A boy problem of course *Updated*

[rutger5000]

Life is an adventure, and in my opinion should be lived as one. Go see that guy, go see what happens. If it's something good, good If bad stuff happens, too bad that's life. Take a moment to catch your breath again, and move one.

 

[rutger5000]

After reading all of these comments and the reply you've given on some I wanted to voice my opinion stronger.
Wetter you go and visit him or not is your choice, but give it some real thought. The way I see it the choice will determine the rest of your life for an tremendous part. That is regardless of what happens with the guy. Going to see that guy is going to be an adventure, and if you open up to adventures like that and pass through them without harm you will grow as a person, and you'll have many adventures more
If you decide not to go because of lack of trust for the guy, then I think you'll keep making choice like that for the rest of your life. Eventually you'll marry a guy from your own personal 'safe' environment like work, church, friends etc etc. Get some children, or adopt them if it doesn't happen, have a divorce (40% chance or something) repeat stick to it this time, grow old die.
Personally I couldn't be satisfied with a life like that.
Basically what I'm saying is: Yeah going to visit the guy is a little risky, you could get hurt. But life is risky and unless you want to keep yourself in a plastic bubble for the rest of your life you'll get hurt. That's part of life, and I wouldn't want it any other way.

 

[Safaia]

Basically what I'm saying is: Yeah going to visit the guy is a little risky, you could get hurt. But life is risky and unless you want to keep yourself in a plastic bubble for the rest of your life you'll get hurt. That's part of life, and I wouldn't want it any other way.

I was going to take this risk, I was ready to, and now he's the one that has backed out on me. This entire thing just makes me feel so pathetic and I feel like such a loser for crying as much as I did when he suddenly backed out on me.

 

[rutger5000]

Basically what I'm saying is: Yeah going to visit the guy is a little risky, you could get hurt. But life is risky and unless you want to keep yourself in a plastic bubble for the rest of your life you'll get hurt. That's part of life, and I wouldn't want it any other way.

I was going to take this risk, I was ready to, and now he's the one that has backed out on me. This entire thing just makes me feel so pathetic and I feel like such a loser for crying as much as I did when he suddenly backed out on me.

Nah you're not pathetic in this, he is. Sometimes guys are just like dogs chasing cars, if they finally managed to get one they have no idea what to do with them. The unconfident kind will freak out and run away. He is the pathetic one here, not you. What you did took some guts, confidence and a positive outlook on life. These are all great characteristics, I'm sure a nice guy will find you soon Just try to get some more self-respect, for I feel you're lacking there.

 

[linkmastr001]

Basically what I'm saying is: Yeah going to visit the guy is a little risky, you could get hurt. But life is risky and unless you want to keep yourself in a plastic bubble for the rest of your life you'll get hurt. That's part of life, and I wouldn't want it any other way.

I was going to take this risk, I was ready to, and now he's the one that has backed out on me. This entire thing just makes me feel so pathetic and I feel like such a loser for crying as much as I did when he suddenly backed out on me.

You shouldn't feel like a loser. You should be happy that you decided to ask about bringing a friend because as some people have pointed out, this has seemed suspicious.

I am sorry for you that this has hurt you so, but it looks like his intentions may not have been the purest.

I wish you the best of luck in coping with what has happened.

 

[The Man With the Soap]

We have skyped and talked on the phone since almost when we first met. We're actually on skype as I type this. And it's the other side of the country not another one but the point still stands. I just feel like I'm being overly paranoid.

It's okay for you to be paranoid. After all, those crazy Alliance doctors have been fiddling around with your brain. Just don't holler while you're around the cattle, please.

If you have used webcam, you could probably guage him a little better. What he's capable of and all that. If you really want to go meet him, go for it. But, be wary. Walk softly, and carry a big gun.

Also, don't be so hard on yourself. Life is hard enough without us adding unneccessary worries to ourselves. Besides, I can tell you have good taste in television shows.

 

[Griffolion]

Wow, you're so lucky someone likes you.


Now that's pathetic.

 

[rutger5000]

Life is an adventure, and in my opinion should be lived as one. Go see that guy, go see what happens. If it's something good, good If bad stuff happens, too bad that's life. Take a moment to catch your breath again, and move one.

I have to disagree here. While some things can be approached by this mentality, going to see a guy far away alone and etc etc based on her situation has many possible bad outcomes that simply cannot be fixed by catching your breath. Harassment, rape, kidnapping, just to name a few. It's a very risky situation in my opinion, given the signs that this guy has given and the reactions he's displayed. While I'm all for taking risks in ones life, when it could change your life for the worse, I feel more thought should be put into it. Taking someone with her is the best idea here. That way if something really bad happens, she has a friend to fall back on.

I thought that I had added this, but apparently I didn't:
"But I have to admit that this is easy for me to say, a being 6,4 tall guy doesn't make you look an easy target."
Other then that. I personally find my live-style worth the risks. I hope I wouldn't change it if it ever got me harnessed, raped or kidnapped.
I personally made the choice to trust strangers, and I plan to stick to it. I also think a lot of people could be happier if they did the same. But again for me it's safer to trust people.