I'll do my best to keep this short and try to offer both sides of the story.
I'm engaged to my partner of two years and the road to here has been bumpy but we've always done our best to keep each other happy. I'm Welsh, she's Czech and we live in the Czech Republic. I speak Czech well enough to have a broken conversation in a pub, her English is fine but not perfect.
Over time I have changed parts of myself that she wasn't happy with. Superficial things, like I gave up gaming, I stopped watching films, I tried to go out with her friends and have a good time despite the big language barrier, I stopped drinking coffee, things like that.
She doesn't go out and get drunk every night anymore, she's given up smoking and sadly she's stopped seeing her friends as often, but they're all drinking friends more than anything else.
Being with me has been hard for her at times for many reasons. In some situations, due to the language barrier, I'm like a child, because I don't understand how something works or I simply cannot express what I need to express, so there have been times where she's had to help me in offices, in banks, at the doctors etc. That isn't really a problem anymore as I do these things on my own now.
The problem I have though, is that she keeps finding something new she wants to change. She wanted us to do more things together outside of the house: Fair enough, I made a four month plan of things to do and we've also started a 101 things in 1001 days list. She thinks it's sad that we have to write things down instead of just do them... Maybe that's fair, but when we don't have it written down we don't do things.
She wants me to stop using the computer, even though my job revolves heavily around the computer, I'm a teacher, all my homework, lesson plans, evaluations, etc are here and this work takes a lot of time. I do my best to not be on the computer when she's at home, but sometimes do work when she's in the bath or something... she's not ok with this.
I'm worse than I should be at cleaning things around the house. I do, do things but I normally work before and many times she comes home, I haven't done them yet, she gets pissed off and does them.... I can work on that.
My point is though, that no matter what I do I can't seem to make her happy, and when I do give her what she wants... Which I always do, it either isn't good enough or she decides she doesn't want it anymore.
Should I tell her she's being unreasonable, am I missing something, should I just suck it up, or do you have other advice.
I don't really know why I'm asking a gaming site for help. Keep comments clean please, I love this woman and she is a wonderful person, just a little bit unreasonable at times and I probably should have mentioned that she hates her job.
People sometimes have a tendency to joke without offering any advice on these forums as well, if you can resist that urge, I would appreciate it.
Capcha: be mine :-S
I'm engaged to my partner of two years and the road to here has been bumpy but we've always done our best to keep each other happy. I'm Welsh, she's Czech and we live in the Czech Republic. I speak Czech well enough to have a broken conversation in a pub, her English is fine but not perfect.
Over time I have changed parts of myself that she wasn't happy with. Superficial things, like I gave up gaming, I stopped watching films, I tried to go out with her friends and have a good time despite the big language barrier, I stopped drinking coffee, things like that.
She doesn't go out and get drunk every night anymore, she's given up smoking and sadly she's stopped seeing her friends as often, but they're all drinking friends more than anything else.
Being with me has been hard for her at times for many reasons. In some situations, due to the language barrier, I'm like a child, because I don't understand how something works or I simply cannot express what I need to express, so there have been times where she's had to help me in offices, in banks, at the doctors etc. That isn't really a problem anymore as I do these things on my own now.
The problem I have though, is that she keeps finding something new she wants to change. She wanted us to do more things together outside of the house: Fair enough, I made a four month plan of things to do and we've also started a 101 things in 1001 days list. She thinks it's sad that we have to write things down instead of just do them... Maybe that's fair, but when we don't have it written down we don't do things.
She wants me to stop using the computer, even though my job revolves heavily around the computer, I'm a teacher, all my homework, lesson plans, evaluations, etc are here and this work takes a lot of time. I do my best to not be on the computer when she's at home, but sometimes do work when she's in the bath or something... she's not ok with this.
I'm worse than I should be at cleaning things around the house. I do, do things but I normally work before and many times she comes home, I haven't done them yet, she gets pissed off and does them.... I can work on that.
My point is though, that no matter what I do I can't seem to make her happy, and when I do give her what she wants... Which I always do, it either isn't good enough or she decides she doesn't want it anymore.
Should I tell her she's being unreasonable, am I missing something, should I just suck it up, or do you have other advice.
I don't really know why I'm asking a gaming site for help. Keep comments clean please, I love this woman and she is a wonderful person, just a little bit unreasonable at times and I probably should have mentioned that she hates her job.
People sometimes have a tendency to joke without offering any advice on these forums as well, if you can resist that urge, I would appreciate it.
Capcha: be mine :-S
