So how sad is this?

[SeriousSquirrel]

So, I'll get right to the point. I'm a sophmore in highschool and I've never had a girlfriend. I've blown oppurtunitues, missed signs, mis-interpreted signs, and have even told a few girls no. This wouldnt bother most people and shouldn't bother me, but ever since I was in the sixth grade it's been one of my main goals. I don't want to get layed or get around, but be in a romantic relationship.

I want to go on romantic dates, hold hands, talk about stuff endlessly, all of the doughy shit. And despite, or perhaps because of that drive I have yet to get a girlfriend and it REALLY annoys me. And I've come to resent the annoyence, knowing that no one wants a desperate man. Yet it comes up everyday, whenever I see a girl I liked or a couple walking by me.

Is it just pathetic that I feel this way? Has anyone else been here? I know it's a stupid thing, but it's a stupid thing I want...

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

So, I'll get right to the point. I'm a sophmore in highschool and I've never had a girlfriend. I've blown oppurtunitues, missed signs, mis-interpreted signs, and have even told a few girls no. This wouldnt bother most people and shouldn't bother me, but ever since I was in the sixth grade it's been one of my main goals. I don't want to get layed or get around, but be in a romantic relationship.

I want to go on romantic dates, hold hands, talk about stuff endlessly, all of the doughy shit. And despite, or perhaps because of that drive I have yet to get a girlfriend and it REALLY annoys me. And I've come to resent the annoyence, knowing that no one wants a desperate man. Yet it comes up everyday, whenever I see a girl I liked or a couple walking by me.

Is it just pathetic that I feel this way? Has anyone else been here? I know it's a stupid thing, but it's a stupid thing I want...

You're a sophomore in High School? I didn't have my first kiss until I was a Senior in High School, and I had plenty of opportunities.

I did better in college, though.

Generally, I found high-school a really crappy place to get a date. Everyone already knew me, and had decided they knew who I was. In college, I was new and interesting and could be whomever I wanted. That went much better.

 

[RatRace123]

I've been there, I discovered that I only wanted a relationship because seemingly everyone else was in one. I never got one and I thought I was somehow a failure for not having one. I later came to terms with it, and realized I actually don't care about having a relationship.
Maybe some time down the line, but right now; I really just have no interest. I felt like an idiot for getting so depressed over not having something I never really felt strongly about in the first place.

Not sure if your situation is the same as mine was, but the point I'm trying to make is, you're not alone in feeling this and it's not pathetic to feel this way. It's a natural feeling to want to seek a close relationship and you should continue pursuing it, but don't get too hung up about it if you don't find one in high school.
There's plenty of fish in the sea, after all, and a lot of the more interesting ones you'll meet outside of school.

 

[WorldCritic]

I didn't have my first girlfriend until I was a senior. You're not alone.

 

[Kevonovitch]

...your in highschool, now if it's been say 5 years after highschool then sure, but since you seem so overly obessed with it, you just sound pathetically desperate for litterally no real reason. chill, you'll get there, who cares what everybody else is doing, you do what u do, and take your time, otherwise, why bother?

 

[Canid117]

Contrary to what the CW and ABC family tells you you are not a freak if you dont have a girlfriend by the time you are in 6th grade. Calm down and slow down and don't worry about it so much.

 

[MrStab]

How old are sophmores? (not an American)

 

[Smooth Operator]

You told girls No yet you crave a relationship... can you see a problem in there?
Seems you need to get clear on what you want first then start moving towards that goal, and remember that relationships take time and many iterations.

 

[Canid117]

How old are sophmores? (not an American)

Around 15 or so give or take a year depending on when they entered school.

 

[OldAccount]

There is at least one other person in your exact situation. So there's that.

 

[Grabbin Keelz]

Just remember you got shitloads of time before that really becomes a problem. I'm a college freshman and I've never had a girlfriend. I do have a good bunch of ladyfriends though.

 

[NeutralDrow]

Is it just pathetic that I feel this way? Has anyone else been here? I know it's a stupid thing, but it's a stupid thing I want...

Dude, I'm 25, and I want the same thing.

For that matter, a sophomore? I never got in a relationship until I was 16, and a serious relationship until I was 21 (and those have been my only two so far). If you've had signs to miss and have turned girls away before (admirable restraint, by the way), your prospects are undoubtedly nothing to worry about.

I feel your pain, man, and it hurts a while, but it does get better eventually.

 

[Erana]

How old are sophmores? (not an American)

14-16 years old.

Relationships should only be on the table if you meet the right person. If you really want a companionship, then you should put yourself in the position to meet more people, with the chance that they'll be good for you.
If you feel incomplete or incompetent without a significant other... Well, you really shouldn't. While being a romantic at heart is a likeable trait, feeling outwardly bothered by being single at such a young age can often come from self-esteem or peer pressure, which isn't going to go away by finding a partner.

 

[Julianking93]

You're not pathetic at all. I want the same thing. Hell, I'm 17 and haven't even been so much as kissed yet.

It does get better though and you'll find someone to make you forget all about being alone and desperate like this. Trust me, it gets so much better. :3

 

[Tsunimo]

Don't worry friend, I'm in the exactly same boat as you... well, except without any of the opportunities... I think... maybe I just missed them...

 

[MrStab]

Don't stress over it you're asking for a meaningful romantic relationship and that is a lot to ask for but just remember relationships don't just instantly start from that basis all of the things you want (holding hands aside) are generally not for a good 2-3 months with someone your age so you would be best of just to go with things and not strive to attain a meaningful relationship just live your life go out and party with friends, meet new people and when it happens it happens.

 

[powell86]

I want to go on romantic dates, hold hands, talk about stuff endlessly, all of the doughy shit. And despite, or perhaps because of that drive I have yet to get a girlfriend and it REALLY annoys me. And I've come to resent the annoyence, knowing that no one wants a desperate man. Yet it comes up everyday, whenever I see a girl I liked or a couple walking by me.

I think it is nice that you want to have a romantic relationship. Just wait a while more, a right girl will come along and then u'll need to seize the chance and ask her out.

 

[Booze Zombie]

What's sad is if you let yourself get judged. I should know, I call myself pathetic all the time... it's not worth it, in the end.

Just move on and try your best to find someone, you'll bump into them eventually.

 

[Friendshipandmagic]

So, I'll get right to the point. I'm a sophmore in highschool and I've never had a girlfriend. I've blown oppurtunitues, missed signs, mis-interpreted signs, and have even told a few girls no. This wouldnt bother most people and shouldn't bother me, but ever since I was in the sixth grade it's been one of my main goals. I don't want to get layed or get around, but be in a romantic relationship.

I want to go on romantic dates, hold hands, talk about stuff endlessly, all of the doughy shit. And despite, or perhaps because of that drive I have yet to get a girlfriend and it REALLY annoys me. And I've come to resent the annoyence, knowing that no one wants a desperate man. Yet it comes up everyday, whenever I see a girl I liked or a couple walking by me.

Is it just pathetic that I feel this way? Has anyone else been here? I know it's a stupid thing, but it's a stupid thing I want...

Aw its cute to see another romantic. Not very many of us left. Just keep trying dude, the right partner for you is out there.

Don't stop believing!


Seriously, don't worry so much about it. It will happen when it happens.