*Sigh* Guess who's in love...

[the infected (teamkiers)]

As much as it pains me to do this, I'm all out of options.
So at risk of sounding super corny, I've fallen head over heels for one of my friends.
She's a great girls, and as soon as we met we just sorta clicked, we're into the same everything, music, games, social subjects, nearly everything!
But there's one problem, me. I can't summon the courage to tell her how I feel, in fear of either destroying our friendship all together, or just making everything awkward between us.
I think she's a great friend, but I feel something more for her, and I have no clue if it's vice versa.

So please guys & girls, give a lovestruck fool a hand? What should I do?

 

[LetalisK]

Considering it doesn't seem from your frightfully brief introduction that she has been dropping any clues that she likes you, go out on dates with other women. No, seriously, this is by far the best option. Either you'll realize you weren't really that crazy over her, if she likes you she'll become more attracted to you(or rather act more attracted) and that will open better opportunities with her, or if she doesn't like you this will make it easier to get over her. Seriously, win-win.

 

[Psymon138]

Having been in a similar situation and destroyed a good friendship by hiding it I'd say tell her. If you really, really can't do it face to face send her a letter or something and apologise. Even if she doesn't feel the same way, if she really values your friendship it's unlikely she'll fly off the handle and refuse to speak to you or something. All I can tell you is bottling it is not going to help. You will feel worse and worse, you will probably drop hints she'll pick up on and when it all comes out being dishonest with her about your feelings is not going to paint you in a good light.

Alternatively, go with LetalisK's advice, if you feel up to it. When I was in this situation I sure as hell didn't feel like asking anyone else out, but it could be different for you.

 

[hortez the champion of the frozen wastes]

Coming out and telling her won't create attraction, so unless she's already attracted to you this isn't wise, as it WILL alienate her. What I would suggest is looking for signs of attraction before proceeding, e.g. giggling a lot about stuff you say, touching your arm/chest unnecessarily, ditching her friend to hang out with you, taking a hat/scarf you're wearing and putting it on, etc.

If she does these things more than twice, she's probably attracted to you. If it happens once it could be a coincidence.

If she is attracted to you, go for it. Otherwise, don't.

 

[WingedIncubus]

Writing letters is for pussies. If you like her and respect her at least be a man and ask her out in her face. Worst you gonna get is a no. If she laughs at you or treats you with pity at least you know she was a sucky friend with no interest in you as a human being.

And no, don't tell you are in love or even that you like her, you put her on a bad spot. Tell her to go grab a coffee instead. She knows why you are doing it.

And finally, do not dare think that she doesn't know. She knows. Girls know well before you admit it to yourself. They are much better at it than we do.

 

[Hop-along Nussbaum]

Cowboy the f*** up and tell her. Chances are, even if she rejects your profession of love for her, she'll probably still want to be friends, as long as you're HONEST with her and TALK to her.

Women (and girls, I suppose) love guys that "share their feelings". Trust me. That crap makes them go all warm and fuzzy inside, like somehow they "helped you become more in touch with your feminine side", or some stupid shit.

Either way, tell her.

 

[similar.squirrel]

It's not love until at least one of you has audibly farted in the presence of the other with no net loss of affection on the behalf of either party. You've got what is commonly known as a 'crush'. Act on it, and see what happens.

 

[Amarok]

Act on it. Your friendship is already destroyed. It has been since you developed these feelings and can't see her in the same way any more. You're going to cringe every time you hear her mention a boyfriend or sexual encounter. You're going to stop enjoying her company effectively.

If she rejects you, you can gain closure from that fact, and if you're as tight as you say your friendship will survive. I've been in this situation myself.

It might seem bittersweet at first, but eventually it'll pass and everything will be hunkydory again, and you will soon enough find someone else who doesn't have such strings.

And if she doesn't reject you, well then, good times.

 

[zombiesinc]

As much as it pains me to do this, I'm all out of options.
So at risk of sounding super corny, I've fallen head over heels for one of my friends.
She's a great girls, and as soon as we met we just sorta clicked, we're into the same everything, music, games, social subjects, nearly everything!
But there's one problem, me. I can't summon the courage to tell her how I feel, in fear of either destroying our friendship all together, or just making everything awkward between us.
I think she's a great friend, but I feel something more for her, and I have no clue if it's vice versa.

So please guys & girls, give a lovestruck fool a hand? What should I do?

There's nothing corny about falling in love, or sharing that with others.

You won't know how she feels unless you either A) express your feelings towards her and/or B) ask her if she shares/has those feelings for you. There's absolutely no point in focusing on her unless you work up the courage and express yourself. If you don't make an effort to do this, you'll never know how she feels.

There's always the risk that she won't feel the same way, but it's a risk well worth taking. It is possible that it may change things between you if she doesn't feel the same way, but I believe that's a pretty good indication of how strong your friendship truly is. If those feelings aren't something that the two of you can either accept or get past, your friendship may not have been strong enough to truly last.

Ultimately you need to make a decision. Either you choose to express your feelings, or move on. Choosing to hold them in and wonder will only wear you down over time, and won't do you any good. Regardless of what you choose, best of luck.

 

[the infected (teamkiers)]

Thanks a lot for the advice people, I think it's pretty clear what I need to do now.
KILL THE *****!
Nah jk, I may as well tell her how I feel, seeing as if she doesn't feel the same, nothing much will change, I hope.
Wish me luck Guys & Gals, and thanks again

 

[Zantos]

Good luck. If you do end up destroying the friendship, it'll pick up again if you really do have that much in common. It'll pick up even faster if you pick a really corny actor and only ever talk to her in lines from their films. You'd be suprised how easy it is to re-enamour people to you by only using lines from Total Recall. Especially if they don't make any sense in the context of the conversation.

 

[BonsaiK]

As much as it pains me to do this, I'm all out of options.
So at risk of sounding super corny, I've fallen head over heels for one of my friends.
She's a great girls, and as soon as we met we just sorta clicked, we're into the same everything, music, games, social subjects, nearly everything!
But there's one problem, me. I can't summon the courage to tell her how I feel, in fear of either destroying our friendship all together, or just making everything awkward between us.
I think she's a great friend, but I feel something more for her, and I have no clue if it's vice versa.

So please guys & girls, give a lovestruck fool a hand? What should I do?

Don't tell her how you feel. Not now anyway. Telling a girl that you love her with you're not even going out yet is a one-way ticket to rejection and being perceived as creepy.

If you think she's a great friend and you already have a good rapport, ask her out on a date somewhere. Don't call it a "date" and don't say the dreaded curse words "will you go out with me", just think up some social event that you want to do that you'd both enjoy (you've got the same taste in things so this should be a no-brainer, hell it could be movie or music related or even be co-op computer games at your house or hers) and then ask her if she'd like to participate. She's say yes, most likely. Then rinse and repeat. If she says yes to multiple dates, after a while then you can then have the "I really like you a lot" conversation... chances are she'll have jumped you before then though.

 

[ddrfr33k]

As much as it pains me to do this, I'm all out of options.
So at risk of sounding super corny, I've fallen head over heels for one of my friends.
She's a great girls, and as soon as we met we just sorta clicked, we're into the same everything, music, games, social subjects, nearly everything!
But there's one problem, me. I can't summon the courage to tell her how I feel, in fear of either destroying our friendship all together, or just making everything awkward between us.
I think she's a great friend, but I feel something more for her, and I have no clue if it's vice versa.

So please guys & girls, give a lovestruck fool a hand? What should I do?

It's only awkward if you let it be. I asked a friend out once, we'd known each other for a few years. She said no, she's not interested, didn't want this to get in the way, and we moved on. We still see each other at the usual places, do the usual things when we hang out, and we don't think much of it. At least, I don't think much of it. I dunno about her...

 

[icame]

I'd just ask her out on a date (Specifically calling it that. Don't be around the bush.) and see what happens. I know its simplistic, but honestly nothing will come from just sitting there wondering whether she feels the same or not. You just have to take the plunge and find out.

Edit: If this is actually about straight up telling her you love her, don't. Bad idea. Sure, she might feel the same, but in my opinion dating her first for some months would make this revelation less hazardous to the relationship.

If you ask her out and she says no, fine, your still friends, no harm done. IF you tell her you love her it is coming completely out of left field and could freak her out.