What should I do about it?

[Jape Corbel]

So, let me explain.

I am not so skilled when it comes to dealing with people (I will not whine about it however cause I know how much you guys hate it) and I've been, let's say, adopted by very warm-hearted group of people. I feel great with them and at the end of the week the thought that they are there helps me cope with life and stuff.

Now the name of this group is "KSM" which roughly translates from polish to english as "Catholic Association of Youth" (Something like YMCA but not quite) and it is very much bound to Catholicism, I, on the other hand am not catholic but rather an agnostic.

And my dillema: They don't know that I'm not a believer (You could say that I lied, but that's not really true) and I feel kind of bad for fooling them all this time. I know that if I were to reveal my "true nature" I would have to leave and become a lonely outsider again.

So, yeah. Any thoughts?

 

[Lionsfan]

Did you lie by omission to them? Just curious about that.

Second, maybe you can hang out with some of them, but without group activites?

 

[Jape Corbel]

Yeah, I guess you could say that.

I'm not sure if I'm capable of it, as I said before I'm socially inept a bit. I know it sounds silly but maybe you could provide with some tips on how to do that?

 

[Pandalisk]

A lot of the social groups around my parts are run by catholic groups and i was apart of one for a while even though unlike you i'm "atheist". The groups were more about a warm youth environment of fun people with a slice of Christianity on the side. Is the general theme you sense in your group religion first friends and universal togetherness second?.

I wouldn't worry to much about it, after all your agnostic, your not in any camp, if you feel pressured to give them an answer on where you stand why not simply say your still searching yourself for the answer and you being part of this group is apart of your search for the answer? Why do you feel that being christian is a requirement? is it the general feel of the place? why is it you think you'll be ostracized for essentially just not able to make up your mind yet or just choosing not to?

My old group was well aware of my views but they were no less open and didn't mind when i questioned this or that when we all got together after some rare seminars we went to on faith, in fact some of them kept asking what i thought about this or that. The priests themselves didn't seem to mind either.

Honestly i think your over-thinking it too much, is there someone at "KSM" your particularly close to? someone you feel you could talk to in confidence?

I don't think the reasons for joining a group should be requirement unless your aim is just to piss everybody off (which its not in your case clearly). Hell i only joined this christian youth group because my towns Youth Center was full of arseholes and i didn't really find the sense of inclusion i was looking for there. All in all my experience didn't change my views on religion or God but i think it made me a whole lot more understanding.

Point of note: i wasn't the only non-christian there, there were a few who were called themselves agnostic as well and the group was no less inclusive

Short Version: I don't think your belief in the religion is required so long as your respectful and seek the warmth of that community. Secondly, your agnostic, i don't think a Youth group, even a christian one would turn away someone who wants to be included simply because there not sure on the issue. If anything the heads of the group should be encouraging as they'd want to get people such as yourself a taste of their point of view on life. Chill and enjoy the company you enjoy.