The Virginity Mission (Probably, definitely NSFW)

[Paragon Fury]

So, an odd question popped into my head the other night and I thought I'd put it to the Escapist to see what you'd say. That question is;

If when you went to have sex with someone for the first time, you found out they were a virgin, would that affect your ability to have sex with them/what you did to them/how you treated them?

For me...I'd already be nervous enough. Finding out they were a virgin would probably just push me over the edge into not being able to do anything at all. I'd be too worried about doing so badly that they'd hate sex forever.


Bonus Round: If you found out they were extra virgin, IE: had never even masturbated etc.?

 

[Asita]

*shrug* If they have no experience, that means I don't have to worry about this happening (well, sexes reversed, but you get what I mean).

 

[Phasmal]

I wouldn't care, to be honest. I never got the obsession with virginity at all.

Your first time is only special if you think it's special. Otherwise, it's no big deal.
Obviously, when the person older and a virgin I might wonder why, as in, are they religious, really shy, or have gotten over some issues they used to have, or have they just honestly never gotten round to having sex because they don't really care one way or the other. These answers probably wouldn't change that much, but it's something I might think about.
Generally, a person's past is their past, and I don't really care how much sex they have or haven't had (as long as they don't have any STI's and suchlike).

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

It wouldn't bother me much,
there are some health issues that can show up, especially if someone isn't accustomed to having sex. It's a matter of being aware of them and knowing how to not hurt yourself or your partner.
I guess in that case, I would probably be extra careful/ gentle, until they got into the swing of things.

Other than that, there's nothing I would assume about their personality for example based only off of them being a virgin if that's what you mean.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

I wouldn't want to have sex with a virgin. I don't want the responsibility.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

I wouldn't want to have sex with a virgin. I don't want the responsibility.

Responsibility for what? Most virgins aren't religious zealots anymore, so most virgins are just going to look back on it as one first among many.

In Protestant Province maybe, but I live in Catholic Country.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Well obviously I'd treat them differently. You have to go a bit gentler and be a bit more conscientious, you can't just go in all guns blazing and hurt them, unless they're ok with that.

 

[Silentpony_v1legacy]

I'd probably stop all together. I'm not exactly a cuddly, gentle dude. I'm a very very poor choice for someone's first time.

 

[DefunctTheory]

I suppose I'd have to put the chains, ropes, and straps away.

 

[FFHAuthor]

Well, if they were a virgin, well maybe I'm just weird but I would definitely make sure that it was 'all about her' if you know what I mean. It might be an unusual belief, but I think that losing your virginity is a really big deal in your sexual life and relationship life and it's a moment that deserves a lot more respect than it tends to get in popular thinking.

 

[CrystalShadow]

Would it? Good question. Given... my own (lack) of any real experience, I know how I'd feel, so I'd probably be inclined to be more careful.
Then again, chances are quite high that in any given situation right now the inexperienced one would be me, just because of how things have turned out
While I don't technically think I'm a virgin (it's a little convoluted honestly), I wouldn't be far off from it really.

I think it requires a degree of extra care, in that sex can be very scary if handled badly, and a virgin seriously has very little to go on in terms of knowing what to expect and the like.

 

[Something Amyss]

Well, obviously the Olympics are out until they know what they're doing.

But yeah, I mean, people say take it slow and whatnot. That's definitely right. I'd also add that there's different issues depending on who's doing what. I don't know a delicate and accurate way to say this, but basically, "who's on top" and what parts are involved. I've been with a couple of virgins who have managed to hurt both of us. And while I get awkward talking about sex, it's more awkward remembering the moments after,

Ow. Ow Ow.

 

[Neurotic Void Melody]

Upon learning such knowledge, I would sacrifice her to the one that veils beneath shadow and deceit, solely to increase my powers exclaim surprise (classy I hear), then remind her that every virgin gets two free lives when they die, and that anyone who tries to have sex with them is basically attempting to murder their future selves. Twice.
So far, the results have been mixed.

 

[Something Amyss]

The virgin will be nervous and eager but if you're calm then you can calm their nervousness and just have the eagerness.

Didn't see this until after I posted, but eagerness can be as much a problem as nervousness. And I say that from a position of "lucky I didn't end up in the ER or something."

 

[Something Amyss]

Upon learning such knowledge, I would sacrifice her to the one that veils beneath shadow and deceit to strengthen my powers exclaim surprise (classy I hear), then remind her that every virgin gets two free lives when they die, and that anyone who tries to have sex with them is basically attempting to murder their future selves. Twice.
So far, the results have been mixed.

Why did I not know about this until now?

 

[Risingblade]

On the bright side you'd be the best they'd ever had...but also the worst

 

[Ryallen]

Seeing as how I, myself, am a virgin, I can't really judge them on that, as it would seem a bit hypocritical. If anything, I would be terrified of the blood that I am told would come out of my partner's vagina, as I do not know how much would come out, for what reason, and what I am supposed to do with it.

 

[Joshroom]

Esshh, kinda a hard one for me to answer.

Well, practically its not an issue I'll probably ever have to deal with; I've been with the same woman 10 years since I was 16 and we both lost our virginity's together. Still, we do have a more relatively open relationship as time has gone on AND, if we're talking hypothetically, I suppose it would make me more gentle; but no more than it, considering it was my first time making love with another person, should make me. A first time with someone who was completely sexual;y new - now that would be equally fun and nerveracking - as you'd be the one responsible for shaping their entire perceptions of what sex is.

All in all, I guess finding out wouldn't be a negative - probably only make me all the more determined to do a good job; as it were.

Captcha: Two left feet. Its like it knows my soul!

 

[Neurotic Void Melody]

Upon learning such knowledge, I would sacrifice her to the one that veils beneath shadow and deceit to strengthen my powers exclaim surprise (classy I hear), then remind her that every virgin gets two free lives when they die, and that anyone who tries to have sex with them is basically attempting to murder their future selves. Twice.
So far, the results have been mixed.

Why did I not know about this until now?

It was minor small print on page 58, section Y30 in life's contract. Most people skip that section, thinking they know it all already. Luckily I doubted myself that day and have been doing so ever since!