Why are you hetero or homosexual?...

[TheSolemnHypnotic]

Please read. Do you think it would be better if people did not let gender affect their romantic interests and would you like to be able to become romantically involved with someone of the gender to which you are not attracted? I understand that we need some people to reproduce but, idk. If you were in a romantic relationship with some one but met some one else of the same/opposite gender who made you feel 100,000,000 times better/more loved/more cared for, you wouldn't consider them an option based on what's in their pants? Gender is a very flexible thing (feminine characteristics found in males, vice versa). Or do you think this theory is the result of being alone for so long and once I engage in socionormative behaviors I'll be able to see in more black and white than gray?

TLR: How is it you're only heterosexual/homosexual? Am I completely over looking/ undermining the physical/sexual attraction aspect of relationships?

Edit: No, I've never been in a romantic relationship. [I know nothing about sex].

Edit II: Why do people keep thinking I said sexuality is a choice? If you get that impression I clearly need to have my post beta'd.

Edit III: Turn your Auto-Defense off! I'm not trying to convert everyone into a bisexual.

Edit IV: Is there a way to turn the anger off in here?

Edit V: I KNOW FOR MOST PEOPLE SEXUALITY IS NOT A CHOICE.

Edit VI: There is no way I am the only 16-year-old who has never been in a relationship.

Edit VII: Perhaps I should lay off the threads. I suck.

 

[intheweeds]

There are many academics that believe sexuality is on a spectrum with super gay on one side and super straight on the other... You're describing anyone who isn't on either polar opposite. Most gays can find attractiveness in the opposite sex just as straight people can see it in same. Physical attractiveness is only one part though, I just can't seem to make the same romantic connection with men (i'm a lesbian), even though I might find them very attractive or very good friends. I believe (though straight or bisexual people could tell you for sure) that it is the same across the board.

I am certainly not about to become an 'ask-a-lesbian' to the whole world, but i really don't mind answering your PM questions if your curious.

 

[Dertex]

It's in our DNA, it isn't a choice, it's how we're 'programmed'

 

[MrStab]

Our mids read what they read and that's that, people that are bi-sexual see attractiveness and warrant in having a relationhip with both genders, gays in their own and straights in the opposite. We can just wake up one day and change that it's just the way we are.

 

[Stasisesque]

Please read. How is it that people are capable of just sticking to one gender of people?

Simple: it's who we are.

Sexuality is not a choice.

 

[ShindoL Shill]

bisexuality: "doubles your chance of getting a date on saturday night." woody allan.
for example, i am mostly attracted to women. but i'm attracted to some guys.

 

[Leon Last Lord Shyle]

There are people like that just without the sex cause even if you love a person without sex it isn't really a couple.

take me and my best friend nothing is ever gonna happen there but we have more companionship than I have ever had with anyone I've slept with so while these situations do exist without the sexual factor most of the time the chance for romance is non-existent and is left with the bromance/sismance dynamic.

I am certainly not about to become an 'ask-a-lesbian' to the whole world, but i really don't mind answering your PM questions if your curious.

Am I the only person surprised that they have not seen a television programme with this title?

 

[TheSolemnHypnotic]

Um...

Maybe I'm just reading your OP wrong but you seem to completely ignore the existence of bisexuality.

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to. It's just bisexuality seemed to make the most sense to me.

 

[TheSolemnHypnotic]

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to. It's just bisexuality seemed to make the most sense to me.

There is no sense to sexuality. Saying that one makes more sense over the other implies there is some kind of choice, which there is not. No sexuality is superior and none is inferior. People are what they are and that's all there is to it.

I do not articulate myself very well across these threads. What you said does make sense. What I should have said (because it is more accurate) is that I relate to bisexuality better.

 

[Brandon237]

Because that is how you are born, and genetically and socially conditioned. I cannot feel a romantic or sexual attraction to another guy, it doesn't work for me. For me a romantic relationship requires both a physical and emotional attraction, I can get both from a girl, but I only half of the one for a guy.

I do not articulate myself very well across these threads. What you said does make sense. What I should have said (because it is more accurate) is that I relate to bisexuality better.

If you can feel a sexual, physical attraction for both genders, then you most likely are bisexual, hence you can relate to it better, a homosexual or heterosexual person will also relate to their stance more easily, it is human nature.

EDIT: I felt my diagram needs to be visible a little sooner, so I am also putting it on this page, I did not think to just edit this post, my bad.

 

[Badong]

Well, one's sexual orientation is always encoded in the genes. External factors just affect how much it is shown in the actions of the individual; one might be genetically homosexual, but since one perceives heterosexuality as the societal norm, one subconsciously suppresses homosexual tendencies in favor of acting out heterosexual ones.

In other words, sexual orientation can be seen as a continuum.

 

[Rascarin]

I'm a lesbian. My partner recently shaved their head, and being an already masculine person, it made them look like a boy. It made me very uncomfortable, to the point I could hardly bear to hug them, let alone kiss or anything more intimate. You need attraction to have that level of physical intimacy that comes with a relationship.

 

[intheweeds]

There are people like that just without the sex cause even if you love a person without sex it isn't really a couple.

take me and my best friend nothing is ever gonna happen there but we have more companionship than I have ever had with anyone I've slept with so while these situations do exist without the sexual factor most of the time the chance for romance is non-existent and is left with the bromance/sismance dynamic.

I am certainly not about to become an 'ask-a-lesbian' to the whole world, but i really don't mind answering your PM questions if your curious.

Am I the only person surprised that they have not seen a television programme with this title?

haha! maybe not a television programme, but 'ask-a-(insert-sexuality-here)' threads are fairly common here and i didn't want to start a new one

 

[Togs]

Because Im just not attracted to guys in the way Im attracted to women, Ive had crushes on guys in the past but its never been a sexual thing, more like "OMG your awesome, hopefully if I hang round you enough some of it will rub off on me".

Gotta say your self righteous, hipsterish "Im alt" OP is actually laughable.

 

[Jazzeki]

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to. It's just bisexuality seemed to make the most sense to me.

There is no sense to sexuality. Saying that one makes more sense over the other implies there is some kind of choice, which there is not. No sexuality is superior and none is inferior. People are what they are and that's all there is to it.

I do not articulate myself very well across these threads. What you said does make sense. What I should have said (because it is more accurate) is that I relate to bisexuality better.

it's still a very weird point to argue. heck i'm gonna confuse you even more and introduce you to the concept of asexuality. not being attracted to any gender(or anything actually for that matter) if you don't want to have sex with some one you just don't. it's quite a lot more complicated than just physical or even emotial attraction. trying to aplly any kind of logic to sexuality is a lost cause.

 

[grizzlyAssuager]

I guess I agree with the OP. Were I to come across some wonderfull person that felt the same about me, then I would be quite the idiot to dismiss them based on their gender alone. By agreeing with this logic, I can't really answer the question well though, I guess different people have different tastes? No idea. Personally, character/looks matter more to me than gender.

 

[Double A]

I feel like taking the simple way out and saying I don't want crap on my cock.

Of course, I've never had a romantic relationship, so I really can't say. I'm nigh 100% sure that it's because humans are born to bork the opposite sex.

 

[TheSolemnHypnotic]

Because Im just not attracted to guys in the way Im attracted to women, Ive had crushes on guys in the past but its never been a sexual thing, more like "OMG your awesome, hopefully if I hang round you enough some of it will rub off on me".

Gotta say your self righteous, hipsterish "Im alt" OP is actually laughable.

I don't think it's "self righteous" or "hipsterish" ['cause that would suck.] I'm just being honest. I have pieces to a puzzle I can't solve. And I stated, due to my lack of expertise in the area, I can't draw a conclusion. I have no agenda just questions.