About sex

[Biosophilogical]

Before I begin I think it's necessary to point out a couple things; I'm only 16; I'm a virgin; I don't know my sexuality; the whole 'not knowing' thing is starting to irk me.

Now to my main point. As humans we experience our world through a subjective view, and we can only sympathise with others through experience (at least, I imagine that is a limitation most of us have). So when it comes to the idea of a sex drive, I can't tell whether I'm normal or not because I can't get inside the head of other people[footnote]And I would prefer to ask through the anonymity and wider audience potential of the internet than throw my parents/siblings/some of my friends a curve-ball[/footnote]. My issue is this; I ca't tell what a sex-drive is meant to feel like because I can't experience what others can, and therefore I can't know if what I feel (or lack thereof) is what others feel or not.

So this is my question; What does a sex drive feel like to you? I ask because I want to know if I've experienced it and simply dismissed it as nothing, or if I haven't experienced it (yet?). It's also an interesting social experiment as well, to see if everyone who thinks they have/does have a sex drive feels it the same way as everyone else.

NOTE: Apologies to all those getting sick of these gay/sex/love/relationship threads, this has been bothering me for a while and I figured it would be less annoying if I throw it in as part of a whole bunch of threads rather than have it as a stand-alone sex-thread.

 

[Drakmeire]

A desire to have sex is all a sex drive is.

 

[Gilhelmi]

Nonexistent. I have worked hard on self betterment to have a sex drive, I have suppressed it into nonexistence.

I do have a drive too couple with a woman and have children.

 

[Serving UpSmiles]

its like a pot on the stove, when it gets too hot, you need to take it off the stove with a partner (or your self) and let out the steam, thats sex drive to me.


so help me god mum if you lied to me....

 

[Slenn]

Well, you ask a very good question for the position you're in at the moment. A sex drive to me starts initially from the physical features: signs of health, nice complexion, body curves, signs that are basically hammered into human instinct. If those appeal to you then your body is telling you that that person is a potential mate.

Attraction is usually what starts relationships. If you like the appeal or personality of the same sex, then it works just the same way as if you were attracted to the opposite sex.

 

[TaboriHK]

Before I begin I think it's necessary to point out a couple things; I'm only 16; I'm a virgin; I don't know my sexuality; the whole 'not knowing' thing is starting to irk me.

Now to my main point. As humans we experience our world through a subjective view, and we can only sympathise with others through experience (at least, I imagine that is a limitation most of us have). So when it comes to the idea of a sex drive, I can't tell whether I'm normal or not because I can't get inside the head of other people[footnote]And I would prefer to ask through the anonymity and wider audience potential of the internet than throw my parents/siblings/some of my friends a curve-ball[/footnote]. My issue is this; I ca't tell what a sex-drive is meant to feel like because I can't experience what others can, and therefore I can't know if what I feel (or lack thereof) is what others feel or not.

So this is my question; What does a sex drive feel like to you? I ask because I want to know if I've experienced it and simply dismissed it as nothing, or if I haven't experienced it (yet?). It's also an interesting social experiment as well, to see if everyone who thinks they have/does have a sex drive feels it the same way as everyone else.

NOTE: Apologies to all those getting sick of these gay/sex/love/relationship threads, this has been bothering me for a while and I figured it would be less annoying if I throw it in as part of a whole bunch of threads rather than have it as a stand-alone sex-thread.

This whole post is adorable. Don't worry about it, kid. This isn't something you even need to think about unless you're getting the urge around children or animals. And don't use so many big words, it makes you sound nervous.

 

[Dogstile]

You mean like how do you know if you're attracted to someone in the sense of wanting to have intercourse (Ugh, I hate not being able to use crude terms).

Its rather simple, your'll feel it. Especially down below.

 

[Tasachan]

It will be more obvious once you have had sex the first time, ironic I know.

I never thought of it this way, but its true. At your age I was more 'I kinda want to know what its like, but I'm not aching to have it.' Then once I had it, and it was good (the first few times, not so much) it was 'OMG I need to get me more!' and noticing hot guys and actually feeling aroused.

 

[Nickolai77]

Assuming you go to a mixed gendered high-school, you'll see some girls whom you will find attractive. Maybe it's their breasts, asses, or legs i don't know, but if you catch your eye wandering to these regions then you know you have a normal male sex drive.

 

[Dessembrae]

download a ton of porn of every kind and see if you get turned on by any of them

 

[Sneeze]

It's actually kinda hard to explain, it's just an urge, I guess. Kinda like the need to eat or drink except not quite as life threatening (although how some people behave you could be fooled...).

 

[Lawbringer]

For me (as a male) it is as though something is slightly amiss if I am not receiving some sort of sexual thrill, whether from a female or myself.

That's not to say I have some sort of sex addiction or anything, but more on the level of being slightly thirsty on a warm day - I can manage perfectly fine without a drink, but it's certainly at the back of my mind!

Again, I have no idea how it feels to other people, but it seems perfectly reasonable to me - as a living organism I am genetically predisposed to wish to pass on genetic material. As a human being, this process also includes moments of intense pleasure, which I have effectively conditioned myself to associate with fulfilling the duty of my existence.

I feel that's quite an in-depth analysis considering all I am talking about is the non-stop wish to put my dingle dangle inside a woman's woohoo...!

 

[MassiveGeek]

Wow.

I can't tell you how relieved I am to hear someone refer to themselves as "only sixteen"(comes from a 17 year old, lol). Most people I know lost their virginity at 12-14 or are still virgins. Where's the damn middleground?!

From personal experience, I can confirm that it's easier to feel sexdrive once you've actually had sex - wanting to have sex is a sex drive. You'll probably feel it, either by being horny or just by longing to be that close to someone.

Because to me sex is about just that - being REALLY close to someone. I don't see anything appealing about having a one-night stand or anything, but being with my boyfriend is something I really look foward to.

Messy post, should go to bed. >_>
<_<

 

[Lawbringer]

There is no fascinating mental state of our sex drive, now love on the other hand is a mind-fuck extraordinare.

Oh god, don't start this debate off - sex and love should have a restraining order so that they can't both be present in the same discussion at the same time!

 

[Biosophilogical]

So, from what I can gather, it's a subtle thing? It's just, with everyone around me wanting to nail anything with a heartbeat and an hairless armpit I was expecting something more ... obsessive ... no that's not the right word ... compulsive? Mentally over-powering? ... I was expecting it to have more .. umph behind it.

 

[Bender Rodriguez]

its like the tide, when i see or feel something sensual or sexy i get a tingle and a sensation of cheeky joy.
I savior it, jump in....and ride the wave.

 

[MonkeyFish189]

So, from what I can gather, it's a subtle thing? It's just, with everyone around me wanting to nail anything with a heartbeat and an hairless armpit I was expecting something more ... obsessive ... no that's not the right word ... compulsive? Mentally over-powering? ... I was expecting it to have more .. umph behind it.

If there's one golden rule about boys at your age (and I say this speaking as one) it's that most of them will try to talk up EVERYTHING sexual relating to them, whether it be a drive, experience or even opportunities for it. It's part of trying to be "top dog".