So, I did an adult photo shoot

[Mcupobob]

I've been feeling weird. I did a adult photo-shoot for a gay porn website. It started off as a joke but before I knew it my girlfriend was sending my face shots to a Craigslist ad. I've been broke and needed the money the whole thing was professional but I just feel iffy about myself. I thought I could walk out fine but didn't. I joked around with my friends and gf about this I'm sure I'll get over it but I wouldn't have done it if it weren't for the money. I don't know... It was a stop gap solution and I made good money and people seem to want me to feh
Into it. I feel like I'm getting pimped out, I owe money my friends and family have been helping out money wise for awhile now. So when I came back with cash it was a relief. I'm also missing my car since a recent car wreak, not my fault it's just that the insurance companies are Arguing who has to pay me(there was three cars in the accident ) maybe I'm just birch I'm just wondering what yo guy think I should do? Any advice?

 

[White Lightning]

Sweet! I've just received my free Riot Points!

Brilliant advice, I'd listen to this guy OP he knows his shit.


Anyways why are you complaining? You're obviously attractive enough to be in porn. Try getting over it? I dunno.

 

[Frezzato]

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Stop talking about this with your friends and especially your girlfriend. If she constantly brings it up, tell her to can it. I'm not being facetious or trying to sound like a misogynist asshole. I'm just saying, in the day and age of the internet "being forever" and both Google and FB trying to remove all anonymity online, stop talking about this. You did what you had to do and made some cash.

It sounds like the shoot went well. You got paid. Overall it sounds like easy money. I'm not trying to diminish your courage, it's just that it doesn't sound like the horror stories you hear about from established people in that field.

You got out unscathed. You made some money. Now all you need is stop sabotaging your future and have mods nuke this thread.

 

[Chromatic Aberration]

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I second both responses in this thread: first don't bother being upset about it. You tapped into an easily accessible vein of money since you evidently look good enough to do so - I don't see the problem with that. I imagine a lot of your feelings originate from the typical social reluctance of society on all things sexual which I feel to be overblown or hypocritical most of the time so don't feel bad about doing this.

That said, however, I have to also urge for caution as Fizzy mentioned yet not nearly as extreme as in that it "sabotages your future". As I use to say, everything you say or post on the Internet can be used against you - the Internet doesn't lose things it just forgets them. So the best way you can go about it, is to only speak with it to people you can trust who won't spread it in an effort to bury it by disattention and lack of connections to yourself. Yet always remember: all things can come back to haunt you. However, the question you need to ask yourself then would be how much would you really care if it did? Personally, if someone would dig out my skeletons I'd tell them straight away how it is - if they have a problem with it that's their call and I don't have time to deal with such cretins. Still a little bit of caution is advisable for future employers or the like, but going out of your way to bury it (like nuking this thread only connected to a largely annonymous profile) seems overblown to me. Find the right balance between what you post and what not and what you are ready to defend and what not.

 

[Doclector]

I don't think that's much to be upset about. It isn't the taboo it once was, it's hardly as if it was your first choice or even something you looked for, you got an opportunity for easy money when you needed it and took it.

There is the obvious possible problem of it coming back to "haunt" you, but I don't think it'd mean much beyond some jokes between friends, and if an employer is backwards enough to look down on you, they're backwards enough to fail as a business in the next couple of years anyways, someone that steeped in old ways does not adapt, and will not survive.