recently my aunt died and my grandfather though for some reason i dont feel sad at all. i dont "feel dead inside" ect. i just dont feel anything... dose that make me a monster?
am i a monster?
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1) i'm terribly sry for your loss
2)no, instead ask yourself. Were you close to your aunt?
and 3) welcome to the escapist and please make sure you post your threads in the right place. im sure the mods will either lock this or move it to the off topic forum.
2)no, instead ask yourself. Were you close to your aunt?
and 3) welcome to the escapist and please make sure you post your threads in the right place. im sure the mods will either lock this or move it to the off topic forum.
Not really. Sometimes shock makes it take awhile for the pain to hit. Eventually the death will feel 'real' and you will probably be hit with some grief. Course, it also depends on how close you were to your aunt and so on. Hard to really feel 'bad' about a death of someone you didn't know.. it's not quite personal enough.
Keep in mind your grandfather lost a daughter, whereas you lost an aunt who you might not have had any real connection to. There is a big difference between the two of you in the amount of loss you have suffered.
Keep in mind your grandfather lost a daughter, whereas you lost an aunt who you might not have had any real connection to. There is a big difference between the two of you in the amount of loss you have suffered.
No, it just means htta in todays society, we are not effected much by the death of people, or even loved ones. It does not mean you are a monster. Alternatively, you might be in a sate of shock, it happened ot me when my mom and aunt died, but after a few weeks, maybe even years, it will hit you. You will then cry, a lot.
its been like 1 month or so now.....i was kind close, i knew my grandfather better than aunt.
havent cried a drop
havent cried a drop
You are in no way a monster. Emotions don't always work the way people imagine them to. If you weren't close to your aunt, you never developed a real relationship with her, and so really don't have much emotion towards it. Its sad that she past away, but it doesn't mean you have to feel sad. Just because one is family doesn't mean you are close. It would be the same exact way if I attended the funeral. I would feel bad for you and your families loss, but it wouldn't effect my emotions profoundly. Another thing to consider is that if you were close to her, and you still didn't have any emotions; sometimes its the minds way of dealing with death. It makes you numb, to keep you sane. The mind plays all sorts of games to deal with events throughout our life, traumatic or not. Don't worry about your grandfather, you're definitely not a monster.
The very fact your concerned that you might be a monster, proves you aren't a monster. A Monster does not stop to consider it's actions are reprehensible and alter them. A Monster considers this, maybe, and then goes on it's way.
Its perfectly natural to fail to harbor a emotional connection even to a relative. However I suggest preparing for an imminent nervous breakdown.
Sorry for your loss.
Don't worry: the feeling isn't instant, sometimes you have to wait awhile before it kicks in. And it HURTS when it does.
Ayup, someone already posted my concern on the placing of the thread. No need to badger you on it then.
Don't worry: the feeling isn't instant, sometimes you have to wait awhile before it kicks in. And it HURTS when it does.
Ayup, someone already posted my concern on the placing of the thread. No need to badger you on it then.
I had the same thing when my grandma died and when a friend of mine died a few months back. I was actually more pre-occupied with looking after everyone else I just didn't give it time to register in my mind. However it does slowly sink in, sometimes without you realising it.
well its been long enough for that to happen.... i dont feel anything at all...ANYTHING and i seem to posess a mild indifferince to human life thus far and utterlly lack in careing when people die.
Can take a while to kick in, but it can also never happen. When both my great grandmothers died (was close with them when I was a kid, pretty close, one died when I was 12 or something and 1 when I was 15 or 16, e.a 2-3 years ago). I just shrugged and moved on, and never questioned it: death is a part of life, everyone dies, both of them were old (well, not that old, one was in her 80's and 1 was 74 or something), old people die, that's what happens. They had a great life, so I saw no need to cry, nor to be even sad. Same when the cat died with whom I grew up.