MarsAtlas said:
What about all the intersex people who get equally ineffectual genital reconstruction at a young age that never have gender identity issues? Roughly half of them will, yet roughly half of the people who experience the same ineffectual surgery will not develop the same gender identity incongruence even though their genitals are similarly disformed. Half and half, roughly the sex ratio of birth.
It wasn't my intention to present this as an inevitable conclusion of partial reconstruction. What I'm attempting to dispel more generally is the idea, commonly circulated, that Reimer was raised entirely unaware of being anything but a "normal girl" and yet somehow the magic of biology cut through it all and made him esoterically aware of the truth of his own gender identity.
Frankly, I think if there's a lesson to be learned from Reimer's story it's that the desire for normalization and to avoid the presumed stigma of "failing to perform" can actually be incredibly destructive and can end up reinforcing that same stigma.
MarsAtlas said:
The point is going over your head by a mile about the positive/negative reinforcement Reimar experienced. He was punished for expressing non-feminine behaviors, so why would a child continue to express them if they were going to be punished for it? There exist plenty of women who are fine with expressing only stereotypical gender behavior, after all.
Again, my point is to counteract the notion that Reimer's upbringing was in any way a "normal" upbringing, or typical of that of his female peers even in the 1960s and 70s. Essentially, both Money and Reimer's parents projected their own deeply insulting and stereotypical view of femininity onto him and forced him to conform to it in the belief that he would eventually come to like it simply through repetition. We now know that doesn't work, it's stunningly obvious that it doesn't work, children have a much more dialectical relationship with authority than Dr. Money assumed, but this was the age of conservative psychoanalysis when noone thought twice about the idea that being a woman meant learning to tolerate powerlessness and humilation.
MarsAtlas said:
Plenty of people are exposed to sexual abuse from an older person of another gender, why don't all of those people express gender identity incongruence?
Well, for one, because unless you're going to take a radical feminist stance that all sexual abuse represents normalization, then sexual abuse generally does not occur as an explicit attempt to normalize gender appropriate sexual behaviour.
The closest we get today is probably gay conversion therapy.. which employs remarkably similar strategies as we know also doesn't work. In fact, the analogy is very relevant and telling. Money simply assumed that making Reimer a healthy girl would mean making him a
heterosexual girl, and that developing submissive sexual desire towards men was somehow integral to the success of the project of making Reimer a girl. That's far more revealing of his psychology than it is of any deeper point about gender or human psychology more generally.
MarsAtlas said:
There's been a plethora of scientific evidence demonstrating physical differences between the brains of the two sexes, which is furthermore highlighted by transgender people tending to have brains physically more similar to the gender identify as then the cisgender counterparts of the same assigned sex, eg transgender women's brains are more physically similar to a cisgender woman's brain is than a cisgender man's brain.
What people don't realize, however, is that a) much of this research is contradictory, and b) quite a lot of it involves measurements which are arguably too small for modern instruments to measure.
The idea of neurological differences between men and women and that this can somehow shed insight into "abnormal" sexual or gendered behaviour has been an obsession since Victorian times. Victorians were utterly convinced that men and women's brains were so different that some early Darwinists honestly argued that men and women should be treated as separate species. As our understanding of the brain has increased, the proposed differences have shrunk and shrunk and shrunk but somehow never gone away. I don't use the phrase "god of the gaps" lightly, but it really is kind of scary in this case. The definitive proof that men and women are different, that all the ways in which we treat them differently are somehow vindicated by some essential difference between them, has always been just on the other end of the next microscope, the next anatomical study, the next hormone analysis. These differences have been "discovered" thousands of times, and then forgotten as they either fail to repeat or turn out to be less relevant than the expectations of sexual difference researchers require.
The real story is not the differences between "male" and "female" brains, of which there are a few, but our overwhelming similarity, both in terms of neurology and cognitive functioning, and how out of line it is with our constant, unshakable conviction that we
must be irreconcilably different. How long are we going to hold on to that, how small do the "differences" have to get before we finally accept that they may not be as definitive as we all assumed they were?
MarsAtlas said:
There have been plenty of people without genital deformities who questioned their gender identity, even far back before transgender medical care really existed.
I'm not making some Marxist point about social control or normalization, here.
People need identity. Even identities which are persecuted or transgressive or painful are still preferable to not having identity at all. Lacan's point was that what really frightens us is not the possibility of being persecuted, but the possibility of
being nothing, of losing what we think we know about ourselves. Identity is us inventing stories about ourselves to attempt to hide from ourselves the fact that we came into this world as squealing indistinct blobs without the ability to even distinguish ourselves from anything else. We build up a sense of who we are and more importantly
who we are not as an ordering function to allow us to exist and feel secure, but the problem is that these things
are just stories. They're fictions which we nonetheless can't live without.
MarsAtlas said:
Then you're not paying attention. We're pushing for more and more research of the brain every year, and we're getting more results every years.
Right, but that's not answering the questions.
"Is gender real?"
"Let's find out by doing research into gender!"
Do you see the problem. The possibility of doing research into gender
already assumes that gender is real.
Again, we're back to this weird divorcing of gender from its own conditions of emergence. If the purpose of your research is to discover "gender differences", then how do you determine the gender of your sample when you haven't completed your research yet?