[rossatdi]

opinion

And that's fine.
You're welcome to it.

Mine is different.
And I will look down on him and think him pathetic, because that is who I am.

And the more intelligent of us will sit back and say:
"Oh that Max, isn't he a riot."
Then we'll laugh because the asexual has an opinion on the role of sex in relationships.

Seriously, you aren't interested in sex and you think that makes you cool, fair enough. However since most of us don't look down on you for your abnormal (note: not unnatural) way of thinking, I think it'd be widely appreciated if you'd stop claiming we're inferior for our ours.

Alternatively stop speaking your point of view out loud, it seems you can't do so without being a troll. Worst of all, an arrogant, unapologetic and popular troll.

Oh god, he's an asexual? I had no idea. Ha ha ha. Its always nice to see someone who's beliefs compromise less than 1% of the population trying to apply their views to other people.

 

[rossatdi]

6) I think if he talks to her about it and he is still unhappy about it, he should walk, because he won't be happy about it.

This I don't argue with at all.

And, (if only to prove Scammy wrong,) I can see your point.
I was perhaps being too secure in my obvious superiority to consider what you were actually saying.

That being said, I have a lofty throne to ascend.

Oh god, he's an asexual? I had no idea. Ha ha ha. Its always nice to see someone who's beliefs compromise less than 1% of the population trying to apply their views to other people.

Actually, it's not a belief, it's more like...
A condition.
Deviant psychology, I guess.

EDIT: This, though, is obviously untrue.

2) With three years in a relationship and at the age of 18 you are ready. Unless there is a serious history of abuse or something 18 is ready.

Because she's clearly not ready, as evidenced by her response.

And if he's ready and she's not, and not prepared to attempt to bridge the gap some way, he should look for another partner who will make him happy. So yeah,

Step 1) Talk to her.
Sex possible as a mutually shared and enjoyed activity?
"Yes" go to 2) "No" got to 3).
2) Hooray! -> Buy condoms, insert penis (joking joking, well kind of).
3) Consider if you're going to be happier looking for another partner.

 

[rossatdi]

And if he's ready and she's not, and not prepared to attempt to bridge the gap some way, he should look for another partner who will make him happy. So yeah,

Step 1) Talk to her.
Sex possible as a mutually shared and enjoyed activity?
"Yes" go to 2) "No" got to 3).
2) Hooray! -> Buy condoms, insert penis (joking joking, well kind of).
3) Consider if you're going to be happier looking for another partner.

Yeah...
I thought we agreed that we're agreed on this point: If he really wants sex that badly and it's a dealbreaker for him, and she's resolute, then I guess he should walk.
Also?

Oh god, he's an asexual? I had no idea. Ha ha ha. Its always nice to see someone who's beliefs compromise less than 1% of the population trying to apply their views to other people.

It worked for the Christians.
Well, after that whole "lion" fiasco.

You're defending your position of imposing your beliefs as okay because the Christians did it?

 

[zen5887]

Haha ooh Max.. You are so dark and brooding.

Anyways.

Man, I know its hard, my last girlfriend didn't want to have sex until she was ready. This, I admit, took longer then I wanted and we broke up before anything happened. However, its not like we didn't do 'anything' so perhaps that is an option?

I really think you should talk to her before doing anything to rash. Try not to make it out to be her fault or anything, generally, try to be as un confronting as you can.

Best of luck =D

 

[Arkhangelsk]

I don't think your psych is to blame. If you want sex, you want it. Measure how badly you want to get laid in the coming 4 (or more) years, against how much you love her. What do you want the most, and what are you willing to sacrifice. And if you're really that desperate, you can always "shake the banana tree" yourself.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

Though one. In these kinds of situations there are no clear-cut answers. Just remember, most people who meet their 'sweetheart' before the age 19 don't end up married. You might be one of those happier cases, you might not.

I can't help you, this is something you yourself have to decide.

But if you really love her, then physical interaction is secondary. Are you sure you love her and not some idea of her? Looking back, I sure as hell couldn't tell love from longing when I was under 20.

Who knows, might be a lucky case. My aunt got together with her husband at around 16, and they've been married for around 30 years.

 

[SmartIdiot]

First off, if you're planning marriage at your age you need someone to hit you about the head REALLY HARD with a sledge hammer. What the hell is wrong with you? Do you not enjoy life? Or are you blinded by this so-called love?

Second, while I don't agree with planning marriage at such a young age I respect your decision (if all goes ahead) and if you really REALLY love her, then maybe you should wait it out.

Third. Seriously, marriage? That's how they trap you!!!

 

[rossatdi]

You're defending your position of imposing your beliefs as okay because the Christians did it?

...
*sigh*
It was a joke.

Ah. Sorry about that. Sarcasm translates so poorly through the internet, especially coming from self-admittedly arrogant people!

 

[wgreer25]

OK, time to get some wisdom from the "old guy".

This advise is geared to the fact that you are 18. If you were younger it would be completely different.

There are certain points about a relationship that can be a little grey, but there are some things that you need to have compatability. Money is one. You need to marry someone with similar finicial goals. Money is a big reason why married couples split up. And of coarse the next big one is sex.

Now the key is sexual compatibility. What I mean by this is that you need to know a lot about your partners sexually, and I don't mean that you have to actually have sex, but you need to know what thier sex drive is and communicate openly about it. If one partner is completely unsatisfied, a marriage/relationship will not last. You should be with someone with similar sex drive/desire as yourself. If you are compatible in this area, it will make your marriage/relationship so much better (trust me). This is not to say that she should do everything you want, it is to say that if she doesn't want to do anything at all, you may not be compatible. I would applaud anyone who wants to wait until they are married (sex usually complicates relationships and no relationship based on sex will last) but there are plenty of ways to stay sexually satisfied without sex (is she up for that?).

So what it comes down to is this. If you love her and think that it will be no problem to wait 3 more years for sex, I say go for it. But if your drive is too great and you think that either the wait will be torture or that you are having to give up something important to you, you should really think about who you are with. Complete lack of sexual activity WILL lead to someone cheating, because we are sexual creatures and the only unnatual sex is not to have it (when you are safe and mature, of coarse). This is not to say that you should pressure a partner into something. You do have to take into account that your labido is naturally higher as an 18 yo male. But if hers is an absolute 0, you've go some thinking to do.

Now having said all of this, I will share a little of my own history that may help you decision. When I was in college, I was a little irresponsible and let my smaller head do too much thinking for me. Anyway, it allowed me to get hooked up with a girl (an EXTREMELY hot girl, way out of my league) who's labido was stronger than mine. I thought (at the time) that sex couldn't get any better. I was wrong. I later met (and fell in love with) my current wife. We are very compatible in the bed room and the love factor makes the sex that much better.

 

[black-magic]

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