Am I a douche for my thoughts

[dietpeachsnapple]

I am conflicted and uninformed.

If they are trying to change your view of her, then they are also trying to be 'controlling.' Much less, why would 'saucy' change your view of her in a positive manner?

Second, if you being a 'controlling douche,' is a problem, she can leave you - or are you controlling that too?

 

[JoshGod]

please ilaborate, what exactly did you say.
if you said NO your my ***** you'll dress how i say! then yeah
but if u said i would prefer if you didnt (explain-yes u explain to me why u dont want her wearing more sexy clothing) then no

either way your being insecure that others will see her clothing and steal her. so yeah illd expect her to be pissed a bit. also women usually dont ask for input more reasurance of their own decisions.... then again actually thats everyone.
next time

I find most women just prefer when their man nods and smiles, agreeing with whatever they say.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

... What, would they have prefered you lied?
You told her you would see her in a different light. It's not like you cursed her out, or anything.
Hell, you didn't even tell her not to. You just said it wasn't something you are into.

So, either you are not being completely honest, or these girls are completely overeacting.
I'm gonna hazard a guess and say it is probably a little bit of both.

 

[Chris^^]

no, you're allowed your own opinion. what right have her friends got to interfere anyways?

 

[funguy2121]

You haven't really elaborated at all. Are we talking middriff here or hot pants or assless chaps? It matters.

 

[BonsaiK]

My girlfriend recently told me that she wanted to change her style to a more "saucy" one. This includes more low cut tops, skinnier pants, and just tighter garments in general. She asked me for my thoughts and I told her that this would make me look at her in a different light, and her and her friends have jumped down my throat calling me a controlling, freedom stealing dick. Am I in the wrong for disagreeing?

Yes and no. Your question has been answered in the Relationship Problem Thread, which is at the following link: ----> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161?page=21#4556752

 

[DracoSuave]

My girlfriend recently told me that she wanted to change her style to a more "saucy" one. This includes more low cut tops, skinnier pants, and just tighter garments in general. She asked me for my thoughts and I told her that this would make me look at her in a different light, and her and her friends have jumped down my throat calling me a controlling, freedom stealing dick. Am I in the wrong for disagreeing?

Yes and no. Your question has been answered in the Relationship Problem Thread, which is at the following link: ----> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161?page=21#4556752

You, sir, have wise + 4.

 

[BonsaiK]

I had to sacrifice str, con and dex points though. Everything is a tradeoff.

 

[Kathinka]

I had to sacrifice str, con and dex points though. Everything is a tradeoff.

dirty min-maxer-munchkins^^

 

[BonsaiK]

I had to sacrifice str, con and dex points though. Everything is a tradeoff.

dirty min-maxer-munchkins^^

Hey there's no point playing a "relationship wizard" without the proper character build.

 

[DracoSuave]

I had to sacrifice str, con and dex points though. Everything is a tradeoff.

Those things are overrated in real encounters with motags*.



*members of the appropriate gender

 

[FleaJr]

i didn't even read the post, but yes you are

Nah, in all seriousness, it sounds like they overreacted. If she wants to change her image, she must expect to be seen in a different light, what's her problem?

However, if she really is trying to change her image in that respect, and she's all uppity about you being 'controlling' I'd be considering the possibility that
a) She's trying to impress someone (this may be you, her friends, or another guy
b) She's looking for an excuse to get angry with you... you may consider her motives.

Either way, don't be a dick, she is overreacting, but people want what they will, don't sully your honour by overreacting back at her.

 

[Samuel Cook]

To me it sounds odd that someone would want to change their style just like that. Although I suppose girls think differently to us, but it does seem odd that although she already has a boyfriend, she'd want to start wearing more revealing clothes. I don't think you did anything wrong. At the end of the day, she asked for your opinion, and you gave it.

 

[flyingviking]

Smile and wave brother, smile and wave...

 

[RanD00M]

Not you have your right of an opinion.You just said that you would look at her differently.But you don´t make her not do it.

So it was an opinion,not a command.And opinions are a good thing.

 

[DracoSuave]

Not you have your right of an opinion.You just said that you would look at her differently.But you don´t make her not do it.

So it was an opinion,not a command.And opinions are a good thing.

Yeah, but I've known many a passive agressive guy for whom that polite honesty is the equivalent of going NOOOOOOOOOoooooooo! because communication's a lost artform, or because too many women have tried to communicate to them in this way... or any other number of reasons.

The real fact is, no one is actually communicating what they really are honestly feeling, and that's the problem.

 

[RN7]

You are not wrong for disagreeing. You were simply voicing your opinion to your girlfriend. It's not like you commanded her to stay the way she is. The amount of saucyness in the clothing would kind of dictate your opinion as well. There is a clear distinction from being "Free" and from being a "Harlot".

 

[Kathinka]

You are not wrong for disagreeing. You were simply voicing your opinion to your girlfriend. It's not like you commanded her to stay the way she is. The amount of saucyness in the clothing would kind of dictate your opinion as well. There is a clear distinction from being "Free" and from being a "Harlot".

though i want to stress again how important her intention is. even dressing rather slutty might be acceptable if she wants to please you by it.

on the other hand if she does it to try and get other guys intentions, things are not well^^

 

[fix-the-spade]

She asked me for my thoughts and I told her that this would make me look at her in a different light

Did you define different light? If you didn't there's still the chance for an epic save.

 

[veloper]

she's just looking for another guy.