What should I do? A relationship advice thread

[Spartan X1]

I just recently got into my second, what I would call real relationship at the start of my second year of college. Everything was okay the first two weeks but this week I've noticed we've had a few problems with us both being upset and they mainly revolve around my gaming habits. See it seems everytime I want to play games or try to have her play games she gets upset with me. I feel this is slightly unfair since we do everything she wants to do. Also I'm a pretty avid gamer and I know that relationships out weigh games anyday but I came from gaming all the time to barely any now. To make things better we barely share any of the same interest me being a gamer/anime dude and her being a sority devoute sports fanatic. So any ideas escapist on this, any advice to give. Also she recently told me she found out one of my friends had a slight crush on her and as I was playing games cause I convinced her to come hang with me, she took off with him. Currrently waiting for her to come back.

 

[lettucethesallad]

This girl really doesn't seem to be worth your time. Running off with some other guy to make you jealous and/or pursuing a relationship with that person shows how immature she is. She's not getting her way by just talking to you, so she's using other methods to get you to do what she wants. I wouldn't touch her with a ten-foot pole.

If you on the other hand are still interested in this girl (although her behaviour being such a turn-off, this doesn't seem plausible), have you talked to her about this? Has she told you why she's upset about you gaming? Have you told her that you might not want to do sports things as often as she does? Have you even discussed the fact that you don't have to do everything together all the time? Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean that you're joined at the hip.

 

[SckizoBoy]

Mmmm, yeah, I can see where she's already made it clear that she's not going to bother putting in the effort even if you are. Break it off now, because you can do better.

Other than that, I agree wholeheartedly with the good Ms Lettuce.

 

[Lvl 64 Klutz]

The best approach to any relationship is to be straightforward. If she asks you to do something you don't want to do, tell her that. Relationships can and do work between two people with no similar interests, but it's not very often and the amount of polarization it sounds like there is here is not a healthy thing. It may be time to admit that the two of you are part of two separate worlds.

 

[Zaverexus]

Mmmm, yeah, I can see where she's already made it clear that she's not going to bother putting in the effort even if you are. Break it off now, because you can do better.

This is pretty much all there is to be said.
While it sucks to break off a relationship, if it doesn't work it is worse to keep up the farce and let her use you.

 

[LiraelG]

The fact she won't attempt to show an interest in something you're passionate about doesn't bode well at all. Being in a relationship is about balance and exploration. You have to balance the time spent on one another's interests, and balance the time spent together and alone.

Furthermore, I believe it is important to show an interest in your partners interests. Getting involved in something new because your partner is passionate about it helps build a connection. I ASKED my boyfriend if we could go to Reading Festival, even though I had never been to a festival before because I thought I'd hate it. I loved it. Additionally, I encouraged him to get tickets (I paid for mine because I think that's fair) to the cricket which he loves so that I could see what cricket was like; I didn't bother with cricket before, and my Dad has always followed it.

This girl isn't worth the trouble. She's selfish and immature. You really can to better...