A quick question about a possible relationship....

[Julianking93]

Okay, I know this is another relationship advise thread, but I need advice.

So there's this girl I like who works at the theater near me. I go to movies every weekend (at least once a week) and I see her there almost every time. Whenever I see her, she smiles at me for a long time and will occasionally talk to me for a minute or two about whatever.

I never really thought anything of it. I didn't notice this as flirting or even taking a liking to me whatsoever. I just didn't notice it presumedly because I must be thick.

Well today when I went to a movie, she was asking me when was the last time I saw my cousin (turns out he works there too and they were friends). I said "I don't know, it's been a while"

Then she replied, "well, he's my boyfriend"

I was sort of dumb struck by this since this girl seems very sweet and cute while my cousin is a dick hole stoner who treats people like shit.

I didn't really say anything except for "Oh...uh okay that's cool"

But then she mumbled something really fast and I didn't catch it, then when I asked "excuse me?" she quickly stiffened up and said "nothing" and walked away. Since she was getting my order for a drink, she came back and when I was about to walk away, I asked again what she said.

Turns out, she asked "would it be weird if I gave you my number?"

So, said "No not at all" I got her number and said thank you, but I really have no clue what to do since that's never happened before.

Is she interested in me or does she just want to be friends? And why was she so quick to tell me she was dating my asshole cousin? Am I a total idiot for not seeing this sooner?

Please help.

 

[TheNumber1Zero]

Her Boyfriend's your cousin?! Why didn't you tell me this in PRIATE?!

She's using you man, to get back at your Cousin or something!
It's a Trap!

 

[pumuckl]

sounds like your cousin would kick ur ass... regardless family's family so dont even think about it

 

[Julianking93]

Her Boyfriend's your cousin?! Why didn't you tell me this in PRIATE?!

She's using you man, to get back at your Cousin or something!
It's a Trap!

Well step cousin.

His step dad was my uncle and he recently died.

But you're joking right?

....right?

 

[TheNumber1Zero]

But you're joking right?

....right?

This isn't PRIATE, so I'm being serious here.

She mumbled something, then straightened up and told you it was "Nothing"
She mentioned your Cousin, who she's dating.
She randomly gave you her number after talking about your Cousin.

I may just be Paranoid, but I wouldn't do it.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup?v=dddAi8FF3F4#t=14

Don't do it!

 

[Julianking93]

I may just be Paranoid, but I wouldn't do it.

No it can't be....can it?

But she seems so sweet

No, this can't be happening to me again....

 

[TheNumber1Zero]

No, this can't be happening to me again....

Like I said, I'm Paranoid and tend to think of the worst possible things.

If you say she seems sweet, and your Cousin is really the jerk you make him out to be, it may be worth a shot.

<--(Has no relationship experience whatsoever)

 

[Trivun]

I may just be Paranoid, but I wouldn't do it.

No it can't be....can it?

But she seems so sweet

No, this can't be happening to me again....

I'm judging by TheNumber1Zero's comments that something like this has happened to you or him before and you've dicussed it in PRIATE. Not being part of that group though, I don't know if that's the case or not.

Regardless, without knowing more about the situation my advice is somewhat limited. Nevertheless, she seems to be pretty nice and sweet, juging by the way you've described her. So I'd be careful, but nevertheless go for it. However, try and find out early on (being subtle and careful, mind you) exactly what the scenario is with your cousin, and whether or not she is just using you. But if she isn't, then by all means go for it, and good luck to you, my friend .

 

[crimson5pheonix]

If your cousin really is a stoner, if something goes wrong, you could distract your cousin with a dime bag and run.

 

[Kuchinawa212]

I guess call it and see what happens. While she maybe using you, she may also realize that your the nicer guy then your stoner cousin and may want to change

 

[chozo_hybrid]

Could just be wanting a friend?

Not everything someone does is suspicious or has a huge motive, but still, be careful and you should be fine.

 

[Julianking93]

I'm judging by TheNumber1Zero's comments that something like this has happened to you or him before and you've dicussed it in PRIATE. Not being part of that group though, I don't know if that's the case or not.

Regardless, without knowing more about the situation my advice is somewhat limited. Nevertheless, she seems to be pretty nice and sweet, juging by the way you've described her. So I'd be careful, but nevertheless go for it. However, try and find out early on (being subtle and careful, mind you) exactly what the scenario is with your cousin, and whether or not she is just using you. But if she isn't, then by all means go for it, and good luck to you, my friend .

No, we didn't discuss anything in PRIATE really, but something like this did happen to me.

I've been used twice. The only 2 times I've ever been in a relationship and both times, I was just used.

First time was to piss off someone and the next was just for...well I'd rather not discuss it.

Anyway, I don't know much about this girl. At all. I just think she's cute and she talks to me, which is why I say she's sweet, but I only see her when I go to a movie and she works at concessions.

Other than that, I know nothing of her. She could be a drug addict for all I know.

 

[Insanum]

Ok, Keep her number, But i'd sit back for a while until she leaves the sack of shizz that is you cousin.

You dont want him hunting you down because you "stole" his Girlfriend.

Unless he doesnt know where you live - Then go for it.

 

[Flare Phoenix]

I would ask her what her intention is by giving you her number. If she is just wanting to keep you as a safety net, I would just rip the number up. The reason girls are attracted to jerks is because they are more interesting than nice guys. Girls don't want someone who is perfect for them, they want someone who they believe is broken and that they can fix. They want a project not a boyfriend.

If your cousin is a jerk like you say, he will eventually hurt her, and then she'll come running to you for a shoulder to lean on while she complains how she can't find any nice guys in the world. Congratulations... you've just entered the friend zone. Pull up a chair, grab a beer (free refills) and settle in.

 

[DkLnBr]

She might've just said that to see if you were interested. When you said "Oh...uh okay that's cool" she probably thought that you weren't and mumbled something "huh, asshole doesn't even care" (or something like that). Then froze up because she thought you might have heard her. Then she might've left to regain her composure and build up courage, then just went for it (and gave you her number). So she probably is interested. But my last attempt at dating fell flat on its face, so take my comment with a grain of salt.

EDIT: So the best thing to probably do is ask your cousin, see what he has to say. If he's mad at her for something, then she's probably using you. If he says "whaa....?" then you're in the clear

 

[Flare Phoenix]

Even if she meant anything by it, do you really want to go out with someone that starts looking before breaking up with who they are already with?

 

[Eggsnham]

-Snip-

My first thoughts:

She likes you, go for it!

It's a trap!

 

[Blatherscythe]

Hang out for a while and see if something happens. Be careful though, like some people are saying she could be using you to get back at your step cousin or something.