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Keela

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I've made a topic about this before, but I think a reboot may be in order.

I really, really like a girl. I have for more than a year, where my stupid crushes go on for a couple of weeks max other than this one. I try, and I try hard to kill my crushes as soon as they start, usually I can easily find a way to overcome emotion and be my normal, boring, logical, calculating self, but my usual methods don't even come close to working. I am going on record saying that I am not an emotional person at all, that most of my emotions can go fuck themselves, and I have a very pessimistic outlook on just about everything. Especially romance.

To business: My main question is, how do I just get over this? If it really can't be that easy, does anyone have any general tips or advice on how to kill this or, really, anything else I can do? By the by, she has had a steady boyfriend for several months. As if my situation wasn't shitty enough, she's taken too. Sorry if I come across as whiny.
 
Sacman

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Religious retreat... it kills everything inside of you...
 
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Dude, you can't kill emotiuons like this, trust me. You've just got to ride it through. Try to stop thinking of her as 'the girl I like' and more like 'my friend, (x)', because the longer you hold onto the thought of liking her and entertaining that idea, the longer you will.
 
Quaxar

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I'm really not good with this, but you know who is? <url=http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread>BonsaiK! Gotta give him some work, we can't risk letting him loose in here.
 
Irridium

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Kill her and her family and move to Mexico.

Quaxar said:
I'm really not good with this, but you know who is? <url=http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread>BonsaiK! Gotta give him some work, we can't risk letting him loose in here.
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Or this. This is probably the better option.
 
Sacman

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Irridium said:
Kill her and her family and move to Mexico.
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I'm pretty sure you gave me the same advice on one of my threads... it didn't work...
 
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if you stop thinking of her as a girl you like think of it as my awesome friend Donna [sub]yeah i was wacthing that 70's show today[/sub] also killing emotions is not the way out. try and fond another to feel love towards also when you do find that pretty lady you love, she will like some emotion.
 
Samurai Goomba

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I dunno what you can do, maybe realize that life can be great in other ways and do things you enjoy? Try something new, maybe. Go to the library and check out a stack of movies you've never seen (if you're a movie fan like me). Listen to some music you like. Distract yourself with stuff. Or maybe seek some deeper meaning in life beyond a desire to procreate. Try yoga, chi gung, martial arts, a religion...

The point is, there is so much richness in life aside from having a significant other. My life was great before I started dating, and it was great after. Having somebody is pretty cool, but being single is good too. Think of it this way: right now your time is your own. You can do whatever you want to do, so think about some things you want to do that you'd probably have a hard time doing if you were tied down in a relationship.

Finally, fixation is a big no-no. It never, ever, ever helps. Don't torment yourself. You said she's taken, that's gotta be the end of it. Unless you want to ask her out anyway.
 
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cut all ties to her unless she is a really close friend. just progressively stop talking to her.... or date one of her friends
 
gl1koz3

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The more you think of her, the more she grows on you. Fight the Dark Side.
 
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Keela said:
By the by, she has had a steady boyfriend for several months. As if my situation wasn't shitty enough, she's taken too. Sorry if I come across as whiny.
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As much as I regret how I came by this knowledge, I will say that the other person being taken is not as much of an obstacle as it sounds like. However, I am by no means saying that it's a good idea to to go for it if that's the case. In fact, let me go on the record as saying not to do that. Seriously, don't.

As for how to get over a crush, I find the best way is to find someone else. Depending on the situation, this may really just be having the same problem with a different name attached, but it usually works. Also if you're under the age of 20-ish I would recommend telling yourself that any romance you enter has a 99.9999999% chance of ending before it'll go much of anywhere emotionally/mentally, because it helps to think that any relationship you would've entered with her would've ultimately been a waste of time.

...I need to learn to take my own advice...
 
Ironic Pirate

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Sacman said:
Irridium said:
Kill her and her family and move to Mexico.
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I'm pretty sure you gave me the same advice on one of my threads... it didn't work...
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Well what part of Mexico did you go to? These things matter...

And just find someone else. And don't worry, some of us are even worse than you. I mean, look at my profile pic. I look like I just killed someone, all the time.
 
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