People are selfish, and aliens would be too. Maybe they would be a little more collective, but that only goes so far. However, realistically, why would aliens invade and murder us, waste all that time and put themselves in some amount of risk. Do they need resources? What resources do they NEED on earth that they can't get elsewhere, and that it is more practical to transport huge, interstellar distances then just make with there vast technology? If they need space, they can terraform something more easily. They might do some studies on the biology, or obtain information, knowledge and culture (As well as satisfy idle curiosity), but it would be far more effective to just trade, never mind the fact that advanced and successful species would naturally feel at least sort of, kind of bad about exterminating sentient races. Sure, maybe they are afraid that humans will pose a risk in the future, but genocide would be resource intensive for a vauge payoff of preventing disaster at some point in the distant future. Very unlikely a race that advanced would violate such basic tenents of risk management.
If we find aliens, there hypothetically would be a toss up between being peaceful and going to war, but peaceful trade is more efficient and long term sustainable, plus involves fewer unpleasant atrocities, and less collateral damage. The real kicker of course is that the vast distances mean that we would probably only be trading intangibles, like knowledge and cultural creations. A battle between aliens and Humans would more likely resemble copyright infringement cases then Enders Game. People have intellectual property, but how exactly to exchange it would be a cause for serious debate.