Phasmal said:
Because the community is a big pile of shit and seeks to drive new (and especially female) members out.
Duh.
Slightly more seriously now:
There are women about, we just don't tell you we are women.
I mean, when is the right time?
I remember carrying an entire dungeon group thanks to an incompetent tank, and just before I left the healer says to me: `Good job, son. Need more guys like you about!`. Going `actually I'm a woman` would have been pretty needless at that point. I'm always getting stuff like that.
You are assumed male unless you say otherwise, and if you do say otherwise, why did you? Attention whore.
EDIT: Also, in real life there is a certain stigma to playing games and I find it hard to recognize other lady geeks. I am hesitant to reveal my nerd to people I don't know well. All ladygamers should just wear gaming T-shirts, to identify to each other.
I think you've kind of summed it up in an anecdotal nutshell, Phasmal.
There are probably plenty of women playing games, but people are just assuming they're men. When they have an identifiably female tag, like "gamer girl" or whatever, they're more or less ostracized. So the females who enjoy the hobby basically do so quietly.
The "no women on the internet" statement might be meant as a joke, but I think a lot of people take it more to heart than they realize. I'm hoping it's a perception that can be broken, as I know a number of female gamers myself. One of which is a hardcore badass gamer. For example, she imported Demon's Souls from China before it released here and
fucking platinumed the game. Then when it released here, she bought the NA version and
did it again.
Tangent's aside, it's still seen as a male passtime and I feel the social attitudes about it aren't necessarily keeping females out, but it's keeping them less visible. Again, I think the attitude of many gamers (especially some of the younger ones) needs to change. Personally, when I meet a female in an MMO or whatever, I just go about my game per usual. However, I've seen first hand that not everyone does.