorphins being very similar to ectasy or even more similar to heroin. I'm not for drugs at all, but those are the facts, and saying sex is bad because it feels good is ridiculous.
"You don't get the signals" doesn't mean sex is bad, just that you haven't seen the good side to it.
"ll I see is the potential for pain, betrayal and heartbreak, which is a necessary toll for procreation."
Well that just tells me that your attitude towards life is very insecure & negative. It'd be like saying "All I see in food is weight gain, but it's what needs to happen for me to live". It wouldn't hurt to look at the positive side of it.
Intimacy doesn't have to be sex, but find something more intimate than a passionate & romantic night with a lover.
As for your second hand sources, saying sex is usually awkward is nothing shy of hilarious & again, says more about your friends age rather than their experience of life. Ask people other than your highschool buddies what sex is like then you'll find relationships which aren't based on highschool pressures, hormones and insecurity, but actual love. Then you'll hear about the 45min romp-athons in candle-lit, rose-petal covered apartments.
As for your closing remarks, you really are a social pessimist so no wonder you have a downer on the most intimate a person can have. I can't presume to know why, but my bets are that you, or your friends, have no idea on what love is, let alone sex other than fumbling under the bed sheets.
Good luck finding love & romance with a movie.
