Am I a douche for my thoughts

[Ancientgamer]

If you told her what you though, she's being an idiot.

If you actually told her what to do, you're a douche.

 

[KillerH]

I would have to say it's her, but that's a very generalized overview of the situation in the OP. Would need a bit of a better explanation about your wording when you told her this, or kind of tone used.

 

[thebobmaster_v1legacy]

If she asks for your honest opinion she has no right to get mad when you give it to her. Sadly though, this is a concept many women don't understand. If you need proof just look at the whole "Does this make my butt look big?" phenomenon.

There is no proper answer to that question. You say "yes", you are being a chauvinist pig. You say "no", you are only lying to make her feel better.

 

[blue heartless]

The reason for changing her image is so that people (and I guess you) would see her in "a different light". Way to discourage your girlfriend.

 

[Nomad]

My girlfriend recently told me that she wanted to change her style to a more "saucy" one. This includes more low cut tops, skinnier pants, and just tighter garments in general. She asked me for my thoughts and I told her that this would make me look at her in a different light, and her and her friends have jumped down my throat calling me a controlling, freedom stealing dick. Am I in the wrong for disagreeing?

If you would've jumped her about it, then that might've been a little mean. But she asked you, and you gave an honest response. From what I gather you haven't tied her down to a chair and smacked her back into place? Then no, you're not a freedom-stealing dick. One cannot be punished for one's opinion, and she asked you for it.

 

[BlankZero]

I don't know if you're a douche, but you're certainly not getting invited to "The Man Club, VIP Edition" any time soon. It doesn't seem like you're being controlling, given the story you've told us here, but what guy doesn't want his girlfriend to show off a little? It sounds to me like you have a few insecurities to deal with.

I won't keep you.

 

[dasUnbekannte]

This crap right here is why I have very few female friends.
She was hoping that you'd jump on the train to more-boobs-town, and felt insulted when you didn't. Maybe felt unattractive. If you had said, "I don't really like clothes like that" she'd probably have internalized it, but you pushed it on her by saying, "that would make me view you in a different light (a slutty one)" which fueled her to sick her friends on you.

She sounds crazy, though. That ones that sick the friends on you make me rage like nothing else.

Okay,

 

[boholikeu]

If she asks for your honest opinion she has no right to get mad when you give it to her. Sadly though, this is a concept many women don't understand. If you need proof just look at the whole "Does this make my butt look big?" phenomenon.

There is no proper answer to that question. You say "yes", you are being a chauvinist pig. You say "no", you are only lying to make her feel better.

That was exactly my point.

 

[Doctor What]

It has to do with differences in personalities. I like to wear slacks and dress shirts while she likes to wear...well...I don't know anymore. I just don't see the appeal in having people look at you, is what it really boils down to, I suppose.

 

[MrSnugglesworth]

Depends on the tone of your voice.

This.


Everything depends on the tone you say it in. Take the word "Indeed" for example.

 

[Pimppeter2]

Depends on the tone of your voice.

This.


Everything depends on the tone you say it in. Take the word "Indeed" for example.

Indeed.


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[2012 Wont Happen]

If she asked for your thoughts, she should have considered they might not agree with hers. That's like rule one of asking someones opinion directly- once you do, you've just lost all right to be offended by their opinion.

 

[Big_McLargehuge]

I find most women just prefer when their man nods and smiles, agreeing with whatever they say.

Funny, cause if it were the other way around, with the man wanting the nodding and smiling, there'd be copious legal action at some point, I'm sure.

 

[Tom13ombadil]

I really wouldnt know. I look at all women as floating uterus sammich machines.

 

[Weaver]

In my experience there are women who want to dress like sluts to get attention but not feel bad about it.

 

[likalaruku]

Her friends are jumping down your throat because you'll see her differently if she starts dressing like a hoochie?

My womanly opinion is that if a married or dating girl starts dressing like a hoochie while she's in a relationship, she's totaly looking for alternative attention on the side, or a replacement.

 

[Serge A. Storms]

If she wants to feel more sexy, I recommend trying new things in the bed.

 

[gamefreakbsp]

She and her friends are little more than whiny, uppity know-it-all feminists based on this description. Drop em like a bad habit and roll on with life before they eat it off your plate.

Heh. I must say that does really hit on my last nerve when I encounter someone like that. Don't get me wrong. I don't find anything wrong with women discovering their independence or whatever. I just wish they would tone it down with the diehard, "I know exactly what you are all about, and since it isn't about me becoming the most dominant persona in the room, get out of my way" attitude.

 

[Doctor What]

She's always had a bit of a self esteem issue, and by being with me for a while I guess it stopped, but now things have kind of plateaued and she needs a new way to feel better about herself. That's what I've gathered so far.