VERY NSFW question for the lesbian community

[happyninja42]

So, I have random thoughts that pop in my head, and they stick there, and they bug me as time goes on without an answer.

For the past week or so, I've been curious about the sexual position, predominantly shown to be a lesbian thing of "scissoring". Either in porn, or in other pop culture who are making some lesbian joke/parody, the term of scissoring comes up. So! My question.

Is this even a position that actually exists in real world lesbian sex? Because it doesn't seem to be a very comfortable position, or a very effective one. It mostly only seems to be there to display as much of both parties genitalia as possible in a single shot.

So yeah, scissoring! Do you do it? Is it pleasurable? Or is it in the realm of the "donkey punch" of sexual acts, in that it only exists as an urban myth on the internet?

 

[Dizchu]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tribadism

It's not uncommon at all, in fact it doesn't even need two women. Though you're specifically asking about the position that involves two women pleasuring each other, legs intertwined. That's a thing, yes.

 

[happyninja42]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tribadism

It's not uncommon at all, in fact it doesn't even need two women. Though you're specifically asking about the position that involves two women pleasuring each other, legs intertwined. That's a thing, yes.

Interestingly enough in that very link you provided, it states that the position I'm asking about is apparently heavily debated in the lesbian community, as to whether it's something actually done, or just an offshoot of the porn industry and the cultural concept of lesbian sex. So apparently even lesbians aren't sure. xD The missionary position seems perfectly normal and effective to me, wasn't aware it was labeled as the same kind of sexual act as "scissoring". To me those or totally different. In my head, that's like saying that the missionary position, and doggystyle are "the same" because they both involve pressing genitals together.

 

[Dizchu]

Interestingly enough in that very link you provided, it states that the position I'm asking about is apparently heavily debated in the lesbian community, as to whether it's something actually done, or just an offshoot of the porn industry and the cultural concept of lesbian sex. So apparently even lesbians aren't sure. xD The missionary position seems perfectly normal and effective to me, wasn't aware it was labeled as the same kind of sexual act as "scissoring". To me those or totally different. In my head, that's like saying that the missionary position, and doggystyle are "the same" because they both involve pressing genitals together.

Sure, everyone's different. "Scissoring" (the specific act of tribadism involving intertwined legs) does sound uncomfortable and I'm not surprised that it's not super popular in real life. But people are into some kinky shit and some weird sex positions. I mean damn, a lot of BDSM is based around physical discomfort and that physical discomfort actually heightens the sexual thrill.

So yeah I think you found the answer to your question. It happens, but it's not as prevalent as porn might have you believe. But that's because porn is visual so stuff like the missionary position (which is actually quite pleasant from a first-person perspective) would be quite dull to watch.

 

[Aerevolt]

It's fake.

There are so many more effective ways we women can please eachother at the same time.

Lesbians have been around for millenia, but "sizzoring" has only existed for the last few years. It was probably invented for porn to be more visually appealing for heterosexual men.

 

[cathou]

ok... first, i'm married and had only one sexual partner in the last 10 years, so i dont know everything that young single girls like to try these days.

is it real. well, what's real or not ? i mean there's not lesbian central that send you the manual of what is real lesbian sex and what is not. as long as there's some people doing it, i guess it's real. Now, is it mainstream ? yes and no.

Let me explain. Scissoring is basically the action of rubbing your genitals agains your partner body. is it pleasurable? of course. Now, Scissoring, as we see it in porn, is a bit like a kamasutra position. it's fun to try, but it's not for everyone. i've tried it the way it's picture in porn. it's really hard on the hips and the abs. it's fun, but it's hard and exsausting.

now scissoring in the large term is much easier and as pleasurable. why tring to do this really hard position ? hey missionary between two girls work just as well you know. or instead of trying to rub a very tiny part of your body one another very tiny part of the other body, rub it against her leg, or arm, or anywhere. it's not just one position, one spot on the body.

 

[Marik2]

This should be in the wild west

 

[pookie101]

ok... first, i'm married and had only one sexual partner in the last 10 years, so i dont know everything that young single girls like to try these days.

is it real. well, what's real or not ? i mean there's not lesbian central that send you the manual of what is real lesbian sex and what is not. as long as there's some people doing it, i guess it's real. Now, is it mainstream ? yes and no.

Let me explain. Scissoring is basically the action of rubbing your genitals agains your partner body. is it pleasurable? of course. Now, Scissoring, as we see it in porn, is a bit like a kamasutra position. it's fun to try, but it's not for everyone. i've tried it the way it's picture in porn. it's really hard on the hips and the abs. it's fun, but it's hard and exsausting.

now scissoring in the large term is much easier and as pleasurable. why tring to do this really hard position ? hey missionary between two girls work just as well you know. or instead of trying to rub a very tiny part of your body one another very tiny part of the other body, rub it against her leg, or arm, or anywhere. it's not just one position, one spot on the body.

pretty much this.

also its prone to giving you leg crap i found

 

[Silentpony_v1legacy]

This should be in the wild west

but isn't' the ol' west primarily for dank meme and porn?

 

[Silentpony_v1legacy]

This should be in the wild west

Maybe some of us poor peasants can't afford the wild west, hmm?

Apparently only the fanciest and best of all the Escapers got free Premium accounts back in the day that one time. So those who pay are chumps, those who never even made it are losers and the rest are simply homeless because they never paid for it.

 

[Saelune]

This should be in the wild west

Maybe some of us poor peasants can't afford the wild west, hmm?

Apparently only the fanciest and best of all the Escapers got free Premium accounts back in the day that one time. So those who pay are chumps, those who never even made it are losers and the rest are simply homeless because they never paid for it.

*People with good forum health. You both are apparently not so nice all the time. Tsk tsk.

That said, the WW isn't worth it.

 

[Ender910_v1legacy]

It's fake.

There are so many more effective ways we women can please eachother at the same time.

Lesbians have been around for millenia, but "sizzoring" has only existed for the last few years. It was probably invented for porn to be more visually appealing for heterosexual men.

Given how some people are both inventive and enjoy experimenting with their sexual techniques, I wouldn't necessarily say porn "invented" the idea. Popularized maybe, but I wouldn't be surprised if it's something at least a few couples had toyed around with long before it ever hit the porn industry.

I'd generally written off the whole thing as completely silly until I ran across a few illustrated examples a couple years ago, depicting a position or two that seemed a bit more feasible/comfortable. It's still a very terribly portrayed sort of technique though, and I can't really verify anything with first-hand experience.

 

[Chimpzy_v1legacy]

It's fake.

There are so many more effective ways we women can please eachother at the same time.

Lesbians have been around for millenia, but "sizzoring" has only existed for the last few years. It was probably invented for porn to be more visually appealing for heterosexual men.

Given how some people are both inventive and enjoy experimenting with their sexual techniques, I wouldn't necessarily say porn "invented" the idea. Popularized maybe, but I wouldn't be surprised if it's something at least a few couples had toyed around with long before it ever hit the porn industry.

I'm pretty sure they did. In fact, I'd go so far as saying every possibly way humans can currently[footnote]Because technology marches on and you never know when some gizmo comes along that opens new avenues for sexual experimentation.[/footnote] bugger themselves or each other has been thoroughly explored.

 

[bastardofmelbourne]

I've heard about it second-hand (gay sister), so it seems to be a thing. Though it doesn't seem to be parallel, where your foot is in their face, for reasons that should be obvious if they've ever seen a woman have an orgasm. Even when I see it in porn it's mostly one woman humping the other woman's leg.

It's one of those things, like, er, aggressive manual stimulation [sub](fisting)[/sub] that seems like it can't possibly be fun and it must have been invented for porn and then you meet someone who's like "no, yeah, I've done that," and you briefly lose muscle control in your jaw.

Guys can do it too, mind. It's really just rubbing your bits up against some other bit.

Lesbians have been around for millenia, but "sizzoring" has only existed for the last few years. It was probably invented for porn to be more visually appealing for heterosexual men.

Tribadism, which is an umbrella term for scissoring (as linked by Dizchu) is actually a very, very old word. As old as "lesbian," in fact; they're both Greek.

 

[happyninja42]

Let me explain. Scissoring is basically the action of rubbing your genitals agains your partner body.

Apparently not, as that term is referring to a specific position, and so am I. The general term is something else, Tribadism I think it was from that article? Scissoring is referring to one specific position. I'm not asking "So do you lesbians rub your vagina's together?" I'm asking about that very specific position, of the entwined legs, that is specifically referred to as "scissoring", because the women's legs look like they are a pair of scissors. I'm well aware that lesbians engage in genital to genital sex, it's the "scissoring" position that I am questioning the validity of in real world sex, versus porn sex, and pop culture representations of lesbian sex.

is it pleasurable? of course.

...well duh, I didn't ask that. Personally I would find it bizarre if rubbing genitals, including 2 clitorises...clitori, whatever, didn't feel good.

Now, Scissoring, as we see it in porn, is a bit like a kamasutra position. it's fun to try, but it's not for everyone. i've tried it the way it's picture in porn. it's really hard on the hips and the abs. it's fun, but it's hard and exsausting.

So then, in the every day, regular sex you would have with your partner, you would likely not pick that position, over say, the missionary or other less strenuous positions. Easier positions where you get more bang for your buck (yes pun intended). That's the kind of response I was looking for, thank you.

now scissoring in the large term is much easier and as pleasurable.

That's just it though, I've never heard anyone use the term scissoring in any "larger context". It's specifically talking about that one position, at least when used in pop culture usage/porn. As I'm not a member of the lesbian community, I can only go off what pop culture describes, hence why I asked.

why tring to do this really hard position ?

I don't know, you tell me. That's why I asked in the first place. Because it seemed to be 1: Impractical, 2: Ineffective 3: More work when more comfortable positions would likely provide more pleasure.

hey missionary between two girls work just as well you know.

Yes, which is why I asked why anyone would bother trying that really awkward, uncomfortable position in the first place.

or instead of trying to rub a very tiny part of your body one another very tiny part of the other body, rub it against her leg, or arm, or anywhere. it's not just one position, one spot on the body.

At what point did I give you the impression that I thought this was the only position lesbians have sex? I was asking a specific question about one specific position, and whether or not it was actually something that was commonly practiced, by the people depicted doing it. I made no comment at all on the act of lesbian sex in general, or the other various positions that might be employed.

I had one question, about one position, that's it. Seems like a pretty specific topic, not sure why you are derailing it to try and educate me that lesbians enjoy their entire bodies. I know that, I didn't ask that.

 

[Silentpony_v1legacy]

SNIP

Pfft. I am the second nicest person on the entire Escapist, and everyone knows it.

 

[Thaluikhain]

Or is it in the realm of the "donkey punch" of sexual acts, in that it only exists as an urban myth on the internet?

Eh, surely there's no such thing as an urban myth sex act? I mean, you can make up any weird sex act, and if it becomes well-known, some people will try it and there will be some that enjoy it. People have read about the donkey punch online and tried it for reals, despite all the reasons not to, something harmless like scissoring must be more common.

 

[Terminal Blue]

As with many things in life you have to separate what people do at home from what people do in porn. A lot of stuff people do in porn doesn't actually work as sex because porn is a visual medium and it's all about what looks sexy and exciting, not what actually is. This is especially true when it comes to things which are supposed to be pleasurable for women. Never trust porn in that regard.

The whole thing makes far more sense when you start considering that primary source of stimulation in that position comes from the partner's thigh, not from their genitals. Direct clitoral stimulation is something porn thinks is amazing but generally kind of isn't, or at least has to be carefully worked up to. In reality, "scissoring" is actually not a very visually exciting position, because everything is covered by legs. I also don't see how it could be strenuous unless you're trying to do something acrobatic, in fact it allows both partners to lie unsupported, which is important because some people need that to get off.

Also, while most lesbians do not use dildos, some do, and it's quite a natural position for some sex toys.