"Wait, you like a fat chick?"

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Uggghhh, sometimes I hate people.
Anyway, I guess the best way to make you understand this situation is to start from the begining- sort of...
Alrighty, so a bit over a year ago I met this amazing girl, I've liked her pretty much sense I met her. So yadda yadda yadda, no point in chasing her, I've got no chance, another year of my life wasted- No big deal.

So, for these past couple months I've had to deal with huge amounts of depression, a good way to get it off my mind is girls. So, to not be totally consumed by the bleak void in my soul, I've began exploring other options, per say, and someone I am finding increasingly attractive is one of my friends from my freshman year. She was always very nice, very friendly, and just an enjoyable person to be around. I wasn't able to talk to her that much this year, we didn't have any classes together, and rarely saw eachother in the halls. But anyway, for some reason my brain is suddenly deciding to click and tell me she's attractive.

My problem isn't getting to know her again or anything- Infact, this thread isn't about relationships at all. No no no, this is for another purpose.

One of my "Friends" (I highly doubt I will concider them one after this) who has been pressuring me to find someone knew asked me if I found anyone, I told them her, and he gave me the most retarded look I have ever seen. He then stated "Dude, how can you like a fat chick?"

Alright, another part that needs explination is the fact that, yes, she has gained a conciderable amount of weight from a few years ago, but she isn't really "Fat".

This person truely made me angry with that statement, and I calmly replied "Yeah, is there a problem with that?"
His response "Fuck yeah, fat girls can't have boyfriends, that's just sick"
Resisting the urge to come to his house and punch him in the face, I simply stopped replying to his texts.
I asked some of my other friends about this, and most of them didn't care/mind the fact, but there were a select few who took the same attidude as him.

I get it, this guy and my "Friends" who agreed with him are just asshats, I plan to avoid them from now on, but my question to you is this, forum

What the fuck? Is there really a problem with what people find attractive? Is there really a problem with finding a girl who isn't completely skinny attractive? Why does society drive us in such stupid ways?

 

[ReadyAmyFire]

I don't see why they should care. If she is fat, and that's your bag, there's nothing odd about that, I see it all the time. I had a boyfriend when I was a bit bigger, there wasn't anything sick about that.

 

[Jonluw]

Most people generally don't care who other people find attractive.

However, the norm is that skinny = attractive, and people are generally surprised when one of their friends deviates from the norm.

Your friend goes past that initial surprise and argues that "fat chicks can't have boyfriends". That's just really weird.
I could see myself going "Wait what? How? Why?" if a person I knew exclusively liked obese people, but finding a person who happens to be overweight attractive really isn't weird at all.

 

[Phasmal]

Your friend is just massively stupid.
Know who shouldn't date? Morons who think like that.

Just keep doing what you want (and perhaps wonder how you became friends with an idiot like that).

If its not `normal`, people wont shut up about it.
I still occasionally get people (acquaintances) saying my boyfriend might have been dangerous because I met him on the internet. We met three years ago. Hell, one person I knew insisted he still might be dodgy, she'd never even met him.

 

[Colour Scientist]

I wonder what he thinks is "too fat" to have a boyfriend? Does he think the same about girls dating fat guys?

It's a disgusting, immature attitude to have, I wouldn't pay too much attention to it.

 

[Relish in Chaos]

People should be able to like what they like, as long as, I dunno, it doesn't harm anyone. If you like Ed, Edd 'n Eddy when you're 27, that's fine. If you're a woman who likes having sex with multiple people, that's fine. If you like "fat chicks" (although it sounds like the woman you're talking about just has a little bit of extra weight), that's fine. Anyone that says otherwise is a bastard.

 

[Limecake]

it changes after high-school, I noticed the same sort of attitude when I was in high school (I even shared it somewhat) but it shouldn't bother you to like who you like, I've met some amazingly beautiful 'bigger girls' and they tend to actually have a personality instead of some phony "Everyone likes me because I'm skinny" attitude.

I find the whole question "How can you like a fat girl?" ridiculous, their standards of beauty don't apply to you so don't listen to them. Just go for whoever interests you.

I know a ton of guys who claim to be 'chubby chasers'. In fact I listened to a Howard Stern interview with the wrestler John Cena

Spoiler

Where he talked about going home with a 300 pound girl he met at the bar, he did it willingly and he said he even enjoyed it

and if Cena is cool with it I don't see how your average joe has any right to make fun of someone for it.

 

[jackpackage200]

Kudos to you OP for understanding that appearance is not everything.

If you like her, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

 

[Wolfram23]

Meh, they're obviously stupid and shallow. One of my best friends is really into larger chicks. Not 300lbs girls, but decidedly overweight with, as he said once "more cushion for the pushin". I'm not into the bigger girls so whatevs, but I mean I've met several girls he's been seeing and they are generally all very nice and I can definitely see why he likes them.

It's a bit funny though just because my friend is like, 150 lbs tops.

 

[Z of the Na'vi]

Who gives a rat's ass what your "friend" thinks as long as you two are happy together?

 

[zelda2fanboy]

Yeah, that's just weird that there's any judgment from a perceived friend. What if you told him you were gay?

A few threads back, an overweight fellow came out of the woodwork accusing me of being a monster for saying that I like to date fat girls, while being in fairly good shape myself. He was convinced I was saying something to the effect of "fat girls are easy and I like to use them for sex," that I "viewed myself as a saint for giving them 'pity,'" or that "I just date fat girls because no else will date me." Strangely, the latter thought-process is probably what helped destroy some previous relationships. People don't seem to see the inherent appeal, including overweight people. I like chunky women. I like feeling really physically attractive to someone else (even if such a narrative is make believe). I like that they're bigger than me. They often have bigger boobs, while being all warm and cuddly. I'm sure there are benefits to being with skinny girls and if I ever am, I'll be sure to make note of them.

But yes, if there is a significant physical disparity between you and said girl, it could potentially cause some relationship issues down the line in part due to the bullshit society attaches to weight. I wish I had some helpful tips to avoid such pitfalls, but alas, I don't. Whatever you do, don't tell her anything your "friends" had to say on the subject.

 

[Pinkamena]

That's just fucking stupid. I think girls with a bit of fat on their bones look way more attractive than skinny girls.

 

[MammothBlade]

Your friend is stupid. Maybe give him some sort of ironic punishment, such as making a lovely 300lb girl sit on him.

Being fat is a health risk. Doesn't matter if you're "comfortable" or a "real woman" or think you're a "healthy size". You risk health problems. So NO DEAR SILLY ESCAPISTS, BEING FAT IS NOT A PERFECTLY FINE THING TO BE.

That said, your friend is a huge douche and you shouldn't be friends with him anymore.



CAPTCHA: against the grain

Your reaction smacks of hysteria. Wrong, girls can be fat and healthy.

 

[dudycat1]

i think that it anyone can choose who they want to go out with, from average to size zero and to overweight people, it's completely your own choice who you want to go out with, so don't listen to your 'friend' as is not you in anyway and everyone is different.

 

[Biodeamon]

as long as you love her it's fine...

i've seen worse things people have been attracted to, like napoeon's love for smely women.
in one loving letter he wrote to his wife:
"back in a few weeks, don't bathe"

 

[Helmholtz Watson]

Being fat is a health risk. Doesn't matter if you're "comfortable" or a "real woman" or think you're a "healthy size". You risk health problems. So NO DEAR SILLY ESCAPISTS, BEING FAT IS NOT A PERFECTLY FINE THING TO BE.

My god, this! A thousand times this!

That said,.....
I get where your friend is coming from, I think they are just looking out for you.