Whats worse emotional cheating or physical?

[Mr. Google]

Would you be more angry if your significant other cheated on you by having sex with some one or by emotionally investing in them. I have to say emotional is worse because physical is just human nature.

 

[erandure]

Emotions are just as much human nature as the physical, I would hope my partner would have the willpower to resist their urges if they really cared for me. However, I do think I would feel less betrayed if they cheated physically then immediately regretted it. If they invest emotionally I don't see how the relationship could be salvaged.

 

[Mr. Google]

Physical.

When you're in a relationship, especially over a significant amount of time, both parties are going to find themselves attracted to other people. Whether it's a very simple attraction such as finding that person physically attractive, to all out falling for them, emotions are completely uncontrollable in that respect. If one partner was to physically cheat however, I would count that as a lack of restraint. Emotions are far less easy to control than the desire for physical intimacy.

Also, why is this in the advice forum?

i dont know. accident im thinking of switching it.

 

[Abseith]

to me it all depends on how emotionally invested I am in the person themselves if I'm really emotionally invested I can look past physical cheating the first time as long as it is a one off but on the other hand if its just a bit of fun I don't give any second chance to physical or emotional cheating

 

[rutger5000]

I completely disagree a healthy human being has emotional bonds with many people, and if the emotional bond with his/her partner is not strong enough then he/she will strengthen others. On pure accident one of the bonds can get a bit too strong for comfort. It might be that this is the fault of both partners for not working hard enough on their relationship, but sometimes people just randomly really connect.
Physical cheating is just a choice. You choice to cheat on your partner, you choice to hurt him/her just to get your game on.
I would never demand from my partner that she/he would be closer to me then any other person, though when things get to a certain point I would demand being the only sexual partner.

 

[zombiesinc]

This is better suited to Off-topic, and as such, *click click*

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

Physical is worse. Everyone gets emotionally attached to others, it's bound to happen.

However, if physical cheating is involved, it essentially means that the person has not only emotionally attached themselves to someone, they have also chosen to physically pursue them, having decided that their relationship with you is worth compromising for this new person.

So yeah, Physical is worse.

 

[Jedoro]

Physical

Emotions aren't 100% under our control, but I believe actions are. If she likes someone else but stays with me, it's a choice that I'm more important to her. I'll never agree that mental or emotional investment is the same as a physical act.

 

[Zaverexus]

Both would suck.
The knowledge that someone is thinking something that can't be changed would tear me apart, whereas the action having been done can be simply solved with a clean break up.
So I guess emotional, I had never thought about that before

 

[Dys]

I can't imagine physical cheating being the least bit painful without an emotional betrayal, however an emotional betrayal hurts regardless....so I suppose an emotional cheat would be worse?

 

[Jaded Scribe]

Emotional. While we may have less control over our emotions, I don't consider basic crushes to be cheating. To me, emotional cheating is becoming seriously emotionally involved with another person on a substantial level.

This is controllable. When you catch yourself getting that close to someone, you pull back and establish boundaries.

Physical cheating is still bad, but it's driven by instinctual and primal urges that's easier to give up in a heated moment.

 

[The Seldom Seen Kid]

Physical.

When you're in a relationship, especially over a significant amount of time, both parties are going to find themselves attracted to other people. Whether it's a very simple attraction such as finding that person physically attractive, to all out falling for them, emotions are completely uncontrollable in that respect. If one partner was to physically cheat however, I would count that as a lack of restraint. Emotions are far less easy to control than the desire for physical intimacy.

Pretty much this, I really don't have anything to add other than what he said.

 

[aPod]

Rarely does physical cheating not involve emotional investments into their partners or a lack thereof.

Either the person is not invested enough into you or you into them that causes them to search out and find someone who can fulfill that need form them. Be it from neglect or boredom. They tend to look for someone who gives them that attention or that excitement that may be lacking in their relationship.

Which is worse?

Two halves of the same problem, it doesn't matter which is worse. Both of them mean there is a problem with this relationship.