Am I a douche for my thoughts

[TheLefty]

I don't even see where the conflict is.

 

[nicholaxxx]

I really wouldnt know. I look at all women as floating uterus sammich machines.

am I a bad person for admitting I laughed at this?

OT: no, you aren't.

 

[elemenetal150]

I think you should try to figure out why she wants to do such a thing before passing judgment

 

[Bat Vader]

I've tried explaining that I think that style wouldn't suit her, and that I love how she dresses now. She keeps going on about how I stifle her freedom, but she complains more about my clothes than I do hers. She asked for my opinion but started getting on my case when I gave it. It's just clothes, I guess my Y chromosome inhibits me from understanding fashion, along with keeping my mouth shut.

I say let her dress like she wants. If she does not like it is her fault not yours. Also, if you cannot speak your mind about her clothes what gives her the right to speak her mind about yours?

She sounds like a hypocrite. Also, what does she not like about your clothes?

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

You said, "make me look at her in a different light," not, "for every inch you take off your skirt I will take a foot off your left leg now make me a sandwich goddammit."

You are not at fault.

This post has earned you plus 10 internetz. Congratulations.

Seriously, probably the most funny, and effective, way to make this point.

 

[jboking]

Did you tell her the light you would see her in was a bad one? Did you try to stop her from changing her look? If not, then you haven't done anything to influence the choice much one way or the other. I've been in this kind of situation before though. To be honest, the best thing to do is just say your sorry if what you said upset her and then explain that a different light isn't a bad thing(or something to that general effect).

 

[Pegghead]

Just because you said "It would make me see you in a different light" because she wanted to change her look her friends jumped down your throat. Trust me that's just coming from the friends and saying that does not make you a douchey controller.

 

[Funkysandwich]

Do you think it's worth pursuing the relationship at this point?

As much as it would please me to find a nice way to put this, I can't, so please don't be offended by my ultra-bluntness, but if she feels she has to turn into a shallow attention whore to cope with her insecurities, I'd probably dump her.

I find those type of girls the least attractive, ironically. Sure, eye-candy is nice, but there's more to girls than that.

 

[Erana]

OK, Typical modern Western morals say that one isn't wrong for disagreeing with another person.
I don't know enough about a decision to make a judgment call, but how about, as a whole, we not completely antagonize someone we don't know, k?

 

[Twilight_guy]

If she dresses like a slut and you call her on it then she's in the wrong. Although you might have to find a new girlfriend since she may be very angry. Of course she might actually be a slut so that's a good thing for you.

 

[Biosophilogical]

You said, "make me look at her in a different light," not, "for every inch you take off your skirt I will take a foot off your left leg now make me a sandwich goddammit."

You are not at fault.

You, good sir, made me laugh.

OT: I agree with this guy .. well, except the left leg thing, after all, she only has one left foot.

 

[Doctor What]

We've come to a conclusion. She can wear clothes that make her feel smexy, as long as she's not "fun," which is showing off stuff. I'll keep my big mouth shut, and she'll buy me a record when she plans to wear those clothes. Problem solved people

 

[Cerity]

If she's a complainer and nothing seems to make her happy I'd say hit the road jack. Sounds like she has answers pre-thought up for you and when you don't spit em out she's upset. She needs to grow up a bit, ok ok... possibly a lot. There are plenty of fish in the sea and lots of them can communicate way better than this girl.

 

[Guitarmasterx7]

No, you're not a douche, but you are gay...

 

[asinann]

She's done with you and trolling for a new man.

 

[Weaver]

Tell her you're worried her desire to dress in such a fashion is because you've been in a relationship for 5 years and she's scouting for someone different.

In reality, perhaps she just feels the desire to change things up and feel different, 5 years is a long time.

 

[Shepard's Shadow]

If that is in fact all that happened, no you are not wrong.

 

[Dr. wonderful]

My girlfriend recently told me that she wanted to change her style to a more "saucy" one. This includes more low cut tops, skinnier pants, and just tighter garments in general. She asked me for my thoughts and I told her that this would make me look at her in a different light, and her and her friends have jumped down my throat calling me a controlling, freedom stealing dick. Am I in the wrong for disagreeing?

No, She asked for your option, you gave her it.

It she jumped down your throat for that, then it time to get back in the dating game

 

[ffxfriek]

My girlfriend recently told me that she wanted to change her style to a more "saucy" one. This includes more low cut tops, skinnier pants, and just tighter garments in general. She asked me for my thoughts and I told her that this would make me look at her in a different light, and her and her friends have jumped down my throat calling me a controlling, freedom stealing dick. Am I in the wrong for disagreeing?

No, She asked for your option, you gave her it.

It she jumped down your throat for that, then it time to get back in the dating game

exactly. man its not your fault and its none of her friends business id say

 

[Numb1lp]

She asked for your opinion, but remember: SHE'S A WOMEN. She doesn't want your opinion, she wants you to reinforce hers.