What is Love, really?

[Project_Omega]

You see over the last 1.3 years I have been deeply in love with a woman, she had her issues (being disabled in physical way, though her mind was brilliant) but I assured her that I would not leave her just because she is that way, I stood by her side at all times when she needed me. When her cat died, I volounteered to dig a grave, when she had a hospital appointment I was there with her, when her grandmother was in hospital I was there, when her abusive father came to visit I was there to hold her hand. We had lovely plans for the future, she was afraid of not affording university and not being able to go at all. I offered to give her the money, share some of the university money my grandad was meant to give me while insuring her its going to be okay. I gave up my friends, even my bestest friend, volountarily.

I suddenly fell into a depression, I do not know why I became so, I am speaking to a Psychiatrist to sort it out. I became weak both mentally and physically, I couldnt concentrate and all things like that. I took some anti-depression drugs which made me worse at the beggining and making me cold toward my love, I fought the feeling, tried to explain it to my beloved one as well. I thought of attempting suicide at a couple of times, falling in front of a train I took everyday. I decided to give up the drug, figuring out that this was the reason of my 'numbness' and I did. Slowly I reduced them and had strong enough will to stay off them, even during hard moments during college and returning feeling of doom and hopelessness. My depression made me think I do not love her anymore, while I stayed stubborn enough to know that I do. After I came off them I knew I loved her and felt it in my heart again. She said she does not want to take care of people, having to take care of her grandmother, being forced to in a way (but, dont we all have a choice?).

Now her also being in depression, her taking the anti-depression drugs she.... left me.... dumped me like an insignificant piece of rubbish. Over the phone, in a form of a text message. Out of all ways, letter, telegraph, bottled or even pigeon carrier. I shattered like a piece of glass, in shock at first, not even believing it happened at first. My friends that I have reunioned with have sided with me, volountarily, I have not asked them a single thing nor to break their connections to my once loved one. They have comoforted me and still do, as I am thinking I am falling into a depression yet again. However comforting my friends and family are, theres... theres something missing....

And now that you know my story, I am asking you this question....

...What is love...
...and is it worth it...

 

[rokkolpo]

A chemical reaction made for the purpose of keeping people together...?

I dunno, that's what this hopelessly romantic friend of mine keeps telling me.

EDIT: I forgot your other question, and yes!
Love is always worth it, but love is not the only thing worth giving for.

Friends are family are things you should never forget.

 

[lacktheknack]

A. No one really knows what the hell love is.
B. Yes, it can be worth it. Sometimes it isn't, sometimes it is.

 

[Drakmeire]

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sorry couldn't resist.
It's basically just a chemical reaction to hormones and personality that gives a large amount of euphoria in the brain. the only thing that comes close is the number of chemicals that are used when you have a child, the same areas of the brain activate and produce many chemicals causing the feeling of love.

 

[Yomandude]

*Insert Haddaway reference here*
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jpN60KKBAjc&ob=av3em
Eleanor Lamb once said that love is just a chemical (or a series of hormones, actually, but she's a videogame character, so whatever), and that we give it meaning by choice. You've been chosen for romantic abandonment, and now you have to choose a new path to pave. We can't give you advice on how to live your life. Only the higher powers can do that.

 

[Reaver3]

i was gonna do a Haddaway joke, but nvm

 

[Yomandude]

i was gonna do a Haddaway joke, but nvm

Heehee... ninja'd.

You've been drinking again haven't you?

Is that really necessary?

 

[IBlackKiteI]

Love is (usually) just human horniness disguised by multiple layers of supposed meaning and depth, fooling the individual into thinking that they are more than a simple animal.

Sometimes it isn't and two people may want each other for more than the obvious, but that is damn rare.

 

[Rakkana]

A chemical reaction made for the purpose of keeping people together...?

I dunno, that's what this hopelessly romantic friend of mine keeps telling me.

Albert Einstein
"How on earth are you ever going to explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love?"

 

[El Poncho]

That's horrible. I don't think I can say anything other than if you have the willpower to keep on going for someone else, you have the will power to keep on going for yourself.

Love, I guess it's a tricky thing, getting thrown about, losing it's meaning.

Love brings you the best moments of your life, when your with that special someone, it's probably one of the best feelings you can have, however all those moments can be ripped away with a few words, it all becomes meaningless and becomes one of the worst moments.

So is it worth it?

Can't possibly say.

[small] Didn't answer the question, damn >.< [/small]

 

[Lyx]

Love is a lot of different things with different "twists" summarized together in one word, where the only common aspect of all those things, is sympathy/attraction/liking something.

One may ask if the subset of love you experienced "is worth it" - but that would not be the same, as judging everything that may be called "love".

 

[Hoplon]

What is any thought? any action if it isn't a electro-chemical impulse in your brain first?

All of the emotion are difficult to define, any simple answer will invariably be wrong for one or more aspects.

From what you describe it was a co dependent emotionally abusive relationship anyway, you are well out of it.

 

[SwishiestB0g]

Love is what you make of it my friend.
If you decide love is a fictitious thing that humanity has created in order to make ourselves seem more unique than animals, then that is what love is to you.

Sure it's a chemical and hormonal reaction in your brain but the term love is a very human thing. No one knows what love is because it's different to everyone. I for one believe that it is a state of mind, such as joy and depression. Having gone through a very similar experience, I can still say that love is to me, what the sun is to the flower. You need it, you want it and it is a driving force for everyone. Whether it's a love of money, power or a person, it drives us all in one way or another.

 

[Project_Omega]

maybe... but only little cider.

 

[Dreiko_v1legacy]

Love is a kind of madness. We suspend logic and facts cause we feel a certain way.


Not suspending logic for love is more harmful to your being than actually doing just that, so it all works out in the end, though it IS a situation of picking the lesser of two evils.

 

[Project_Omega]

Love is a kind of madness. We suspend logic and facts cause we feel a certain way.


Not suspending logic for love is more harmful to your being than actually doing just that, so it all works out in the end, though it IS a situation of picking the lesser of two evils.

Madness? THIS IS .... errmm.... I forgot the word....

 

[Lyx]

Love is a kind of madness. We suspend logic and facts cause we feel a certain way.


Not suspending logic for love is more harmful to your being than actually doing just that, so it all works out in the end, though it IS a situation of picking the lesser of two evils.

Please don't say "we", when what you mean is "i" or "many people". Love can be perfectly in sync with logical conclusions - but for this, it's necessary to understand some things first. Among those things, is noticing that the popular ideal of "how" love is supposed to be like, is a highly contradictory one.... no wonder that it collides with logic. Thing is: It doesn't have to work that way.

 

[Dreiko_v1legacy]

Love is a kind of madness. We suspend logic and facts cause we feel a certain way.


Not suspending logic for love is more harmful to your being than actually doing just that, so it all works out in the end, though it IS a situation of picking the lesser of two evils.

Madness? THIS IS .... errmm.... I forgot the word....

Sparta, you're actually talking to a Greek person btw so nice timing lol.