am i going about this right? need some outside opinions.

[LT Cannibal 68]

hi everyone this is the first time i've needed some fresh outside advice on such things so ill try to be very detailed so you can give me an accurate thought.

So I've been hanging out with this girl at the local park for some time now, i'm really starting to like her and maybe even falling for her but i want to know if she's showing some "signs" so here goes. Mostly every day we text be it over facebook or through the phone itself and in the afternoons most of the time she goes to the park and we walk around from like 7 till like 9 or sometimes 10 in the evening alone. Sometimes when were in a group of 3 or 4 which is rare i've tried to fall to the opposite side of the group to she how she reacts and usually she somehow very subtly finds a way to walk next to me and we walk very close like there is less than a foot between us.

the other day we went to a little restaurant and we started talking about college, she previously said she didn't know what to major in. As we were talking she asked me what i was going to major in and i said "computer tech" and she said all of a sudden she wanted to do the same and that we should go register to get the same classes together. now i've been wanting to tell her how much i like her and how much we have in common, basically i want to ask her if she thinks we could be more than friends.

the plan now is to somehow get her alone and i plan to play and sing this song for her. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c1O9DyFLIKo&feature=feedwll&list=WL

am i going about it the right way? what do you guys think will happen please get back to me asap i plan to execute my plan by friday of this coming week and god help me i hope she says yes i've never met someone as special and as similar as me before, she awoke feelings in me that i thought were long since dead. so please get back to me and i will be forever in your debt.

sorry about the bad grammar english isn't my first language thanks!

 

[BlueberryMUNCH]

First off, your english is brilliant. Better than mine tbh xD.
Well, the way I see it...you've got nothing to worry about; it sounds like she's totally into you.

As far as playing and singing a song to her...it's not what I'd do, but heck, if you've got the musical knack for it, go ahead by all means; as long as you feel comfortable with it and think she will too, go on lad!

What I'd recommend is to just invite her over your place and watch a film or two. Stuff will find its own way of happening and...bingo, you win.

Really really happy for you dude, if not a tad jealous:]. Go get'em tiger!

 

[rutger5000]

Well first off I wouldn't advice using that song. It is really really bad, and the lyrics won't help creating any kind of desireable mood. If you have a musical tallent (which I'm sorry to say find due to the song you picked very doubtful) you could use it if she is into that kind of music. But before you do so, ask her about her favorite bands and check if they sound remotely like this.
Besides that yeah go for it man. Definitly Ask her out on a date. There is a chance that she'll decline, but the way you descirebed her there is no chance that she'll be a ***** about it. Don't get overconfident though, you're likely seeing sings because you want to see them, and even if they are really there they might mean nothing to her. Still you really should ask her out!
one last piece of advice, playing the guitar will generally get you more luck with girls then just singing (unless your in a band or something, then as a vocalist you're likely the frontman and probably have more luck with girls then the other members).

 

[Brown Cap]

I must say thats a pretty solid plan sir. Just don't ever get your hopes up.

 

[Limecake]

am i going about it the right way?

sounds like you guys are pretty much dating already, I know if I hung out with a girl for 3 hours every night alone I'd consider us dating. Just flirt with her, it's really not that hard tell her she's pretty or you like what she did with her hair or something and go from there.

About the song? yeah don't sing her a song. I get it man, I've been there. I remember how hard it was to ask out a girl for the first time, It's part of becoming a man. my suggestion is that the next time you see her just look her in the eyes and tell her you really like her and that you want to be more than friends. You need to just be straightforward about it, it'll ease up the tension tremendously.

It seems like you want to sing her a song because you see asking this girl out as some big important moment, It's not. If a girl is into you (and it sounds like she is) you can't really screw up asking her out, even if you say something stupid she'll meet you half way. It's painless.

and I can't stress this enough:

the more comfortable you are, the easier it'll be to ask her out

just go for it man, you'll be relieved.

 

[Zmerc]

Sounds like your making it too complicated man. Forget the song, Just get her alone, look in her eyes, and ask her out. Just go for it, dont try and beat around the bush. Good Luck Sir. Romantic songs are nice, but what some girls really love, is when you use your own words too express your feelings towards her.

 

[LT Cannibal 68]

thanks for the reply guys i'm going for it soon i just need to find the correct moment and ill post back with a response, i hope it goes well!

 

[dmase]

Yeah I'm pretty sure she is into you but remember relationships can get too heavy too quick. The way you describe it she is trying to give you every sign possible and wants you to be her boss. If thats your thing cool but you may want a girlfriend not a lost puppy dog. Its impossible to tell from your story if thats the case because there is so much extra information needed.

 

[LT Cannibal 68]

Yeah I'm pretty sure she is into you but remember relationships can get too heavy too quick. The way you describe it she is trying to give you every sign possible and wants you to be her boss. If thats your thing cool but you may want a girlfriend not a lost puppy dog. Its impossible to tell from your story if thats the case because there is so much extra information needed.

such as? ill try to fill in the missing pieces as best as i can!

 

[dmase]

Yeah I'm pretty sure she is into you but remember relationships can get too heavy too quick. The way you describe it she is trying to give you every sign possible and wants you to be her boss. If thats your thing cool but you may want a girlfriend not a lost puppy dog. Its impossible to tell from your story if thats the case because there is so much extra information needed.

such as? ill try to fill in the missing pieces as best as i can!

Both of your personalities for starters. Interactions as simple as she wanting to get the same thing to eat as you or not having an opinion but rather here yours regularly. If you ask her a question and she says i don't know what do you think and then agrees with your answer all the time thats not really thinking for herself.

Is she the type of person that would be a computer tech? If she doesn't have the nerd credentials and this is an out of the blue spur of the moment thing that should be an obvious clue. I expect a nerd who likes to mess around with their computer till they break their software or hardware to become a computer tech not somebody who would rather read books and excels in humanity type courses.

To be honest I couldn't tell you if she is a servile person without being there and you probably shouldn't take anyone's advice but your own. If you like this girl ask her out, its not a set in stone till death do you part thing. You get to know her better and figure out if she is too clingy for you, maybe you like clingy, it really all has to do with personal opinion. Just remember if you have doubts don't take a nose dive into the deep end of this relationship or you'll hit rock bottom hard. Its alright to have some reservations the first few months of dating someone, in fact it's healthy in my opinion.

 

[LT Cannibal 68]

Yeah I'm pretty sure she is into you but remember relationships can get too heavy too quick. The way you describe it she is trying to give you every sign possible and wants you to be her boss. If thats your thing cool but you may want a girlfriend not a lost puppy dog. Its impossible to tell from your story if thats the case because there is so much extra information needed.

such as? ill try to fill in the missing pieces as best as i can!

Both of your personalities for starters. Interactions as simple as she wanting to get the same thing to eat as you or not having an opinion but rather here yours regularly. If you ask her a question and she says i don't know what do you think and then agrees with your answer all the time thats not really thinking for herself.

Is she the type of person that would be a computer tech? If she doesn't have the nerd credentials and this is an out of the blue spur of the moment thing that should be an obvious clue. I expect a nerd who likes to mess around with their computer till they break their software or hardware to become a computer tech not somebody who would rather read books and excels in humanity type courses.

To be honest I couldn't tell you if she is a servile person without being there and you probably shouldn't take anyone's advice but your own. If you like this girl ask her out, its not a set in stone till death do you part thing. You get to know her better and figure out if she is too clingy for you, maybe you like clingy, it really all has to do with personal opinion. Just remember if you have doubts don't take a nose dive into the deep end of this relationship or you'll hit rock bottom hard. Its alright to have some reservations the first few months of dating someone, in fact it's healthy in my opinion.

well she is the type of girl that has a LOT of friends both male and female, She has had problems with unrequited love in the past she tells me she is comfortable around me and things like that. I'm more of a social shut in most of the time but when the need arises i'm good at socializing and i thing i have confidence. and with the whole agreeing thing we pretty much think alike on most regards so yeah there is that.

to answer your second point no she is not the type to become a computer tech she is more of a prom queen type of person (minus the whole being a ***** part) i think the most she knows about computers is how to surf the web on them and install rudimentary programs. she is gorgeous shes 5 feet tall has blonde hair a beautiful body majestic green eyes and a very playful persona. i'm planning on telling her if not today then tomorrow i hope that she says yes a person that i can identify with is almost impossible to find. so is this enough info? if you need more ill be happy to comply. (again sorry about bad english.)

 

[dmase]

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I type worse english on occasion... or all the time. Anyways I just can't see this girl wanting to be a computer tech besides wanting to be next to you.

You two can have the same likes and dislikes but there is a big leap to her always agreeing with you. Like I said if she doesn't answer a question until she knows your answer there is something a little bit off about her personality.

There is no reason you shouldn't ask her out so I'd say go for it just keep your eyes pealed, no person on the internet( especially myself) is going to be able to tell if she's is a phsyco or if she is your true love. Sorry for giving you something to worry about just remember that her suddenly wanting to change what could be her life direction because you mentioned what you wanna be is a little bit out there. I see controlling boyfriends in her past.

 

[artanis_neravar]

Yeah I'm pretty sure she is into you but remember relationships can get too heavy too quick. The way you describe it she is trying to give you every sign possible and wants you to be her boss. If thats your thing cool but you may want a girlfriend not a lost puppy dog. Its impossible to tell from your story if thats the case because there is so much extra information needed.

such as? ill try to fill in the missing pieces as best as i can!

Both of your personalities for starters. Interactions as simple as she wanting to get the same thing to eat as you or not having an opinion but rather here yours regularly. If you ask her a question and she says i don't know what do you think and then agrees with your answer all the time thats not really thinking for herself.

Is she the type of person that would be a computer tech? If she doesn't have the nerd credentials and this is an out of the blue spur of the moment thing that should be an obvious clue. I expect a nerd who likes to mess around with their computer till they break their software or hardware to become a computer tech not somebody who would rather read books and excels in humanity type courses.

To be honest I couldn't tell you if she is a servile person without being there and you probably shouldn't take anyone's advice but your own. If you like this girl ask her out, its not a set in stone till death do you part thing. You get to know her better and figure out if she is too clingy for you, maybe you like clingy, it really all has to do with personal opinion. Just remember if you have doubts don't take a nose dive into the deep end of this relationship or you'll hit rock bottom hard. Its alright to have some reservations the first few months of dating someone, in fact it's healthy in my opinion.

well she is the type of girl that has a LOT of friends both male and female, She has had problems with unrequited love in the past she tells me she is comfortable around me and things like that. I'm more of a social shut in most of the time but when the need arises i'm good at socializing and i thing i have confidence. and with the whole agreeing thing we pretty much think alike on most regards so yeah there is that.

to answer your second point no she is not the type to become a computer tech she is more of a prom queen type of person (minus the whole being a ***** part) i think the most she knows about computers is how to surf the web on them and install rudimentary programs. she is gorgeous shes 5 feet tall has blonde hair a beautiful body majestic green eyes and a very playful persona. i'm planning on telling her if not today then tomorrow i hope that she says yes a person that i can identify with is almost impossible to find. so is this enough info? if you need more ill be happy to comply. (again sorry about bad english.)

Ask her out and let us know....I want to live vicariously through you to make up for my own failures to ask girls out. Go! Go and do it now!

...sorry I get carried away

 

[bluepilot]

I think you should just relax and let things happen. It all seems to be going well so far and there is no sense in rushing these things. To quote futurama "if you have done things right, people won't suspect you have done anything at all."

Good luck

 

[LT Cannibal 68]

Yeah I'm pretty sure she is into you but remember relationships can get too heavy too quick. The way you describe it she is trying to give you every sign possible and wants you to be her boss. If thats your thing cool but you may want a girlfriend not a lost puppy dog. Its impossible to tell from your story if thats the case because there is so much extra information needed.

such as? ill try to fill in the missing pieces as best as i can!

Both of your personalities for starters. Interactions as simple as she wanting to get the same thing to eat as you or not having an opinion but rather here yours regularly. If you ask her a question and she says i don't know what do you think and then agrees with your answer all the time thats not really thinking for herself.

Is she the type of person that would be a computer tech? If she doesn't have the nerd credentials and this is an out of the blue spur of the moment thing that should be an obvious clue. I expect a nerd who likes to mess around with their computer till they break their software or hardware to become a computer tech not somebody who would rather read books and excels in humanity type courses.

To be honest I couldn't tell you if she is a servile person without being there and you probably shouldn't take anyone's advice but your own. If you like this girl ask her out, its not a set in stone till death do you part thing. You get to know her better and figure out if she is too clingy for you, maybe you like clingy, it really all has to do with personal opinion. Just remember if you have doubts don't take a nose dive into the deep end of this relationship or you'll hit rock bottom hard. Its alright to have some reservations the first few months of dating someone, in fact it's healthy in my opinion.

well she is the type of girl that has a LOT of friends both male and female, She has had problems with unrequited love in the past she tells me she is comfortable around me and things like that. I'm more of a social shut in most of the time but when the need arises i'm good at socializing and i thing i have confidence. and with the whole agreeing thing we pretty much think alike on most regards so yeah there is that.

to answer your second point no she is not the type to become a computer tech she is more of a prom queen type of person (minus the whole being a ***** part) i think the most she knows about computers is how to surf the web on them and install rudimentary programs. she is gorgeous shes 5 feet tall has blonde hair a beautiful body majestic green eyes and a very playful persona. i'm planning on telling her if not today then tomorrow i hope that she says yes a person that i can identify with is almost impossible to find. so is this enough info? if you need more ill be happy to comply. (again sorry about bad english.)

Ask her out and let us know....I want to live vicariously through you to make up for my own failures to ask girls out. Go! Go and do it now!

...sorry I get carried away

you are 100% right brother! i will do this because us nice guys have to get the girl once right!!!!!!!!!!!?

 

[LT Cannibal 68]

Sounds like your making it too complicated man. Forget the song, Just get her alone, look in her eyes, and ask her out. Just go for it, dont try and beat around the bush. Good Luck Sir. Romantic songs are nice, but what some girls really love, is when you use your own words too express your feelings towards her.

would a good combination of both suffice?

 

[J_Monsterface]

hi everyone this is the first time i've needed some fresh outside advice on such things so ill try to be very detailed so you can give me an accurate thought.

So I've been hanging out with this girl at the local park for some time now, i'm really starting to like her and maybe even falling for her but i want to know if she's showing some "signs" so here goes. Mostly every day we text be it over facebook or through the phone itself and in the afternoons most of the time she goes to the park and we walk around from like 7 till like 9 or sometimes 10 in the evening alone. Sometimes when were in a group of 3 or 4 which is rare i've tried to fall to the opposite side of the group to she how she reacts and usually she somehow very subtly finds a way to walk next to me and we walk very close like there is less than a foot between us.

the other day we went to a little restaurant and we started talking about college, she previously said she didn't know what to major in. As we were talking she asked me what i was going to major in and i said "computer tech" and she said all of a sudden she wanted to do the same and that we should go register to get the same classes together. now i've been wanting to tell her how much i like her and how much we have in common, basically i want to ask her if she thinks we could be more than friends.

the plan now is to somehow get her alone and i plan to play and sing this song for her. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c1O9DyFLIKo&feature=feedwll&list=WL

am i going about it the right way? what do you guys think will happen please get back to me asap i plan to execute my plan by friday of this coming week and god help me i hope she says yes i've never met someone as special and as similar as me before, she awoke feelings in me that i thought were long since dead. so please get back to me and i will be forever in your debt.

sorry about the bad grammar english isn't my first language thanks!

first and foremost, no song, even if she likes that kind of thing

it is just too high tension and there would be too many confusing mixed signals and itd be really really easy to come off as a creep, or at least as awkward and wimpy, even if it seems like that couldnt happen

also you shouldnt make a point to get her alone, this shows how shy and insecure you feel about doing it and makes it seem like youd be embarrassed for people to see you doing it

but dont make a big spectacle either

be calm and confident surprise her, but never take her out of her comfort zone

asking her about whether or not she likes you is to indirect and needy

telling her how you feel and what you like about her (in moderation) is braver, more romantic/exiting, and will make her feel good about herself even if she isnt attracted to you

the signs do seem like she likes you, but sometimes a girl likes a different part of you than you think

it could be attraction, it could just be that your funnier or more pleasant to talk to

these are not the same thing

no need to take a huge leap

start with a compliment, see how much it means to her, if she doesnt really care/notice than shes probably not into you like that

if that goes well, tell her something about the way in which she is important/ special to you

or tell her youd like to spend more time with her and pursue that (carefully and gently, but not so passive its wimpy)

dont try to get her alone unless she expresses a desire to be alone with you, that can come off as super weird and it will make her friends suspicious of you

you get bonus points if you talk about these things with her casually in front of other people and can manage to act/talk the same way you do when your just hanging out


good luck!
get your sexy right
get your confidence right
wear nice shirts
and see that it doesnt matter if you get this girl, shed be the lucky one!

 

[J_Monsterface]

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I type worse english on occasion... or all the time. Anyways I just can't see this girl wanting to be a computer tech besides wanting to be next to you.

You two can have the same likes and dislikes but there is a big leap to her always agreeing with you. Like I said if she doesn't answer a question until she knows your answer there is something a little bit off about her personality.

There is no reason you shouldn't ask her out so I'd say go for it just keep your eyes pealed, no person on the internet( especially myself) is going to be able to tell if she's is a phsyco or if she is your true love. Sorry for giving you something to worry about just remember that her suddenly wanting to change what could be her life direction because you mentioned what you wanna be is a little bit out there. I see controlling boyfriends in her past.

i didnt even think of that, and its a really important point

it might seem like your never ever gonna find someone, but sometimes its better to wait

if it seems like she defines herself completely by you, you need to be super careful, that kind of thing can get really unhealthy, even though it might seem awesome at first

and it could just end up turning someone into a more controlling person than they would have otherwise been

 

[Raideh]

Cleaned.

 

[Evidencebased]

hi everyone this is the first time i've needed some fresh outside advice on such things so ill try to be very detailed so you can give me an accurate thought.

So I've been hanging out with this girl at the local park for some time now, i'm really starting to like her and maybe even falling for her but i want to know if she's showing some "signs" so here goes. Mostly every day we text be it over facebook or through the phone itself and in the afternoons most of the time she goes to the park and we walk around from like 7 till like 9 or sometimes 10 in the evening alone. Sometimes when were in a group of 3 or 4 which is rare i've tried to fall to the opposite side of the group to she how she reacts and usually she somehow very subtly finds a way to walk next to me and we walk very close like there is less than a foot between us.

the other day we went to a little restaurant and we started talking about college, she previously said she didn't know what to major in. As we were talking she asked me what i was going to major in and i said "computer tech" and she said all of a sudden she wanted to do the same and that we should go register to get the same classes together. now i've been wanting to tell her how much i like her and how much we have in common, basically i want to ask her if she thinks we could be more than friends.

the plan now is to somehow get her alone and i plan to play and sing this song for her. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c1O9DyFLIKo&feature=feedwll&list=WL

am i going about it the right way? what do you guys think will happen please get back to me asap i plan to execute my plan by friday of this coming week and god help me i hope she says yes i've never met someone as special and as similar as me before, she awoke feelings in me that i thought were long since dead. so please get back to me and i will be forever in your debt.

sorry about the bad grammar english isn't my first language thanks!

I am a woman and I say: not sure about the song (miiight be a little cheesy), but I definitely think she's into you! Go for it and good luck!