After a break up I...

[LittleWench1629]

A few weeks ago, a friend of mine was broken up with by her boyfriend. They had been together for about 3 and a bit years and understandably she was very upset.
After calling me she said that she was going to go swimming to chill out and calm herself.
So this is my question for you guys:
What is the first thing you do or would do after being dumped?

 

[DanielBrown]

Avoided relationships the past years, but I don't recall doing anything special after I dumped the girls. Continued like usual, felt a bit more free and started hugging my pillow at night.

 

[Kortney]

I've never been dumped before, but I imagine if and when it happens I will kill myself to make the other person feel bad.

I joke, I joke.

I'd probably listen to music, cry and wallow in self pity!

 

[Ladette]

I've only been dumped once, but I hit the bottle pretty hard. I ended up either drunk or hung over for 3 days straight, I just didn't want to get up. Looking back, I reacted badly, and i'm still pissed at myself for that.

 

[ultrachicken]

Your friend has a very healthy way of dealing with the situation, kudos to her (I assume your friend's a girl).

I've never gotten together with someone, so I don't have experience with the situation. I surmise that I'd just play tons of video-games; You know, the usual.

 

[Astoria]

I'd rather not think about how I'd react. Let's just say it'll be very bad.

 

[Nieroshai]

What I did:
1. Pleaaded over the phone for her not to go
2. Shaved my entire body
3. Contemplated suicide
4. (after my roommate slapped some sense into me and hid my knives) asked her if I could see her one last time before I left her life
5. We went on a sad "farewell date" and I got the "we can still be friends" talk, went home and threw away everything I had that reminded me of her but fished them out of the dumpster the next day.
6. I resolved to win her back.


Long story short, through fluctuations between her hating my guts and yelling at me to her wanting me back but wanting to be sure I learned my lesson first, two things happened.
First of all, I straightened up my life and stopped being a pathetic slacker. Second, I finally convinced her months later that I wasn't just faking it to get her back.
We got back on friendly terms, but she'd get mad every time I mentioned getting back together. On the weekend before Valentine's Day, I came over to play Halo with her(yes she plays) and she broke down crying and asked me to come back. Why? Why not just move on? Because I'm the only person in the world other than her own mother that respects her. She missed the stability of having the one best friend she'd ever had, and now that I wasn't failing school and wasting my money on trinkets to ease my feeling of self-worthlessness(recovering emo, collecting things helped keep my mind off of it), she felt I was the only person left she had to rely on.
To cap that story, we're engaged and pretty happy now. Sadly, she had to move to the other side of the state, but I go see her a weekend out of every month. If I wasn't broke bc of the economy, we'd be married.

 

[CheesusCrust]

I've never been dumped before. I've also never been in a relationship so I can't really judge how much I would care about that person and how big a deal it would be for me.
I usually take things in stride anyway so I wouldn't expect any overreactions or anything.

 

[Dr. Pepper Unlimited]

Spend time with friends. It takes your mind off something like that.

 

[QuirkyTambourine]

I went to my room in my apartment, acted like nothing happened around my friends, and wrote some of the best damn music I've ever written.

It was a productive breakup if nothing else

 

[Centarius38]

together

What I did:
1. Pleaaded over the phone for her not to go
2. Shaved my entire body
3. Contemplated suicide
4. (after my roommate slapped some sense into me and hid my knives) asked her if I could see her one last time before I left her life
5. We went on a sad "farewell date" and I got the "we can still be friends" talk, went home and threw away everything I had that reminded me of her but fished them out of the dumpster the next day.
6. I resolved to win her back.


Long story short, through fluctuations between her hating my guts and yelling at me to her wanting me back but wanting to be sure I learned my lesson first, two things happened.
First of all, I straightened up my life and stopped being a pathetic slacker. Second, I finally convinced her months later that I wasn't just faking it to get her back.
We got back on friendly terms, but she'd get mad every time I mentioned getting back together. On the weekend before Valentine's Day, I came over to play Halo with her(yes she plays) and she broke down crying and asked me to come back. Why? Why not just move on? Because I'm the only person in the world other than her own mother that respects her. She missed the stability of having the one best friend she'd ever had, and now that I wasn't failing school and wasting my money on trinkets to ease my feeling of self-worthlessness(recovering emo, collecting things helped keep my mind off of it), she felt I was the only person left she had to rely on.
To cap that story, we're engaged and pretty happy now. Sadly, she had to move to the other side of the state, but I go see her a weekend out of every month. If I wasn't broke bc of the economy, we'd be married.

Wow that is such a nice story, i hope you two will have a long happy life.

 

[Naheal]

I threw myself at my work. It worked for a while, until I realized that she was gone. When it hit me, I could barely stand for a few minutes and couldn't concentrate for a good hour and a half.

Bear in mind that I pride myself on emotional control, so an outburst like that is a pretty big one. The only other emotion that I've ever had burst out so quickly and powerfully is anger/rage.

 

[Wolf-AUS]

The bottle is the answer. Coupled with self-pity they make a good team for being dumped.

 

[Ganthrinor]

Fast.
Meditate. (or pray, whatever you want to call it)
Contemplate Theoretial Physics.
Move on.

 

[Jelly ^.^]

I attempt to stick to six scotches on the first night, and fail miserably.

Therefore making me much more miserable about the hangover than the breakup and winning by losing more

 

[Smooth Operator]

I go kill some people (no wait can't talk about that)
Afterwards I get drunk and do some inappropriate stuff, then wallow in self-pity for some time and eventually move on.

Girls do suggest I go out and have some casual sex to cheer up, but without tons of spare cash or chloroform that is quite a task...

 

[blankedboy]

I'd probably just be sad.
I suppose I'd lose concentration in school (or uni, if i dont have a boyfriend while im at school (which i doubt i will )) for a while, maybe get a bit pissed at myself. I actually don't really know.

 

[Biosophilogical]

Wonder how I not only ended up in my first ever relationship, but somehow managed to screw it up before I even realised I was in it.

OT: Never having been in a relationship, I can't answer accurately, but I imagine some alone time, loud music, gut-wrenching pain and a lot of chocolate/nachos.

 

[Rylot]

The only break up that really affected me was one when I was in High school and after that one I cried while playing video games for a few days and then spent all my time hating her... I'm really not a very mature person.