Wedding Planning Politics

[marlongill]

I am currently planning my wedding and everything is going exceptionally well, but now we are at the stage where we are finalising invitations and it is becoming a huge headache! Is it just me, or are the politics of who you should invite the worst part of wedding planning?

You know the sort of thing: "If I invite uncle Jack, I can't invite Auntie Jill because they don't get on. If I invite this person, I have to invite the other person because they will be offended otherwise".

Add to this a limit to the number of people you are allowed to invite imposed by the venue, and you have the recipe for a major heakf**k!

Any thoughts/advice my escapist friends?

Kaptcha: Heebie Jeebies. Too right my semmingly sentient friend, too right!

 

[Daystar Clarion]

Indeed.

Me and my fiancee have discussed the same issue.

My family is tiny compared to hers, so we've decided all our friends will be sitting on my side.

As for who's my best man?

Well, I'll let them decide amongst themselves

I'm thinking, a fight to the death.

 

[Prince Regent]

My parents just went to get married one day and then the civil servant told them that it would be free the next day (some government policy). So they married the day after that. So no wedding invitations, wedding dress (or an actual wedding for that matter) no politics and no drama.
A very cheap and practical solution to an annoying problem.

 

[Dags90]

I went through the same issues with a graduation party.

One solution is the "destination wedding". You put the wedding somewhere that requires a fair bit of travel. Then you can invite everyone knowing that most of them won't show and it'll be a much more intimate affair. Plus if you go somewhere like Hawaii, you can have your honeymoon right there.

 

[IndomitableSam]

BBQ in the backyard, whoever shows up can. If people act poorly, tell them to leave and explain that they are being terribly inapporpriate and are not welcome until they decide to act properly.

... In all honesty, family can suck up their problems for a few hours. Just don't seat them together. Best to mix up bride and groom tables through the hall (or wherever) so it gives people the chance to meet each other and mingle. And have a few family members/friends prepared to escort people out if they can't be adults on such an important day.

 

[The .50 Caliber Cow]

Family politics are the best politics.

"MOM SHOULD BE IN A HOME!"

"HOW CAN YOU SAY THAT?"

"DOESN'T ANYONE CARE WHAT I THINK?"

Yup. The family I'm living with is fighting over this almost everyday. Good thing rent is cheap...

Anyway, this will never apply to me because I don't think I'm the type of person who's allowed in a church.

[sub]Moo! [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f9iIgQN5uZE][/sub]

 

[DrRockor]

to avoid stuff like that my uncle just went to Vegas with a few friends. Seems like a good idea to me.
If someone asks why they weren't invited just say no one was, what makes you so special. I do hate almost my entire family though so I don't really care if they hate me

 

[Screamarie]

I doubt I'll ever get married, but if your worried about inviting Auntie Jill and Uncle Jack...don't invite either is what I would do. Or invite them both and if they get in a row, kick 'em out.

Honestly though, that's why I think if I ever do get married, it will be small and immediate family only and a couple of friends. I don't see the point in feeding 100+ people just so they can see me say "I do" and then make snarky comments about my husband or my wedding when I'm not around.

 

[Worgen]

My parents just went to get married one day and then the civil servant told them that it would be free the next day (some government policy). So they married the day after that. So no wedding invitations, wedding dress (or an actual wedding for that matter) no politics and no drama.
A very cheap and practical solution to an annoying problem.

My parents did that also, my friend almost did something similar with his girl friend, they thought about just driving to Vegas to be married by Elvis but decided the family would disown them or something so they had a somewhat intimate small to mid-sized, I guess, wedding at a... place... next to a river.... that had just come back from being renovated so it was cheap, it wasn't a hotel, it was like a series of cabins.

 

[sniddy_v1legacy]

OK it's too late but my wedding speech planned to include the following advise to any would be stag

Elope

It's the best way IMHO

Now you're stuck in this one - it's complete mess and I wish you all the best

 

[applesandoranges]

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[The Funslinger]

I'm thinking, a fight to the death.

I advocate this choice. If there are no survivors, DIBS!

OT: It's at times like this I enjoy being a Sociopath. If I get shit like this on my Wedding, I'll just be like "you weren't invited to my wedding because I didn't feel like having you there. Now fuck off."

 

[Palademon]

I have the same problems balancing a Yu-gi-oh deck v.v

Well, at least you can be happy to be getting married.

 

[templar1138a]

It's your wedding, not theirs. It's your special day. Bottom line: Don't invite anyone you think has a significant chance of making it a bad or stressful day.

 

[Tuesday Night Fever]

My parents just went to get married one day and then the civil servant told them that it would be free the next day (some government policy). So they married the day after that. So no wedding invitations, wedding dress (or an actual wedding for that matter) no politics and no drama.
A very cheap and practical solution to an annoying problem.

That's what we did.

My older sister got married before we did, so we used my sister's wedding to see what we should expect with regard to drama and expenditures. We both agreed that a traditional wedding is way too much of a headache, and most definitely not worth the ridiculous amount of money that it'd cost. So, we went with the cheap and practical solution quoted above (more or less), then agreed to put the money toward a house instead. Win-win, no regrets.

 

[zumbledum]

take all the money this is going to cost, run away with it get married on some tropical beach