A quick question about a possible relationship....

[Samcanuck]

Double team her.

Who know's man...women under 20 are bat shit crazy. Just find another girl, head game loving girls arent worth much, unless you can get in and get out. But stepping on your cousins toes is kinda shameless, so unless you talk it over with him and take my first advice, don't even talk to her.

 

[Julianking93]

That does sound a bit suspicious. Does she know that you don't think highly of your cousin and i'm guessing vice versa?

As I said before, I hardly know the girl, nor does she really know anything about me.

What about what you cousin has said? Would he be likely to say things about you that make it obvious to her that you two don't get along or something. The point is be cautious.

Or maybe i am reading to far into this and am just fueling your growing paranoia. Arghhh!

That is a possibility, but I doubt it.

My cousin and I don't hate each other, by any means. I was actually pretty close to him as a kid, but he sorta went off for a while, but he was always a dick who treats people like shit and everyone in my family would agree with me.

 

[MattZero]

How did she know you and your cousin are related? Since you've mentioned that you and your cousin are not close anymore and somewhat questionably related I'm assuming that the two of you don't pal around town together and I doubt your cousin would talk about you in length and show a picture. It seems like she would have to put forth a little effort to put your name, face, and relation to your cousin together. I would find that fairly suspicious if I were you.

EDIT: You may already know this, but if you don't I would recommend bringing it up casually.

 

[ottenni]

That is a possibility, but I doubt it.

My cousin and I don't hate each other, by any means. I was actually pretty close to him as a kid, but he sorta went off for a while, but he was always a dick who treats people like shit and everyone in my family would agree with me.

Well she may be seeking revenge or comfort. But i kind of doubt it. She sounds to shy for that.

 

[Julianking93]

How did she know you and your cousin are related? Since you've mentioned that you and your cousin are not close anymore and somewhat questionably related I'm assuming that the two of you don't pal around town together and I doubt your cousin would talk about you in length and show a picture. It seems like she would have to put forth a little effort to put your name, face, and relation to your cousin together. I would find that fairly suspicious if I were you.

No, I just told her one day.

He works at the same movie theater as her and I said hi to him one day while she was talking to me and that went into me telling her he's my step cousin.

 

[MattZero]

How did she know you and your cousin are related? Since you've mentioned that you and your cousin are not close anymore and somewhat questionably related I'm assuming that the two of you don't pal around town together and I doubt your cousin would talk about you in length and show a picture. It seems like she would have to put forth a little effort to put your name, face, and relation to your cousin together. I would find that fairly suspicious if I were you.

No, I just told her one day.

He works at the same movie theater as her and I said hi to him one day while she was talking to me and that went into me telling her he's my step cousin.

Then I wouldn't worry to much about it. Be a friend, if your cousin is as bad as you say you might be able to show her what a good guy is like. Being aggressive in pursuing the relationship is the last thing you want to do.

 

[Samcanuck]

Dude, honestly...put your hormones in check. All this crap can't lead to anything good but a lot of bullshit drama. And that never is fun in the end...so don't even bother with the situation. Just keep it as a confidence boost and move on.

 

[Zannah]

Okay, I know this is another relationship advise thread, but I need advice.

So there's this girl I like who works at the theater near me. I go to movies every weekend (at least once a week) and I see her there almost every time. Whenever I see her, she smiles at me for a long time and will occasionally talk to me for a minute or two about whatever.

I never really thought anything of it. I didn't notice this as flirting or even taking a liking to me whatsoever. I just didn't notice it presumedly because I must be thick.

Well today when I went to a movie, she was asking me when was the last time I saw my cousin (turns out he works there too and they were friends). I said "I don't know, it's been a while"

Then she replied, "well, he's my boyfriend"

I was sort of dumb struck by this since this girl seems very sweet and cute while my cousin is a dick hole stoner who treats people like shit.

I didn't really say anything except for "Oh...uh okay that's cool"

But then she mumbled something really fast and I didn't catch it, then when I asked "excuse me?" she quickly stiffened up and said "nothing" and walked away. Since she was getting my order for a drink, she came back and when I was about to walk away, I asked again what she said.

Turns out, she asked "would it be weird if I gave you my number?"

So, said "No not at all" I got her number and said thank you, but I really have no clue what to do since that's never happened before.

Is she interested in me or does she just want to be friends? And why was she so quick to tell me she was dating my asshole cousin? Am I a total idiot for not seeing this sooner?

Please help.

First of all, get straight wether you want to start anything, and wether you like her. Once you've cleared that for yourself, either go spy after them both (which will probably get you into trouble) or ask her straight away. No scheming or anything, just honesty. Works the best, as far as i can tell (given that I've been rather lucky with all that realtionship business, and given that I got to know my boyfriend under *really* weird circumstances, and thus can't give too much practical advice)

 

[Mookie_Magnus]

I quoted you into the Relationship problem thread

This is the guy you talk to about your relationship problems on this site.

 

[Brad Shepard]

Wow, half this thread is taken up by a plan to make fake weed.

Guys... stop derailing my thread.

if i remember right your last relactionship trend was about the bibel nut right? (please correct me if im wrong)

Is she that bad? and i was in somthing like this a while back, not = to (im being lazy) but close. i would say try it, if it happens they Yea, if not then tell her to go away and date her friend.

 

[Julianking93]

Wow, half this thread is taken up by a plan to make fake weed.

Guys... stop derailing my thread.

if i remember right your last relactionship trend was about the bibel nut right? (please correct me if im wrong)

Is she that bad? and i was in somthing like this a while back, not = to (im being lazy) but close. i would say try it, if it happens they Yea, if not then tell her to go away and date her friend.

Yeah, it was the bible freak.

No, she's not like that, but I don't know. Maybe she is. I don't know her.

 

[Brad Shepard]

Wow, half this thread is taken up by a plan to make fake weed.

Guys... stop derailing my thread.

if i remember right your last relactionship trend was about the bibel nut right? (please correct me if im wrong)

Is she that bad? and i was in somthing like this a while back, not = to (im being lazy) but close. i would say try it, if it happens they Yea, if not then tell her to go away and date her friend.

Yeah, it was the bible freak.

No, she's not like that, but I don't know. Maybe she is. I don't know her.

take a chance, just hold your heart back untel you see what she is really about.

 

[Lim3]

I don't smoke it, but one of my friends was saying that weed is getting really rare here.

Oh yeah, you should call that girl. She checked you weren't close to your cousin before giving you her number.

 

[teisjm]

Dude, theres plenty of chicks out there, one as good as the other, so just keep away from those who is potential trouble due to stuff like your situation, and find someone who's not someone you knows girlfriend, or a friends sister, or mom or something that makes things troublesome.

 

[Grand_Arcana]

I think that the safest option is to forget about her, at least for now. If you really want to confront her, just be blunt with her like:

"Thank you for giving me your number, but have you told my cousin that we're friends (or whatever) because I don't want to cause any trouble" Just to be safe, at least tell your cousin that the two of you have met. He doesn't need to know about the number.

EDIT:

Btw, what happened to that crazy Jesus freak? I can't find the old topic, and the curiosity is killing me. Feel free to ignore me though, you're not obligated to tell me. I'll just gnaw my limbs off in suspense, they do look quite tasty. . .

 

[CrysisMcGee]

Well, I'm sure it's been said already, but I'll chip in.

Always use caution when dating. Especially when the girl is in a relationship. All you should do is be yourself.

Now this is important. If you are interested in her, keep yourself out of the friend zone. You don't want to set yourself for the words "You're the best friend ever!" When you want something more. How do you do that? Be assertive. Don't let her walk all over you. And Don't "act" like a friend so much.

To be honest, every girl is different when it comes to the friend zone. Just be cool, and see where it goes. Don't kid around with her, try to act serious. Also chicks love compliments.

Now as for the cousin, talk to him, don't let him know your feelings, at least not in a manner that says to him that you want his girl, just tell him she was asking about him.

 

[Sleekgiant]

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Julian oh where to begin. Let me start by saying women can be EVILIf it seems to good to be true it probably is. I say don't do it, put the number in a drawer and don't call it. I wouldn't want you to get hurt then have to make a thread saying some of us were right and women suck.

 

[MBergman]

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Please help.

The only real advice I feel that I can give you is pretty simple, but I also think it's really worth considering: Never assume!

That's it, just think about it. For example some fellas said it was probably a trap. Maybe, but you can't know. And they certainly can't since their reasoning seem to be that: "All girls are like that." which is very much not true in all cases.

The only one that can give you any answers is probably the girl herself, so why not see what she's about? If things doesn't work out the way you hoped, so what? Really, what's the worst that could happen? If you are worried about getting used and hurt, try keeping her at an arms lenght til you know what's going on. That is you know, not think you know what's going on.

I've seen so many cases where people assumed they had the story straight, but did not, and all that came out from it was shit. Not real shit mind you, but that's pretty much what the situation turned into to.

 

[Hellz_Barz]

if you think this girl is worth it then take her from your stoner step cousin.