I'm extremely lightweight and have a slight build I would do crap all in protecting someone but I still think I would try and take the brunt of the impacts if I thought the girl I was with would appreciate it.
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I did that for a female friend at a 3 Inches of Blood show. She's maybe 5' 6 and really light so I did my best to help her. Also for the song "Deadly Sinners" the whole crowd of 100 (this venue is so tiny, you can barely move) started moshing and there was this girl who could barely be 5 foot right next to me so I decided to just protect her as well. I have no idea why, but I would have felt really bad if she got hurt.
Thats a lovely gesture, I'm sure your friend appreciated your act of chivalry.
I always appreciate it when my guy friends try to help me in those kinds of situations. It makes me feel bad that they go out of their way to help or protect me, especially when they themselves end up uncomfortable. I've tried to reason with them and tell them that "it's ok, I'm fine by myself". However, I won't lie, it's quite nice and reassuring to know they have my back
It really does surprise me that they always react and assist me BEFORE I'm even in any danger. Ha, must be an natural instinct or something.
I always appreciate it when my guy friends try to help me in those kinds of situations. It makes me feel bad that they go out of their way to help or protect me, especially when they themselves end up uncomfortable. I've tried to reason with them and tell them that "it's ok, I'm fine by myself". However, I won't lie, it's quite nice and reassuring to know they have my back
It really does surprise me that they always react and assist me BEFORE I'm even in any danger. Ha, must be an natural instinct or something.
Female.
I hate it when people do that at gigs. It really pisses me off. People know and should expect that you will end up with some sort of bruising if you want to be at the front. Regardless of gender. I say suck it up, let the girl defend herself and enjoy the gig yourself.
I hate it when people do that at gigs. It really pisses me off. People know and should expect that you will end up with some sort of bruising if you want to be at the front. Regardless of gender. I say suck it up, let the girl defend herself and enjoy the gig yourself.
This and this, on both points.The Elcor Batman said:
It was polite and a good thing to do, good job. I would have done the same, or to the best of my ability at least, also my girlfriend and other female friends are all a bit smaller, so more effort on my part there.
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Le contrast.Andalusa said:
Final verdict? It depends on the person. Quite alot, by the tone of those two posts up there.
i wouldve done the same for my friend if they were a close friend, boy or girl. if it were merely and aquatence (sp) probs not. However if it were some one who looked unable to help themselves i would, or if they were a fit stranger then definately
Yeah I'd still try and shield her. Whether she can take a hit as well as me or not, I'd rather be the one taking it.
I hate mosh pits, so I would be grateful if someone saved my ass if I ever found myself in the middle of one. However, I avoid them since I don't enjoy people rubbing against me, so my opinion may be biased. If she is that big a fan, maybe she wanted the experience of being smothered and crushed in the name of her favourite band, and you ruined the experience for her. Who knows.
Personally, I'm more interested in the music itself than the people who make it, so I don't care much for live concerts. People have said it's about "experiencing" the music, but I don't know what that means. If I have to be crushed by a mob of sweaty people to "experience" my music, I'd rather just listen to it.
Personally, I'm more interested in the music itself than the people who make it, so I don't care much for live concerts. People have said it's about "experiencing" the music, but I don't know what that means. If I have to be crushed by a mob of sweaty people to "experience" my music, I'd rather just listen to it.
I've been in this situation before, and I think that the ladies kind of expect this treatment (at least the ones I was treating like gentle flowers with osteoporosis). It would be more interesting to find out what they would do if they knew you specifically wouldn't do that.
As a female who can hold her own and has kicked a few guys asses for being asses in a mosh pit(long story don't wanna go into it) I don't necessarily mind it if a guy friend does that but I prefer them not to. Best option is to ask the girl if she minds. Though I know my guy friends and I know they would automatically so....
To be honest, if my friends did that in a situation where I could have handled myself, I'd be pretty pissed off at the presumption that I needed protecting. However, if if was a situation where I wouldn't be able to hold my own, I'd be appreciative of it.
If it's a particularly brutal pit and there's a girl who looks like she's struggling I'll help her, regardless of whether I know her or not. I've always gotten the impression that it's been appreciated. I'll help dudes out as well, it's just the way it is but obviously I look out for girls more then guys.
Generally no I go to gigs and the girls that I go with can throwdown with the best of them I've only done it once with a friend of mine a while ago at a ADTR gig she hadn't been in a pit before and one started in the breakdown of Mr Highway's and she freaked out a bit so I got her out of it. I think it's a very situational thing depending on the band that is playing and the people themselves as most of the time they know what they are in for and just as keen if not more keen than the guys which is always good to see.
Same here. I HATE when my guy friends think I need protecting (and despite being solidly built and very rough-and-tumble, I apparently have a chronic case of Disney Princess Syndrome), and I tell them to knock it off.aprilmarie said:
Chivalrous though it was, I'd still have been mad at you were I the one on her position.
Female.
Depends on the situation. If I needed help I'd be grateful, but if I didn't it would come off as extremely patronizing. On the flipside, if a male friend clearly needed help I'd help him out too - be it in a mosh pit or finding out what a girl he likes is into so he can impress her. There's nothing inherently worse about me getting hurt than him.
Depends on the situation. If I needed help I'd be grateful, but if I didn't it would come off as extremely patronizing. On the flipside, if a male friend clearly needed help I'd help him out too - be it in a mosh pit or finding out what a girl he likes is into so he can impress her. There's nothing inherently worse about me getting hurt than him.
great job I feel even if a female or even someone doesn't need your help it's always nice to give it...even if they do yell at you afterwards.
I would have done the same thing if the pit was rough and there was a possibility of her falling and getting trampled.
I would want someone to help me. I'm relatively small I'm only 5'1" and I wear glasses but people still feel the need to drag me into pits. I had my glasses broken twice and my nose while it didn't break it did bleed and split open. I'm perfect height for elbows to hit my face. I would appreciate if some one helped me out of a pit instead of reeling me back in (happened more than a dozen times now).
So if I could protect someone from getting hurt I would do it, hell I'd kick some a** for a friend if they got into a fight even if they didn't need help.
I feel even if a female or even someone doesn't need your help it's always nice to give it...even if they do yell at you afterwards.I would have done the same thing if the pit was rough and there was a possibility of her falling and getting trampled.
I would want someone to help me. I'm relatively small I'm only 5'1" and I wear glasses but people still feel the need to drag me into pits. I had my glasses broken twice and my nose while it didn't break it did bleed and split open. I'm perfect height for elbows to hit my face. I would appreciate if some one helped me out of a pit instead of reeling me back in (happened more than a dozen times now).
So if I could protect someone from getting hurt I would do it, hell I'd kick some a** for a friend if they got into a fight even if they didn't need help.
As a guy I would have done the same thing. Being 6'4" and 240lbs helps.
Went to a show with my mom once and spend most of the time watching out for her b/c she's very short, not strong, and had a huge purse with a money/credit cards with her. If you go to a show, you shouldn't have that stuff on you.
Went to a show with my mom once and spend most of the time watching out for her b/c she's very short, not strong, and had a huge purse with a money/credit cards with her. If you go to a show, you shouldn't have that stuff on you.