A word of advice... And a bit of a rant!

[saoirse13]

Here is a little tip for some of you guys out there... Actually forget just guys this is for everyone who has a partner. If said partner comes to your to spend the weekend, don't spend all your time playing computer games while said partner sits there watching crap on Netflix. They are there for a reason and most likely isn't to spend the whole time gaming. Now to be fair I've spend a good part of this time with my boyfriend playing wow and some Xbox, but there comes a point in a weekend when you want to do something other than star at a tv screen all day.

I'm off on a rant and am currently pissed off. I'm fine to play games all day but when he is the one suggesting we go for a walk or get movies out or do something else and I agree, he then just continues to play on... It's bloody annoying.

So you may all think that I'm a crazy *****.... Or some of you might take this piece of advice and save yourselves from getting a smack across the head by an annoyed partner.

 

[Calibanbutcher]

Well, if I HAD a partner and she WAS coming over for a week-end, I sure as hell wouldn't want to spend that week-end playing video games. I would much rather do stuff outside. That is if we manage to get out of bed, if you know what I mean...





Giggedy.

 

[SomeLameStuff]

That is if we manage to get out of bed, if you know what I mean...

Pillow fights are THAT entertaining huh...

OT: My reason for not getting a girlfriend is due to the fact that's what I'd probably do to her >.>

I'm not very good with people. Leave me alone!

 

[Yuno Gasai]

Honestly, you're better off bringing this stuff up with him. But I'm sure you know that already.

My ex used to do that to me, though. I think he thought that pausing every now and again to quickly hug me was enough to reassure me that he was interested in my company, but it really wasn't.

I can understand gaming together, or maybe spending some time doing stuff independently.. but isn't the whole point that you should be doing things together?

I dunno, boys are dumb sometimes.

 

[ScoopMeister]

My ex was convinced I preferred my XBox over her... despite the fact that I NEVER played it when she was around. That made me sad

 

[lechat]

you should just dump him and start dating me. i promise to devote at least 30 minuets a day to romance and shit during load screens.
either that or you can talk to him about it, us dudes love talking about our feelz and stuff

 

[Colour Scientist]

You really should be tell him this.
I know, I've been there when there's a problem and you want them to realise the problem on their own but they don't.

You just need to talk to him and say that it bothers you, I'm sure he just didn't realise it was bothering you.

 

[aba1]

Ya I have never had this issue my girlfriend loves playing games with me we do it all the time but I guess that is us and not every couple is that way. Either way though you really shouldn't be crying about it here I mean it doesn't do or solve anything at all. If you have a issue you should solve it by approaching it directly. Talk to your boyfriend he is a human being if your not being a jerk about it he will prolly listen to you.

This is a bit of a pet peeve of mine i hate when people complain rather than fixing the issue. It bothers me even more when they said they tried when really they gave up in a fit of denial without even giving a serious attempt.

 

[Qwurty2.0]

Get off the internet, talk to him, and if he doesn't listen then you dump his ass. In a relationship the person comes firsts, if he would rather spend his time on a videogame than with a girl, get rid of him because he is not worth it.

 

[DudeistBelieve]

People like to spend time with their partners. G'whhhhaaaaaa?

Nah really folks, that's what multiplayer is for.

Here is a little tip for some of you guys out there... Actually forget just guys this is for everyone who has a partner.

Nice save.

 

[clippen05]

Here is a little tip for some of you guys out there... Actually forget just guys this is for everyone who has a partner. If said partner comes to your to spend the weekend, don't spend all your time playing computer games while said partner sits there watching crap on Netflix. They are there for a reason and most likely isn't to spend the whole time gaming. Now to be fair I've spend a good part of this time with my boyfriend playing wow and some Xbox, but there comes a point in a weekend when you want to do something other than star at a tv screen all day.

I'm off on a rant and am currently pissed off. I'm fine to play games all day but when he is the one suggesting we go for a walk or get movies out or do something else and I agree, he then just continues to play on... It's bloody annoying.

So you may all think that I'm a crazy *****.... Or some of you might take this piece of advice and save yourselves from getting a smack across the head by an annoyed partner.

That seems like a piece of advice that people shouldn't have to be told... but what would I know, I've never had a significant other :/

 

[BreakfastMan]

You really should be tell him this.
I know, I've been there when there's a problem and you want them to realise the problem on their own but they don't.

You just need to talk to him and say that it bothers you, I'm sure he just didn't realise it was bothering you.

I agree with Colour, here. I mean, I am no relationship expert (never even been in one), but this was pretty much what I was thinking while reading your post. Well, that and "really, there are people who don't already know this?".

 

[Vault101]

snip.

I can see your clearly venting here...but I feel its a bit...."specific"

I mean I dont know how many people here are the "neglecting your GF/BF to play WOW" type but people come here with specific "dont be a fucking failure" advice and its a bit insult...to imply were all that kind of person

I'm sure if people had a significant other they wouldnt waste their time with them playing games

 

[Frotality]

really at this point i cant be sorry for you because your the one accepting that behaviour. this is far from the first time ive heard things like this happening, and there really is no excuse for it other than you letting it happen. stop accepting such nonsense. he can play games when hes alone, why the f**k is he there if not to spend time with you?

i might go an hour or so of computer-related nonsense before i start to remember why the hell im with her, so i dont know what his excuse is, but it probably isnt a good one.

 

[-Samurai-]

Yeah! You tell that bastard! And by tell that bastard, I mean rant on a forum, and continue to believe that men are mind readers.

That's one of the biggest problems in relationships; People don't know how to fucking communicate.

Say "Hey, let's go do "x"." And if they say no or ignore you, you fucking leave. Problem solved.

Relationships are amazingly simple.

 

[mooncalf]

While this is obviously not an assignation of blame - the dude needs to get his priorities straight - I would suggest op may have inadvertently conveyed a "too cool" level of approval re his gaming habit. Relationship threat level is: Minor, but can escalate into: Major (e.g. frustrated forum posts) if adjustments aren't made early. You earn a ton of points with a guy when you like what he likes, but if he doesn't click by himself that you liking that thing does not necessarily mean he should do more of that thing when you're around, it will be necessary to steer him in the right direction. This might be as simple as "Hey square-eyes, tits over here." or less crudely "[name], finish up okay? Time for *us* now."

A good man follows good instructions.

 

[PsychicTaco115]

Man, wouldn't it be awkward if he was a member here too and saw this thread...

OT: Like others have said, talk to him about it. Because talking helps

 

[RicoADF]

Honestly, you're better off bringing this stuff up with him. But I'm sure you know that already.

My ex used to do that to me, though. I think he thought that pausing every now and again to quickly hug me was enough to reassure me that he was interested in my company, but it really wasn't.

I can understand gaming together, or maybe spending some time doing stuff independently.. but isn't the whole point that you should be doing things together?

I dunno, boys are dumb sometimes.

It's not boys, its people. Regardless of gender everyone does silly or dumb things, the question is weather they learn to change. After all most of us have spent the majority of our lives single, being in a relationship is something everyone learns (some faster than others).

snip.

I can see your clearly venting here...but I feel its a bit...."specific"

I mean I dont know how many people here are the "neglecting your GF/BF to play WOW" type but people come here with specific "dont be a fucking failure" advice and its a bit insult...to imply were all that kind of person

I'm sure if people had a significant other they wouldnt waste their time with them playing games

Agreed, unless they were playing the game together, which ofcourse is different.