what age can you have a serious, deep relationship?

[The_Chief]

i ask because me and my ex were talking, cuz were still friends, and she said "damn i need to hook up with someone." so naturally i came back with, "no you dont." then we got into an argument on how your first kiss should be special and meaningful and not an excuse to say "i hooked up with someone yay me." so i ask the escapians. what do you think?

Edit: ok this girl friend broke up with me 4 times before this final time we tried "us". she broke up with me because im a nerd. she says she wants to because she wants experience.

 

[Lios]

Depends on your personality. Hell a couple of 12 year-olds could have a more serious relationship than adults at times.

 

[sneakypenguin]

First kiss is "hooking up"???

 

[quiet_samurai]

30 no younger.

 

[Avatar Roku]

Depends on your personality. Hell a couple of 12 year-olds could have a more serious relationship than adults at times.

I'd be willing to believe that, especially since sex likely doesn't even enter the equation (although, by the same rite, they may still be at the "they have cooties" stage). Seriously though, kids form emotional bonds easily.

 

[Novacain4862]

im 16 and i have a serious relationship

 

[Marble Dragon]

Depends on your personality. Hell a couple of 12 year-olds could have a more serious relationship than adults at times.

I pretty much agree with this. Some adults aren't smart about relationships at all. Some adults are kind, deep people. Others date for sex. That's not to say that sixteen year olds don't, (they probably do, I wouldn't know,) but it proves that a serious, deep relationship depends more on the development of your social skills and your personality than on an age.

 

[ExaltedK9]

I guess everyone becomes ready for a relationship at different times, the standard age for kids to start getting into anything serious would be about 17 or 18.

 

[jim_doki]

ive had a total of 6 serious relationships including my current one (which is only turning into serious). at 16 you're gonna get hurt, but at 18 you'll be better for getting hurt at 16

 

[ix_tab]

Depends on the emotional and mental maturity of the people involved. But generally, once you get past the serious rush of hormones and growing that is adolescence, relationships tend to be more 'serious'.

Then again, you may be more emotionally involved in the relationship when you are an adolescent because of said hormones.

 

[New Troll]

As Chef from South Park said "17".

In these times, 17 sounds like a good number. Unless of course you're one of my kids, then it's 25.

Personally, I'd at least wait till you're out of high school just to make sure you're "hooking up" for the right reasons.

 

[Brotherofwill]

Depends on your personality. Hell a couple of 12 year-olds could have a more serious relationship than adults at times.

That's what they all say, and then they are pregnant.

 

[duckfi8]

im 18 and I am in a serious relationship and it isn't that fun honestly, because she gets mad at me when I go out and get drunk, also it doesn't help when she goes to school from another state.

 

[Simriel]

Its more about the emotional maturity of those involved, than a generic number. But if you force me I would say about 16-17

 

[twistedshadows]

There are psychological studies proving that decision making capabilities aren't mature until a person's early twenties. I'd say that being in a mature, serious relationship requires decisions making capabilities. Obviously people can be in relationships (and happily so) before that age, I'm just not sure that they are generally "serious" or work out in the long run.

 

[Lios]

Depends on your personality. Hell a couple of 12 year-olds could have a more serious relationship than adults at times.

That's what they all say, and then they are pregnant.

Sex does not have to be a part of a relationship.

 

[Novacain4862]

im 16 and i have a serious relationship

Lets see if you still think it was serious when you are 25.

Yea, cause we've been going out for a year now, steady, no problems as of yet. Don't be so pessimistic