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Fischgopf said:
Nope, but he did face Vader with significantly more Training, which isn't hard because Rey hasn't had any at that point and really hasn't had much of any Training even now.

Also, yeah, Kylo is wounded. Kylo is also a Dark Side User who would gain more power from the Pain and Anger over his wound. I guess you must have thought he was punching his wound for shits and giggles?
I also notice that when Kyle loses his focus he becomes shit at using the Force. Like, in general. Good Jedi, bad Sith.
Not to mention that it is now being strongly implied that Kylo has more potential then Luke and with that is likely more powerful in the Force then Vader.
And at the same time it's been implied that Rey is Kylo's equal in potential with the Force.
And there was also the time when Dooku kicked both Anakins and Obi-Wans teeth in. Both Jedis had so much more training that Rey isn't even worth mentioning in that regard.
Yeah, Dooku could probably have beaten Kyo and Rey with his eyes closed.
And regarding the wound in general...so are we just ignoring that the Force allows one to enhance their own physical properties? Surely I'm not the only one who remembers the shit that both Anakin and ol' Palpi survived in RotS.
Hell no I'm not ignoring it. It's the only thing keeping Kylo standing after taking a hit that ragdolls fully armored stormtroopers, physics be damned. He should be needing a liver transplant.

I'm having trouble thinking of anything that Rey did that could be considered a fuck up, let alone a complete fuck up. So, what the fuck are you talking about? I can't help but think that whatever example you'll offer will be laughible.
I mean, there's that time she completely lost her nerve, started panicking, and ran directly into Kylo to get effortlessly captured. Or that time in TLJ where she
almost completely and totally dived headfirst into the dark side. Or that time she got tricked by both Snoke and Kylo, ending up with Kylo becoming the new Supreme Leader of the First Order.

Huh, she was also shown to be much worse than Kylo at the whole combat thing at the same time, when Kylo was focused and relatively unwounded.
Funny that.

But I've also had this conversation a dozen times, so feel free to claim victory.
You mean kinda like what you are trying to pull right now?

Here's the thing. I know that people like you that pull these weak defenses are doing so BECAUSE Rey is female. I don't care that's she's female, just like I don't care about her being good at piloting or fighting with a Bo Staff. I care about the inconsistency with the Force. I want an explanation because this clearly needs one. You are ok with not having one because "Yay, a Girl!".

But I'm not like you, I'm not going to ignore this because of some misguided ideas that we have to go easy on the poor little female protag. That'd be because, unlike you, I don't expect less of Women.
Oh yeah, it totally makes sense that a random farm kid is good with a blaster and is an expert pilot but a random scavenger kid isn't. Because you care about the consistency of space magic.
 

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The fight with Kylo and Rey vs the red guys is what I wanted this entire trilogy to be.

The hamster penguins, space Leia, and Luke drinking alien tit milk is not.

Also way to make Yoda look worse than he did in the 70's.
 

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Side note: I love the dedication to diversity that is happening in films lately. I wish there were more fictional aliens in these new Star Wars films, but I do like the intentional visible increase in non-white and female characters, even among bit minions on both sides.
 

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altnameJag said:
Dislike whatever you want, I don't care, just don't lie about it. "I don't like Star Wars because XYZ" is fine, "I don't like Star Wars because " is weird and is gonna get pushback.
Well it's good we have people like you to tell us which is which.
Having functioning senses and a decent memory helps a lot, yeah.

Don't worry. All things being equal, Kylo is a better fighter than Rey. It's just that in TFA, things were distinctly unequal.
 

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I think the broader problem here is that you're demanding consistency in the application of in-universe details from Star Wars, which is a franchise that has never been overly concerned with consistency and has generally been more concerned with doing cool shit.

Like, there are maybe two or three things about the Force that I can say are definitively estabished by Star Wars:

1. It's a vague power derived from life force which can do magic things.
2. One's ability to use the Force is largely determined by one's emotional state, and training and talent are more about reaching that emotional state than anything else.
3. There are "evil" powers exclusively used by bad guys, such as force lightning or force choke, and presumably also "good" powers exclusively used by good guys, though the latter is less well-defined.

Anything else? It's up in the air at any given point in the canon. Like, in the sequel trilogy alone, we've got these unprecedented uses of the Force:

- stopping a blaster bolt in mid-air, by Kylo Ren;
- telepathic interrogation, by Kylo Ren and Snoke;
- interstellar telepathic Skype, by Kylo and Rey;
- interstellar holographic self-projection, by Luke;
- controlling the weather, by Ghost Yoda, and most dramatically...
- surviving the vacuum of space, by Leia.

This is an original sin for Star Wars. In Empire, when Vader stops blaster bolts with his hand, fans wrangled for years over whether that was a Force power (turned out it was [http://starwars.wikia.com/wiki/Tutaminis]) or just Vader having some kind of blaster-proof gauntlet. Because if it was the former, why bother deflecting blaster bolts with your lightsaber? "Who cares?" says George Lucas. "It was cool, so I threw it in."

And the EU was, naturally, even worse; we had Palpatine summoning Force lightning storms [http://starwars.wikia.com/wiki/Force_storm_(wormhole)] that could destroy starships and teleport people through hyperspace, we had people pulling Star Destroyers out of the sky [https://i.ytimg.com/vi/1_aOR6H9h0I/maxresdefault.jpg], we had people stopping lightsabers with their bare hands [https://vignette3.wikia.nocookie.net/starwars/images/c/c5/ForceAbsorb-TORHope.jpg/revision/latest?cb=20111114211612], we had people using the Force to eat planets [http://starwars.wikia.com/wiki/Darth_Nihilus] and come back from the dead. [http://starwars.wikia.com/wiki/Darth_Sion]

It was all over the goddamn place. Always has been. So why raise a big fat fuss over Rey doing one or two things that seem exceptional amidst a whole cast of characters doing exceptional things in a universe where the fate of galaxies is determined by a handful of exceptional characters?

Like, what does Rey do? She does a mind trick on her second try, she pilots the Millennium Falcon really well, and she beats a wounded Kylo Ren in a lightsaber duel. After he'd been wounded just earlier in a lightsaber duel with a goddamn stormtrooper who can't use the Force at all. The guy was clearly not at the peak of his game.

I don't want to assume that people are picking on Rey specifically because of misogyny. I mean, I'm sure that a portion of the hate the character gets comes from alt-right red-pill incel douchenozzles who want to cast Protection from Vaginas on their beloved fandom, but I don't want to assume that everyone criticising her falls into that category. But the way people keep bringing it up, I honestly wonder if we're even watching the same films. She's not that bad.
 
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So I saw the film, and while I enjoyed well enough while I was watching it, the more I thought about it afterwards, the more things about it bugged me. The Finn-Rose point was irrelevant, unnecessary, and hilariously transparent in its political grandstanding; they completely discarded the few vaguely interesting new mysteries set up in TFA; and they changed Star Wars lore however they saw fit, will seemingly zero regard for series continuity. It felt like a Star Wars film made by someone who neither cares about, nor likes the Star Wars setting, and just wanted to do their own thing. The end results was that I finished up coming to the conclusion that I don't like or care about any of the current characters, and no longer have any real interest in the franchise post this movie. I guess I'm done with Star Wars.
 

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It's a great story with great themes and great characters aswell as great moments and great action held down by some really awkward writing. I think it's still a very good movie but it has significant problem, the thing is, all of those are superficial, not structural. Everything that's wrong with it a single person going over the screenplay with a red pen and crossing out, like ten lines could have easily fixed. But the way it's now you have some bad dialogue taking away from otherwise very good scenes.

Still, it has some of the best stuff in any Star Wars movie ever and as much as it stumbles, nothing can take that away from it.
 

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bastardofmelbourne said:
I don't want to assume that people are picking on Rey specifically because of misogyny. I mean, I'm sure that a portion of the hate the character gets comes from alt-right red-pill incel douchenozzles who want to cast Protection from Vaginas on their beloved fandom, but I don't want to assume that everyone criticising her falls into that category. But the way people keep bringing it up, I honestly wonder if we're even watching the same films. She's not that bad.
I don't really have a dog in this particular fight, not having even watched the films in question, but honestly, has anyone ever actually made that argument? Has anyone ever actually seen one of these hypothetical people?

Because even to a dyed-in-the-wool GooberGator like me, that sounds like the very definition of a strawman.
 

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But the way people keep bringing it up, I honestly wonder if we're even watching the same films. She's not that bad.
I gave you a detailed response looking at the other characters you used as a comparison and no one responded to it. So...
 

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Don't worry. All things being equal, Kylo is a better fighter than Rey. It's just that in TFA, things were distinctly unequal.
"Hey guys, how should we handle our action climax?"

"I know, lets badly injure the villain so the person with minimal experience in a combat style we keep hyping up as mysterious can win easily."
 

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bastardofmelbourne said:
Fischgopf said:
I think the broader problem here is that you're demanding consistency in the application of in-universe details from Star Wars, which is a franchise that has never been overly concerned with consistency and has generally been more concerned with doing cool shit.

Like, there are maybe two or three things about the Force that I can say are definitively estabished by Star Wars:

1. It's a vague power derived from life force which can do magic things.
2. One's ability to use the Force is largely determined by one's emotional state, and training and talent are more about reaching that emotional state than anything else.
3. There are "evil" powers exclusively used by bad guys, such as force lightning or force choke, and presumably also "good" powers exclusively used by good guys, though the latter is less well-defined.

Anything else? It's up in the air at any given point in the canon. Like, in the sequel trilogy alone, we've got these unprecedented uses of the Force:

- stopping a blaster bolt in mid-air, by Kylo Ren;
- telepathic interrogation, by Kylo Ren and Snoke;
- interstellar telepathic Skype, by Kylo and Rey;
- interstellar holographic self-projection, by Luke;
- controlling the weather, by Ghost Yoda, and most dramatically...
- surviving the vacuum of space, by Leia.

This is an original sin for Star Wars. In Empire, when Vader stops blaster bolts with his hand, fans wrangled for years over whether that was a Force power (turned out it was [http://starwars.wikia.com/wiki/Tutaminis]) or just Vader having some kind of blaster-proof gauntlet. Because if it was the former, why bother deflecting blaster bolts with your lightsaber? "Who cares?" says George Lucas. "It was cool, so I threw it in."

And the EU was, naturally, even worse; we had Palpatine summoning Force lightning storms [http://starwars.wikia.com/wiki/Force_storm_(wormhole)] that could destroy starships and teleport people through hyperspace, we had people pulling Star Destroyers out of the sky [https://i.ytimg.com/vi/1_aOR6H9h0I/maxresdefault.jpg], we had people stopping lightsabers with their bare hands [https://vignette3.wikia.nocookie.net/starwars/images/c/c5/ForceAbsorb-TORHope.jpg/revision/latest?cb=20111114211612], we had people using the Force to eat planets [http://starwars.wikia.com/wiki/Darth_Nihilus] and come back from the dead. [http://starwars.wikia.com/wiki/Darth_Sion]

It was all over the goddamn place. Always has been. So why raise a big fat fuss over Rey doing one or two things that seem exceptional amidst a whole cast of characters doing exceptional things in a universe where the fate of galaxies is determined by a handful of exceptional characters?

Like, what does Rey do? She does a mind trick on her second try, she pilots the Millennium Falcon really well, and she beats a wounded Kylo Ren in a lightsaber duel. After he'd been wounded just earlier in a lightsaber duel with a goddamn stormtrooper who can't use the Force at all. The guy was clearly not at the peak of his game.

I don't want to assume that people are picking on Rey specifically because of misogyny. I mean, I'm sure that a portion of the hate the character gets comes from alt-right red-pill incel douchenozzles who want to cast Protection from Vaginas on their beloved fandom, but I don't want to assume that everyone criticising her falls into that category. But the way people keep bringing it up, I honestly wonder if we're even watching the same films. She's not that bad.
I dunno specifically what fish is complaining about, but as for how the force has been treated, honestly, it seems to be suffering from heavy abuse. Hell, I didnt care for The Apprentice in Force Unleashed tearing down a Star Destroyer.

I think alot of people in alot of media has OP'd an already OP Force and its not a good thing.

I think sticking with what it can do in games like KotoR and Jedi Outcast was enough. Telekinetics and Monk chi, not straight up Harry Potter wizardry though.
 

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Ninjamedic said:
altnameJag said:
Don't worry. All things being equal, Kylo is a better fighter than Rey. It's just that in TFA, things were distinctly unequal.
"Hey guys, how should we handle our action climax?"

"I know, lets badly injure the villain so the person with minimal experience in a combat style we keep hyping up as mysterious can win easily."
When you describe it like that, sure it sounds a bit silly. However, it was a fucking magnificently shot and a well put together and acted scene.

"Let's have the old geriatric shooting blue sparkles out of his fingertips be casually lifted into the air by another geriatric wearing a lightbright on his chest over the latest Hot Topic fashion line and thrown down the super-plot-convenient giant hole in the throne room floor that evidently goes straight to the reactor or something"
 

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When you describe it like that, sure it sounds a bit silly. However, it was a fucking magnificently shot and a well put together and acted scene.
I honestly can't argue as to its cinematic prowess; but storytelling-wise, it does seem to me a bit counter-productive to intentionally handicap a villain you're (I'm assuming) planning on making people find at the least convincing as a threat, so that your ostensibly inexperienced, wet-behind-the-ears hero can score what comes across as a largely unearned victory.


"Let's have the old geriatric shooting blue sparkles out of his fingertips be casually lifted into the air by another geriatric wearing a lightbright on his chest over the latest Hot Topic fashion line and thrown down the super-plot-convenient giant hole in the throne room floor that evidently goes straight to the reactor or something"
Well, we don't really find out one of them is a geriatric until the very end, which is one of the things that makes the character resonate so deeply - for all of three movies, we see Darth Vader as this scary, unstoppable death machine, right after he ultimately redeems himself... and then it turns out what lies underneath that inhuman, expressionless mask is the pitiable, ravaged face of a sad old man.

I mean, there's a difference, I think, between a redemption arc played over three films, and a fight scene very specifically written so a hero can surmount odds that are clearly above their capacity.
 

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BeetleManiac said:
Ninjamedic said:
altnameJag said:
Don't worry. All things being equal, Kylo is a better fighter than Rey. It's just that in TFA, things were distinctly unequal.
"Hey guys, how should we handle our action climax?"

"I know, lets badly injure the villain so the person with minimal experience in a combat style we keep hyping up as mysterious can win easily."
"So what's Lord of the Rings about?"
"Same as Broke Back Mountain. Two guys climb a mountain and destroy a ring."

"Have you seen that old movie Jaws? This killer shark keeps eating people so they shoot it and that's the end."

"Remember that movie Chinatown where Jack Nicholson tries to stop the bad guys, but he doesn't?"

"What's the big deal with The Princess Bride? It's just 90 minutes of some Gary Stu who likes to wear black being better at everything than everyone else."

"We're supposed to believe that a rookie pilot with no formal combat training is the only one in a fleet who hit the tiny Achilles' heel of a moon-sized space station?"
It's the epitome of "explain a plot badly". I'm in awe.

Also at the "win easily" part. She was pushed to a literal brink by somebody trying not to kill her.
 

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Ninjamedic said:
altnameJag said:
Don't worry. All things being equal, Kylo is a better fighter than Rey. It's just that in TFA, things were distinctly unequal.
"Hey guys, how should we handle our action climax?"

"I know, lets badly injure the villain so the person with minimal experience in a combat style we keep hyping up as mysterious can win easily."
Clearly, Rey should have been lightsabered in half. Good movie.

EDIT: Like, I'm kinda mystified that I have to defend "the ensemble cast of heroes has to slowly and individually slow, weaken, or study the villain to the point where the last of them can squeak out a win."

It's almost overused to the point of cliche, sure, but it's almost always awesome.

EDITedit: Spoiler Alert: Vegeta, Prince of all Saiyans, was both provably stronger than and also defeated by upstart lowclass warrior Kakarot. So unrealistic.
 

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Ogoid said:
I don't really have a dog in this particular fight, not having even watched the films in question, but honestly, has anyone ever actually made that argument? Has anyone ever actually seen one of these hypothetical people?
Not on the Escapist, no. The few who I remember got purged in the Great Gender War. But dig around on Reddit, and you'll find them.

Ninjamedic said:
I gave you a detailed response looking at the other characters you used as a comparison and no one responded to it. So...
On Kirk said:
Which Kirk? The one who enters Trek with decades of experience and has to rely on his ship, crew and wits to save the day while dealing with his own character flaws? Or the one who is a layabout who spends the film having to grow up in the face of a massive threat, and then must rely on his ship and crew while accepting his flaws?
The one who flew around the galaxy banging dozens of alien ladies in between saving the universe and winning fistfights with lizard-men and genetically engineered ubermenschen. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B_c1Odol9xw]

On Neo said:
Does that matter in the scope of the film? It's about him living up to the expectations thrust upon him and adapting to having his whole world ripped from under him. This leads to the final act where he has to fight his way up through a building to rescue his mentor (thinking he's just another guy too) and is only able to make it through direct help, the memetic slowdown limbo shot ends with him still being hit and at the Agent's mercy.
If you stopped the film at his memetic slowdown limbo shot, you might have a point. But immediately after that, Neo is confronted by Agent Smith, fights him to a standstill, kills him with a train, and only after Smith respawns into another passer-by does Neo get cornered and killed...before rising from the dead with the power of love, stopping bullets with his mind, beating Smith one-handed, then jumping into his chest and making him explode into green chunks. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vy7RaQUmOzE]

The man is literally called the Chosen One. Practically his entire character in the movie is that he's inexplicably powerful for no immediately apparent reason other than to serve as a metaphor for Jesus.

On Walter White said:
He's a middle-aged chemistry teacher whose pushed to deal meth because of his impending illness and wanting to leave something for his family.

And if you watch the first season, he's not at all good at crime, the events of the season are about him trying to cope with his illness, and trying to find a way to make money with the one thing he's good at. Now I'm only halfway through the third season, but so far the shows largely been about how he becomes the drug lord and slips further away from his original self.
I know that Walter White is deliberately written as a fallible and flawed character - the show is intended as an anti-heroic tragedy, rather than wish fulfillment, and it's a good show, so it's done well - but he's still a high school chemistry teacher who segues comfortably into the role of criminal mastermind. He is very obviously an exceptional character; better at chemistry than most chemists and better at dealing drugs than most drug dealers.

With the knowledge and training of a high school chemistry teacher, he starts manufacturing meth so pure that the cops are left speechless, as well as multiple improvised bombs and poisons that all seem to work a lot better than they really should. Guy makes thermite out of Etch-a-Sketches. I mean, seriously.

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Excatly!

He's not a superhero, or Batman or a Jedi. McClane is just a cop who goes to LA for Christmas to see his family. He's then plunged into a subversion of an action movie plot and has to stay alive, he had no intention of stopping them. The first thing he does once Gruber makes his play is to run away and call the police.

His situation is summed up in one exchange:

"Sir, this is a line reserved for emergencies."

"No fucking shit lady do I sound like I'm trying to order a pizza!?"
That last line with Willis' delivery tells you everything about how scared he is and how he knows he stands no chance in a direct fight, remember by this point he only killed the first mook by luck and largely spends the second act of the film trying to get the proper authorities in, only stepping in to be what little of an annoyance to Gruber he can. The setup for the last act is him pulling glass out of his feet while he tries to keep focused on getting Holly and the hostages out while being scared out of his mind.
Yeah, John McClane is just an average everydude caught in an exceptional situation. Except he takes out twelve terrorists pretty much on his first try, in a situation where 99.9% of average everydudes would just get caught and shot to death. And then in the subsequent films, he outsmarts and defeats a US special forces colonel, another terrorist mastermind, a cyberterrorist mastermind, and some KGB-type ************ in the fifth film that I never saw.

Point is, John McClane's appeal comes from how he appears to be an average everydude who is relatable and shit, and therefore creates the illusion in the audience's mind that they - the average everydude - could, in McClane's situation, pull off the same shit McClane does. When in reality, if you were trapped barefoot in an office building on Christmas with a squad of homicidal terrorist/thieves, you'd either surrender, hide and curl into a ball, or try to stop them and get shot fifty times in the face because they have submachine guns and you have bare feet.

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All of these characters in some way have earned the victories they get, but Rey largely gets handed them on a plate. She can fight, fend for herself, fly a ship, fix a ship, ballroom dance and much much more! When the force is introduced to her, she is almost immediately able to do what only Obi-Wan could do in the original film and is on par with Luke at the opening of Jedi. The film tells us she is the underdog, but the film shows us that everything she has to deal with is a minor annoyance at best, and so her journey is a farce. It's emblematic of modern blockbusters I find.
Well, shit, dude. How badly did Luke Skywalker have to work in order to earn this shit? [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iH6a1iYQ0GA]

Yes, some films force their protagonists to work to earn their victories. But as a general rule, Star Wars is not that type of film. Star Wars is the type of film where the heroes are good at what they do because they are the heroes.

And that's not a bad thing! Not inherently. Y'know, it works for Star Wars. My point earlier - which I think you actually missed - was that the real reason Kirk is a great starship captain and Neo is a great punch-fightster is because if they were bad at their jobs, they'd be boring to watch. No-one is super keen to watch a middlingly-competent starship captain muddle his way through tense diplomatic and military standoffs. No-one wants to see Neo face down an Agent and then get beaten to death as everyone else has before him.

Basically: these characters are not the protagonists because they are exceptionally skilled. They are exceptionally skilled because they are the protagonists. They were deliberately written that way in order to make them interesting to an audience.

Ninjamedic said:
"Hey guys, how should we handle our action climax?"

"I know, lets badly injure the villain so the person with minimal experience in a combat style we keep hyping up as mysterious can win easily."
Believe it or not - yes. That is the appropriate way to write an action climax.

After all, if the hero faces down Kylo Ren and is immediately murdered, that's not very climactic. If the hero never even gets to face down Kylo Ren, that's also not very climactic. So, to have your action climax, you need a) the hero to fight the villain and b) for the hero and the villain to be on a relatively even playing field, or one slightly weighted to the villain.
 

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Yeah I'm not really getting all those people who are going on about how the movie is infested by SJW or those on the other side who think it strives to be empowering to woman.

The whole thing with Poe and admiral pink hair comes to mind. I've heard it representing wise femininity ''winning'' out over 'toxic masculinity'' or it making Poe a victim of ''Anti mansplaining'' but I think its describing a far more real discussion about flashy but impractical heroism vs safer but less inspiring actions.
And that has nothing to gender. Its a common military discussion we've seen in our history books. Think on Fabian and his despised ''cowardly'' tactics or the hothead Roman commanders who kept going for aggressive moves that Hannibal could easily exploit. I'm pretty sure Fabian never considered himself as holding back ''Toxic masculinity'' or any of such drivel.
 

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Hades said:
The whole thing with Poe and admiral pink hair comes to mind. I've heard it representing wise femininity ''winning'' out over 'toxic masculinity'' or it making Poe a victim of ''Anti mansplaining'' but I think its describing a far more real discussion about flashy but impractical heroism vs safer but less inspiring actions.
And that has nothing to gender. Its a common military discussion we've seen in our history books. Think on Fabian and his despised ''cowardly'' tactics or the hothead Roman commanders who kept going for aggressive moves that Hannibal could easily exploit. I'm pretty sure Fabian never considered himself as holding back ''Toxic masculinity'' or any of such drivel.
Oh, you do not want to bring the military as a dog into this fight. I mean, you wanna compare real world military to this movie, how does an Admiral not informing her command staff of the operation's goals and general strategem sit with you? Nobody involved in writing this has read Sun Tzu.

Edit: to head this off, given their small number, we can safely assume that Poe was the only Commander of the star fighter corps, and even with his demotion, he would still be the most senior of any other Captains, making him still head of leadership of one of the Resistance's military branches, and hence still a significant part of its command staff. His tone when Holdo took over was certainly insubordinate, but he did have a right to answers for the specific questions he was asking.