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Kuroneko97

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This may be a rather immature question to ask for help on, but fuck it.

I am 14-year-old girl. And, as the title would suggest, I have a crush on a boy in my grade (9th).

Generally, to show my interest in them subtly, I often spend time with them, throw out an occasional compliment, ask questions about them, and try to look them in the eyes when talking (I have a problem with that). I do my best to smile, which isn't a problem because I can't help smiling when I see them, and I'm trying to improve my posture.

I've actually found we have a lot of things in common with each other. We both draw, have watched some anime, have some type of OCD, are Hispanic (but that's irrelevant, I guess), generally enjoy chocolate as our favorite sweet, and often have a sarcastic attitude. Another thing, which I usually find important in somebody, is that he generally does well in his classes, and he even occasionally helps me with some math questions, since I'm a bit slow sometimes and never understand proofs.

Now that I've laid out the basic facts, here is where I need advice. How do you tell if somebody has an interest in you too? The only hint I have gotten is that he often sneaks glances at me during class or at the lunch table. Sometimes I catch him, but sometimes I notice out of the corner of my eye. I also remember saying how much I love South Park, and getting the reply that he doesn't watch it that much. A few days later he now knows about several episodes, and watches every new episode, even mentioning it in class the next day. The reason I got was that "he was bored and had nothing else to watch." That's a believable reason to me, though; I don't go out of my way to watch It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia, but I've seen a lot of episodes.

That's the main thing I'd like advice on. If you're a guy, it may help more, so I could see the other gender's perspective on such things, and know how a guy acts/feels when they have a crush on a girl.
 

ErrorCode1337

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I can say from personal experience I would often sneak glances at girls I liked. Its sorta a first universal sign anyone likes anyone else. They're checking you out, and for good reason. If he's trying to sneak a look at you, it probably means he's thinking of you, thinks you're cute etc etc, obviously he's somewhat interested in you. Same with the shared interests and watching South Park. You have a crush that likes stuff you don't know much about, he knows it could only help his position if you guys shared more interests and thus he gives South Park a shot. If this guy was anything like me or any other guy I knew in school he's definitely into you. My overall advice? What Katatori says. Wait for him to make a move, maybe pick things up a bit more, such as throwing out the idea of calling each other, talking and hanging out outside of school and if he still doesn't make a move but still shows real interest, make it yourself, sort of. I remember no matter what, I was a nervous f*** and even if it seems like a girl might have liked me I could never whip up the balls to say anything. But he should learn to act on his own accord so just try to push him in the right direction.
Hope that helped!
 

Aoper

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They're teaching proofs to ninth graders?! I guess I was in the ultra slow math class D:
Anyways, take a chance. I'd say don't wait for him to make the move. For one, a girl with confidence is pretty attractive to a lot of guys. Second, you don't wanna wait and risk something else happening, and wonder if you two could have had something. Go for it :]
 

Joshua Bold

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If this guy has ever posted on this forum or any other gaming forum, odds are he's somewhat shy. Confidence is definately going to work in your favour. Just flat out ask him. Long as you 2 can maintain a decent conversation, then things will work out :D
 

F7A537

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confidence is key once again :) when i was 14 -2 years ago- i was nowhere near confident enough with girls and did just what he's doing, little glances and trying to talk with her, didn't work with her (turns out not my type :p ) but it helped to know. i would say just ask him if he'd like to meet up or something, that's what i'd do :) it's worked for me why not you? go for it
 

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Kuroneko97 said:
Generally, to show my interest in them subtly, I often spend time with them, throw out an occasional compliment, ask questions about them, and try to look them in the eyes when talking (I have a problem with that). I do my best to smile, which isn't a problem because I can't help smiling when I see them, and I'm trying to improve my posture.

Do you notice him doing any of this, and if so, in your direction. male and female's arn't really all that different, we show the same signs when we're, shy, shocked and in love.
Speak with your friend, and at the end of the day if you both want to change your relationship take your time and be honest with yourself and each other.
 

Genericjim101

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Quick little glances, lack of eye contact,yet happy to be around you, these indicate a crush. Problem is picking up on subtlety is not the strong point of 14 year old boys so either be patient or make the first move.