There's no easy way to state this.

[Arsen]

Okay, so I made this post...a while back, and received both good replies and rather scolding ones. I will basically state the exact same information without any of the emotional conflicts within it...which I believe deterred the overall point of the post I made.

*waves* Hi!
My name is Jake, I am 25 years old.
I have never had a girlfriend nor have I had any relationships as a human being that have been of a flirtatious, sexual nature. In essence, I am starting off brand new to this whole thing, as if I am merely sixteen years old. I would like to actively pursue this. However, therein lies the problem and issue itself. I do not know how to go about this...now let me stop you right there.

I work at a rather large retail outlet next to two very prestigious univerisites in the US. I am by no means someone who CANNOT communicate with people. As a matter of fact, I am downright charismatic, can talk to a multitude of different people. Easily. Without stress, without breaking a word. I've even had some flirtatious encounters (many actually)...but I don't know how to properly react or go about them.

I am not the type people go out of their way to socialize with, become friends with, or in any way gets invited to many social functions. It's not out of a lack of want but out of...something I can't quite place as a person. I just don't end up getting invited to many things nor do I have a wide circle of friends. The kicker? The type of girls I probably COULD get are the ones I don't want to date. I want to have standards, ethics, and something along the lines of someone who isn't overall promiscuous.

Yet, there's again the problem: I have no clue how to go properly go about this. No. I'm not here to earn attraction, go the Neil Strauss/David Deangelo route and bullshit my way into someone's life. It's just that...it's impossible to find a starting point at this age. There's a stigma attached to someone who has not been with anyone at this age.

So, Escapist fiends, what must I/should I do?

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

I'll admit, it's difficult, Im only 5 years younger but in the same boat. HOWEVER, in saying that, there still are plenty of people our age who are still single (and not single mothers, no offence to those it's merely a personal thing). although it's cliche' but Iwould recommend Neil Strauss "The Game" book, NOT to pick up, but to help open yourself up and move, to help feel you can have confidence, not to give up etc. Personally, I was the same, I assumed it was just another stupid book, depicting Auto biography about a guy trying to get laid, the thing is with that book, you've gotta keep reading through it and pick apart different aspects and notice "that sounds similar" or something.

The best place to start, is probably meeting people as friends first, and get to broaden your circles to meet others. That's what im doing and so far it's going well, you meet say you friend's friends. then you meet THEIR friends, of which some might be good lookers with standards.

Point is, dont give up. Society these days is a mess with everything and you basically just gotta shift your way through the shit.

 

[bizentine]

Just go all in.
If you see someone, and find them attractive, walk up to them and say "Hi, my name is _______, you're pretty cute." Be prepared for rejection, but also be prepared for acceptance. There isnt a science to this stuff, you just have to get out there and put yourself in situations where you can meet and talk to people without appearing to be a crazy street-person.

 

[Stevo_s]

Well my friend the only advice I can give is that you need to level up!
Your love skill level is ONE right now!
Hmm how should one go about gaining more exp points in their love skill?