unlucky with love

[ryderawsome]

i just finished reading the scott pilgrim comics and thought to myself how nice it would be to have a girl in my life. suddenly it dawned on me that i havent ever had a girlfreind, or like anything even resembling that sort of relationship with a girl. its not like im some forty year old virgin (brilliant film) but i cant help but feel that at eighteen i really should have done a little more by this point. wondering have you guys ever gotten that sort of feeling or have you always had gals/guys in your more intimate life

 

[TheEvilJester]

Hell yes. I'm in your shoes but 17. I try to not sweat it too much cuz I cushion it with it'll happen eventually. Honestly though it is a problem a lot of people get. It'll blow over.

 

[SeriousSquirrel]

Join the club...I have had TERRIBLE luck, though I still have 2-1/2 years of highschool left before I consider my self a total failure of love (kidding, no offense meant to anyone who made it through highschool without a girlfriend/boyfriend)

Edit: I end up as the huggable friend, but that's about it. Just saying that I have some friends who are girls, I'm not a complete loser with the ladies (again, no offense meant to anyone without any friends who happen to be of the opposite gender. Just saying)

 

[Julianking93]

Well, you're in good company here.

Most people on this site are in the same boat and have just as much inexperience as you do and some are far older than you.

I myself am 17 and never done much of anything at all

 

[BonsaiK]

I didn't do shit with anybody till I was nearly 23. Now I'm 36 and pulling girls ten years younger than me with little effort. Don't worry about it too much, look after your health, get some social skills under your belt and it'll only get better as you get older.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

Don't rush into a relationship. Trust me, I did that and boy did it bite me in the ass. 3 years into it and she ran off with another dude. Left me heartbroken essentially. Still getting over it, but its nowhere near as bad as it used to be. I'm much better for it to be completely honest, but god damn do I feel like I missed out on more for having a girlfriend rather than not having one.

Don't sweat it man, it will all come in due time. Just be yourself and always be open to new things, the women will come.

 

[WOPR]

i just finished reading the scott pilgrim comics and thought to myself how nice it would be to have a girl in my life. suddenly it dawned on me that i havent ever had a girlfreind, or like anything even resembling that sort of relationship with a girl. its not like im some forty year old virgin (brilliant film) but i cant help but feel that at eighteen i really should have done a little more by this point. wondering have you guys ever gotten that sort of feeling or have you always had gals/guys in your more intimate life

same case
same age
it sucks

but I'm the pathetic person that doesn't even get hugs

and was so different he got kicked out of school because they couldn't suspend half the school

 

[TheEvilJester]

Oh yes and something my science teacher is very quick to remind me of:

Try looking for a relationship it'll be damn hard. Live life and focus on other things and you will probably end up in a relationship.

Then he goes off to yelling at me because I commented on how fat he is

 

[TheEvilJester]

i just finished reading the scott pilgrim comics and thought to myself how nice it would be to have a girl in my life. suddenly it dawned on me that i havent ever had a girlfreind, or like anything even resembling that sort of relationship with a girl. its not like im some forty year old virgin (brilliant film) but i cant help but feel that at eighteen i really should have done a little more by this point. wondering have you guys ever gotten that sort of feeling or have you always had gals/guys in your more intimate life

same case
same age
it sucks

but I'm the pathetic person that doesn't even get hugs

and was so different he got kicked out of school because they couldn't suspend half the school

Shit, that really sucks. I'm sorry man.

 

[Alora]

Yea it can kind of suck being single, especially if you find yourself at the realization that you've never been anything but single. I myself haven't really had this problem, been dating since I was 14 (24 now), but I can't say I wouldn't go back and change any of it either. I sometimes wish I hadn't been so eager to date anyone willing to date me just so I wouldn't be "the single girl".

As many have said above, don't fret about it. Be happy with the things you have and be patient and work for the things you don't. As mentioned above, get some practice with social skills (not bad pick-up lines to use on smashed girls in bars), maybe even learn to dance (trust me, most girls LOVE a guy that can wiggle his hips AND still be straight), get some life skills and girls will fawn over you.

Life is not a race, do take is slower. Here the music, before the song is over. =)

 

[WOPR]

i just finished reading the scott pilgrim comics and thought to myself how nice it would be to have a girl in my life. suddenly it dawned on me that i havent ever had a girlfreind, or like anything even resembling that sort of relationship with a girl. its not like im some forty year old virgin (brilliant film) but i cant help but feel that at eighteen i really should have done a little more by this point. wondering have you guys ever gotten that sort of feeling or have you always had gals/guys in your more intimate life

same case
same age
it sucks

but I'm the pathetic person that doesn't even get hugs

and was so different he got kicked out of school because they couldn't suspend half the school

Shit, that really sucks. I'm sorry man.

No need to be sorry... just gives me more excuse to move when I'm done with independent study

 

[Lilani]

I'm the same way at 19. I love songs like Love Story by Taylor Swift, Have You Ever Really Loved a Woman by Brian Adams, and Old Fashioned Love Song by Paul Williams. All romantic songs about true love, and unrelenting devotion. But I never have been in love, nor have I ever had any sort of romantic relationship. I have had a few crushes, but they've never gone too far.

It's not that I'm not open to a relationship. Almost every guy I meet I try to get to know them, and assess how much I like them, and think about if I might want to spend my life with them. Yes, really. I've never turned anyone down, but I've never had any offers either. And granted I've never made offers, but I kind of feel like that's the guy's duty, to make it "official."

I don't feel I'm being too picky. I know relationships are learning experiences and that you won't know if it's perfect right off the bat, but I just feel like there will be some kind of enduring connection when I meet The Guy. Some kind of a glue that makes us come back to each other again and again. It just...hasn't happened yet I guess.

I do wish SOMETHING would happen at some point, though. Even if he is a dud, I'd like something to prove it's not me.

Boy that felt good. Time to turn on some Paul Williams.

 

[Gaz6231]

Is there a thread on this forum that doesn't begin with or dissolve into depression and self-loathing?

Just because I lost my virginity at 16 to a girlfriend I was with for two years doesn't make me a better man than you are. It just means I had sex with a girl, big whoop.

Go buy some Warhammer and quit moping.

 

[TheEvilJester]

Is there a thread on this forum that doesn't begin with or dissolve into depression and self-loathing?

Just because I lost my virginity at 16 to a girlfriend I was with for two years doesn't make me a better man than you are. It just means I had sex with a girl, big whoop.

Go buy some Warhammer and quit moping.

I think this is more like...Ah shit, why'd you bring that up

EDIT: Wait strike that. This is more like "SO current social standards say I should have been in a relationship by now, am I doing something wrong?"

 

[Flying-Emu]

"I have never met a man who was honest, hardworking, and thrifty, who complained of bad luck." Some Romantic-period writer.

Seriously though, it's not that big a deal.

 

[khaimera]

Is there a thread on this forum that doesn't begin with or dissolve into depression and self-loathing?

Just because I lost my virginity at 16 to a girlfriend I was with for two years doesn't make me a better man than you are. It just means I had sex with a girl, big whoop.

Go buy some Warhammer and quit moping.

Nope. We're all a bunch of nerds. Except for us two.

OT: I call shenanigans on this thread. Anyone being honest on here has been trolled.

 

[aPod]

Join the club...I have had TERRIBLE luck, though I still have 2-1/2 years of highschool left before I consider my self a total failure of love (kidding, no offense meant to anyone who made it through highschool without a girlfriend/boyfriend)

Edit: I end up as the huggable friend, but that's about it. Just saying that I have some friends who are girls, I'm not a complete loser with the ladies (again, no offense meant to anyone without any friends who happen to be of the opposite gender. Just saying)

Bawwwww, you would consider yourself a failure if you didn't have a girlfriend before you graduated highschool? i understand there is alot of pressure from peers and society in general but its not the end of the world. Highschool is a very very very very small portion of your life.

 

[Sleekgiant]

OP don't sweat it, you will just get hurt at this age, I know I did, a lot.

I didn't do shit with anybody till I was nearly 23. Now I'm 36 and pulling girls ten years younger than me with little effort. Don't worry about it too much, look after your health, get some social skills under your belt and it'll only get better as you get older.

Listen to this guy.