Am I a douche for my thoughts

[tattooedsaint87]

Hell no, man!

She asked you what you thought...

But take it from me: nothing against your girlfriend but women are all the same - they're a difficult species to understand. They normally totally ignore anything you say when it's nothing to do with them - notice all the groups on FaceBook based around the "I'm a guy..."

I once had a girlfriend who one night decided she'd try to sit on my lap quite hard to cause me discomfort for a giggle... I told her (as she was quite small) that she wouldn't be able to hurt me. She mistook this as me saying "Your arse is so fat you'd have a soft landing."

Where's the logical link between the two, I ask you!

 

[DeathChairOfHell]

Well, how low/skinny are we talking about? There's a difference between saucy and slutty....

But no, you aren't wrong for disagreeing, from what I can tell.

i agree.

 

[CouchCommando]

Just say if they don't want your opinion don't ask, its just the female mind at work there. Get used to it.

 

[Chipperz]

Tell her she can wear whatever she wants, but she's never allowed to criticise you for anything you wear again either. Start wearing stuff you know will make her uncomfortable.

I would say your other option is to ditch the psychopathic *****, but the market for girls without severe mental problems is dwindling rapidly...

 

[vorlors]

no if what you say is true she did ask for your oppion and you spoke the truth

 

[Grampy_bone]

Yeah, you are a douche.

You were thinking other guys would be ogling her and didn't like it because you're insecure. Funny how women work, if you had been a man and told her this up front she may have respected your wishes, but because you acted like a weasel about it she's punishing you, and rightly so. You projected your own issues onto her and put her down. Way to go.

Did you ever think she wanted to dress more sexy to make YOU happy? Dumbass.

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

If you told her what you though, she's being an idiot.

If you actually told her what to do, you're a douche.

This. If my girlfriend said she was going to change her style to what you have described, I'd probably just take her out to very expensive places so she wouldn't have the opportunity. Slutty attire disgusts me, but I wouldn't tell her I thought that...

 

[tattooedsaint87]

Tell her she can wear whatever she wants, but she's never allowed to criticise you for anything you wear again either. Start wearing stuff you know will make her uncomfortable.

I would say your other option is to ditch the psychopathic *****, but the market for girls without severe mental problems is dwindling rapidly...

Thank God! Someone else has noticed it! You know what I think it is? Lack of decent gaming. I mean look at us guys - We play COD, HALO, GoW, L4D, etc - we all know how to go insane - its on the legions of terrorists/aliens/zombies/casual gamers that clog up our games and online experience, not on our partners...

 

[Beartrucci]

She asked for your opinion on something she had been thinking about lately. It depends on how you said it, but unless you told her that she is definitely not allowed to dress like that, you aren't at fault.

 

[Lostpropht]

I dont think youre wrong in the least. The first thing id as is... "Why?" I mean dressing saucy is all well and good... but showing bra AND toe is something else all together.. just tell her how you feel.. without inserting foot into mouth lol

 

[aPod]

My girlfriend recently told me that she wanted to change her style to a more "saucy" one. This includes more low cut tops, skinnier pants, and just tighter garments in general. She asked me for my thoughts and I told her that this would make me look at her in a different light, and her and her friends have jumped down my throat calling me a controlling, freedom stealing dick. Am I in the wrong for disagreeing?

If your girlfriend is hot, yes you are a douchebag... damn you for not letting her be noticed and possibly hit on by other guys, like myself.

100% Douche.

 

[tattooedsaint87]

I've tried explaining that I think that style wouldn't suit her, and that I love how she dresses now. She keeps going on about how I stifle her freedom, but she complains more about my clothes than I do hers. She asked for my opinion but started getting on my case when I gave it. It's just clothes, I guess my Y chromosome inhibits me from understanding fashion, along with keeping my mouth shut.

Funnily enough I've often thought the same thing. I've found (as other people have commented) women aren't interested in what us guys say - they want to hear what they want to hear (if that makes sense) When they ask "Does my arse look big in this?" The answer might be "Yes it looks like two hunchbacks decided to start arm-wrestling under a rug." but they want to hear "No."

The Y chromosome doesn't inhibit us as guys from being able to keep our mouth shut, it just gives us the witicism that some women don't want to hear. These women are probably likely to make good business managers, politicians or mean-spirited lunch-ladies at school.

 

[Stoic raptor]

I seriously didnt get it. Why were they mad?

 

[Carnagath]

A girl complaining about her freedom? Interesting, also hard to imagine, since I've never been with a girl that didn't try to control me in ways that made me completely miserable as soon as 6 months in the relationship. So, uhm, you are fighting about clothes? That sounds cute to me... But with kids these days, you never know, it might be serious, they are so spoiled and dramatic and weird...

 

[Zombus]

To sound utterly stereotypical, and to defy my mysoginistic habit of (almost) always picking the man's side in every argument, the promblem here originates with comunication. Does she want to dress more more saucy for herself, for you, or for other guys? If she is doing it for attention from other guys then the problem is that she feels she can get from them something she can't get from you, and the responsibility of finding out what that is and dealing with it falls on both your and her shoulders. If she is doing it for you and you aren't comfortable with it tell her that you feel threatened or w/e, don't make it about her; if you are comfortable with it, once more tell her you apreciated it. If she is doing it just to feel better about herself, you can give your opinion but she doesn't have to agree with it.

TL;DR? Ask her why she wants to change up her style.

 

[Chewster]

Depends on why she wants to do it. You'd do well to find that out before making any sort of judgement call.

 

[Samurai Goomba]

Does the woman disagree?

Then you are wrong.

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(Note the "joke" part of that url and please adjust your righteous indignation accordingly.)