Then why did you respond to me?undeadsuitor said:"Why not both?"Amaror said:Why not both? Why do you either have to have all relationships be pure drama or all relationships be barely noticeable.undeadsuitor said:Here's the problem with that language.MrFalconfly said:What I mean is, the character "happens" to be gay. Not "The character is gay". Just let it be a subtle, blink-and-you'll-miss-it thing.
Treat it like it's absolutely normal, and nothing to be noticed.
Heterosexual couples and relationships are a big deal. At least, in the context of most stories. Every show, every book, more than likely has a "will they or wont they" plot. Romantic kisses are a big deal, internal fireworks are shot off. Just off the top of my head, Atom and Hawkgirl's ongoing romance in Legends of Tomorrow, Flash and Iris, Peralta and Santiago, Daisy and Lincoln etc etc etc
their romantic subplot is on screen, their romantic drama is on screen, their kisses are on screen
so why, oh god why, do Gay couples have to slide under the radar and be "subtle" and "blink and you'll miss it"?
I don't want to miss it. I want gay couples to get the same romantic plot tumors that straight couples get. I want a woman to mention her wife as much as a straight guy would mention his wife. I want a plot where a dude forgets his own anniversary so he has to rush and buy cheap flowers on the way home for his husband.
This whole idea you're going for is just as toxic and harmful as not including them at all.
There can be relationships in stories that are full of drama and "Will they, won't they", but having every single relationship be like that is just unrealistic and overdone by now. And this is in general, it doesn't make a difference whether they are relationships between women, men or blue aliens form mars.
I also think it's hilarious that you are accusing him of homophobia while advocating to stereotype all gay relationships.
btw. A gay character I always thought was well done was Dumbledore. There were definite hints towards his sexuality in the book and the story, but it was never made a big deal, because ultimately it doesn't matter what he likes in a romantic partner since he is never really interested in a relationship during the story. And that's while there was a definite opportunity for them to make a big deal out of it with the whole Grindelwald-substory and Rita but they never did.
I am. I literally am advocating for both. I said I want gay relationships to be treated the same as straight ones on TV. That includes literally every romantic trope, big to small. I merely used big examples to demonstrate how it's unfair that straight couples don't have to hide in the shadows using "blink and you'll miss it" details.
"I also think it's hilarious that you are accusing him of homophobia while advocating to stereotype all gay relationships."
......what? Please, elaborate how I'm advocating to stereotype gay relationships.
"A gay character I always thought was well done was Dumbledore."
Why am I not surprised that your favorite gay character would be one that wasn't gay until years after the books were finished as an after thought by the author.
Honestly, I'm not accusing you of homophobia, but when you're praising lgbt characters about how great they are that you don't have to see, hear, or know about them being gay I can't help but make that suggestion.
I also wanted both.
That was what my post was about. That we need more nuanced portrayal. We need both the "in your face, primary couple who drive the story" stuff, AND the "subtle blink-and-you'll-miss-it" stuff.
As it stands it's only the former (when gay characters are allowed), and never the latter (only very, extremely sparingly).