Yet ANOTHER Post about a girl

[Lucasinno]

So there is this girl. We've been friends for a while, its all fun. She had some problems recently with one of her other friends who was unreliable and spread stupid rumours about her. I told her he was a douchebag and she agreed. Now in the last few days, she has been talking to him again. I told her it was a stupid idea to befriend him again as he is still just as unreliable and this time is actually using her for some strange revenge-plot. She told me she knew what she was doing and befriended the guy again. I didn't try to stop it further, its her choice afterall. But now she has been talking to him more than she has been talking to all her other friends, including me and her best friend. She is growing more and more distant from her real friends and is relying heavily on this guy who just uses her to get another girl to be jealous. Once this guy is done with his problems he will simply dump her again. I really want to help her and make her realize what a douchebag he really is and what he is planning, but i fear she is going to be angry with me rather than with the guy if i speak to her about it.
What should I do? Any advise?
Thanks a lot.

 

[])rStrangelove]

Just give her the feeling you'd be there for her if something goes wrong, but stay away and let it happen. Nobody can help you to wise up.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

So there is this girl. We've been friends for a while, its all fun. She had some problems recently with one of her other friends who was unreliable and spread stupid rumours about her. I told her he was a douchebag and she agreed. Now in the last few days, she has been talking to him again. I told her it was a stupid idea to befriend him again as he is still just as unreliable and this time is actually using her for some strange revenge-plot. She told me she knew what she was doing and befriended the guy again. I didn't try to stop it further, its her choice after all. But now she has been talking to him more than she has been talking to all her other friends, including me and her best friend. She is growing more and more distant from her real friends and is relying heavily on this guy who just uses her to get another girl to be jealous. Once this guy is done with his problems he will simply dump her again. I really want to help her and make her realize what a douchebag he really is and what he is planning, but i fear she is going to be angry with me rather than with the guy if i speak to her about it.
What should I do? Any advise?
Thanks a lot.

Who people are friends with is, ultimately, their decision. I'm sure she has her reasons. You've expressed your concerns about his character, she has rebuffed your concerns. That's pretty much as far as it goes. Unless the guy is leading her into a heroin addiction or something there's absolutely no need to stage an intervention. Just let it be.

 

[F7A537]

sometimes things just need to happen, yeah it sucks but they do, i know a girl who is kinda doing the same thing with a total *swears* but i've been told to just let happen and i understand why, you need to do the same. just let her know that you're there for her to talk to and hang out with and you're a friend that'll be there if something goes wrong

 

[idodo35]

Once this guy is done with his problems he will simply dump her again.

wait are they a couple or just friends? cause if their a couple you should probably get involved since this can get really ugly really fast if not just be there for her when she needs an actual friend (when he dumps her) and dont severe the conection even if its hard!