Fappy said:
I've known for awhile that I'd be a pretty "hands-on" parent when that stage of my life begins, but this stuff just scares the hell out of me when it comes to parenting. This would ruin my life if I were her dad.
I dunno if you were bullied but I think all I really needed as a kid was for my parents to understand.
Apparently both my parents just totally forgot what it was like to be a kid and never seemed to grasp just how depressed I was. I ended up hospitalized and had some jenky shit going on with my heart before they finally were like "Oh he's not just a hyperbolic teen."
Unfortunately after that I couldn't really tell them much either because they started knee jerking after every little incident.
So its tough, just make sure your kid knows that the world is vast, the universe vaster, those people they meet and the things those people do will vanish like dust in the wind. The bullies you meet in your life are almost always of so little importance that the second they get their diploma you will never hear from them again and they'll just waste away in mediocrity.
Unless they are filthy rich <_<...
KB13 said:
Honestly, they won't learn they do it because they get a sick satisfaction out of this sort of thing. I was bullied all through out grade school for one thing or another, and no matter who I told nothing would ever get done, the tormentor would get a slap on the wrist and sent on their way. It was in eleventh grade when I finally put my foot down, because they started picking on the few friends I had, I let go the biggest soap box anyone had ever been witness to and finally it stopped. It could also be the fact that I sucker punched the best football player we had and knocked him flat on his back. Fact is she should have gone to authorities or grown a backbone like I did. Now the world is short a bright soul, rest in peace young lady.
Because of how tightly weaved the social structure is in school, most of the rules made to quell bullying just make it worse and make it harder to stop.
I can't name a single rule made after a suicide or school shooting that didn't just create a more negative environment. It goes back to my original point, I think some people just completely forget what their childhood was like. I sometimes worry I'll hit that point in my mid 30's to 40's. Might have something to do with it becoming an increasingly small fraction of your overall life.
excalipoor said:
Holy fuck am I having trouble processing this. What hole do these heartless shits crawl out of?
Cyber bullies... Can these people not tell the difference between an angry off-hand insult aimed at an anonymous internet handle (you know, basic Youtube behaviour), and taking it further to make sure that not only will she not ever forget the mistake she's made, but neither will anyone else, and to rub it in her face both online and off (that would be this)?
I know from personal experience that kids can be mean, but nobody ever basically came up to me and told me to kill myself.
To put it in context, you probably live in a country where people get paid to kill people from other countries and are held high as heroes.
It's easy to hurt others when you are removed from them, the further removed the easier the harm.
When I was in Elementary School I not only had a kid tell me to kill myself, they shoved me off a cliff and I nearly broke my spine.
It's one of those incidents that put a schism between me and my mother because she said it wasn't the other child's fault because "being a girl is hard and your hormones make you irrational." I'm 25 now and still when we talk I'm reminded of how close I came to death, I probably won't ever forgive her for so easily tossing the issue aside.
That girl manages to haunt my memories as well, she is one of the few people I still remember the name of from my childhood.
Krystal Potillo...just sticks there. Probably spelling it wrong now, but I figure if I ever get famous I'm probably going to point into the camera and mention that I still haven't forgotten
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