am i over reacting?

[maddawg IAJI]

Then talk to her about it. If you really believe that it was a bad idea, then talk to her and see if it actually was.

 

[The Anhk24]

If you need to get advice about girls from an internet forum then you're screwed. Time to bat for the other team.

well i wanted a un-bias opinion because if i ask my friends they would just say what i want to hear

 

[Soxafloppin]

If she said no, then your not over reacting.

If she said yes, then your not.

 

[Angerwing]

Yes Eclaris, you are correct.

This problem has been answered in the Relationship Problem Thread, which is at the following link: ---> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161?page=21#4612226 - the background to this story including many of the missing relevant puzzle pieces is also in this thread if you page back once or twice.

It's funny how most of the time I see you post, it's to send people to your relationship thread. Not picking, it makes perfect sense. I just think it's funny.


Anyway, talk to her about it. If she was weirded out just tell her that it doesn't have to come between you.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

So I asked out a girl Friday and we use to talk everyday. ever since then I bearly hear from her. I'm starting to think that asking her was a bad idea, or am I just over reacting

Always, always, always talk about your feelings to the girl. I've learnt this through being with my girlfriend. We're very long distance, roughly 400 miles apart, but talking always helps. It lets her acknowledge how you feel, and it calms you.

 

[Olikunmissile]

So I asked out a girl Friday and we use to talk everyday. ever since then I bearly hear from her. I'm starting to think that asking her was a bad idea, or am I just over reacting

I offer you this advice simply because you have a Gundam as your avatar.

Talk to her asap, but don't mention that you asked her out unless she brings it up. Just try to be as normal as you can around her.

 

[afaceforradio]

I agree with varying comments above: talk to the girl. She probably only sees you as a friend and felt uncomfortable with the sudden change in relationship. It happens.

 

[Aunel]

well what did she say? you should probably talk to her maybe one of your friends can help you better than some random people from the internet

we're not random people, we are the Escapist!

OT: good move asking her out, kudos for that, although try and keep contact till your date.
good luck!
[small]you'll need it.[/small]

and if you can play an instrument, might want to consider playing something for her
[small]bass, for example[/small]

 

[DoctorObviously]

Well, if you asked her out, and then she immediatly stopped talking to you, it's a bad sign. My best advice; talk to her about it. If you really still want to be friends, you're going to have to make the first move. Again.

Yeah, I kinda agree with this fellow escapist.

 

[chenry]

So I asked out a girl Friday and we use to talk everyday. ever since then I bearly hear from her. I'm starting to think that asking her was a bad idea, or am I just over reacting

Dude, if you asked her out and you haven't heard from her in almost a week, I'm pretty sure that's a rejection.

 

[Azure-Supernova]

So I asked out a girl Friday and we use to talk everyday.

One thing I've noticed is that girls are noticably more comfortable around 'guy friends' and will jabber on endlessly with them. It isn't uncommon.

ever since then I bearly hear from her. I'm starting to think that asking her was a bad idea, or am I just over reacting

You'll notice that you're no longer a 'guy friend' anymore. Did she say yes? If so then a sudden inertia can set in when that relationship status changes, because now you're dating and it's a lot harder to talk with someone you're dating, at least for a little bit. I reckon it's mainly to do with simple insecurities, cause now she's gotta be her best for you, if you think about it, it makes sense. You don't wanna come off bad infront of someone you're dating.

Also, she may have said yes on a kind of reflex. If she did, she probably fees pretty guilty about it and is maybe dodging you for that reason.

If she said no... well obviously that's uncomfortable because you're not just her 'guy friend'. Now you're the 'frien who asked me out' which if the feeling isn't mutual, can lead to a breakdown in friendship.

Then again, I could be rambling because it's been a hard day at work in the library today =P

 

[The Anhk24]

So I asked out a girl Friday and we use to talk everyday. ever since then I bearly hear from her. I'm starting to think that asking her was a bad idea, or am I just over reacting

Dude, if you asked her out and you haven't heard from her in almost a week, I'm pretty sure that's a rejection.

she did say yes...its just i havent talked to her

 

[Kathinka]

So I asked out a girl Friday and we use to talk everyday. ever since then I bearly hear from her. I'm starting to think that asking her was a bad idea, or am I just over reacting

Dude, if you asked her out and you haven't heard from her in almost a week, I'm pretty sure that's a rejection.

she did say yes...its just i havent talked to her

then do for crying out loud! get your ass on the phone NOW, or even better go see her and ask her about it already^^

 

[Dott]

Alright.
Mate, if she said yes, stop being worried.

 

[Drakmeire]

that happens to me constantly, come to think of it, every girl I've ever gone out with has vanished off the face of the earth.

 

[without memory]

So I asked out a girl Friday and we use to talk everyday. ever since then I bearly hear from her. I'm starting to think that asking her was a bad idea, or am I just over reacting

Dude, if you asked her out and you haven't heard from her in almost a week, I'm pretty sure that's a rejection.

she did say yes...its just i havent talked to her

silly boys, females are delicate creatures;

she might be feeling selfconscience now that your relationship is more demanding then "just freinds"

She probally wants you to make the first move, that's why she hasn't called/talked back yet

 

[Kathinka]

Fuck her, she obviously doesn't care about the emotional stress she'd putting you through, kinda makes me dubious of the "friend" she used to be before you decided to engage her in sexual pursuit.

Lots of women out there, don't waste time on the ones that jerk you around emotionally. If I were single, I would try to work on women in the work place.

well could be that the topic starter likes her and sees more in her then just an object that he can use to serve his pleasure...ya, rly, stuff like that happens.

 

[snow]

(Just reads the title) YES!!

(Reads the actual thread) .... You know... I'm going to go with yes still.. There could be a logical reason for you not hearing from her. You just have to remember to look outside the box that is you and her and realize that you both have lives, and your lives aren't always going to include each other.

Situations like this happen a lot... One person does something and the person starts to feel that it has something to do with them. Usually this is not the case, but if you feel strongly that it was because of something you did. Just stop by and say hi to her, and see if she acts a little off from her normal self, or hesitates in any way... You might have a problem. No need to bring up the problem or make a deal out of it BEFORE you find out if you actually have a problem or not.. Women don't like it, and it makes you sound very paranoid. That will just make things worse for you. (Trust me with this... I've seen a lot of good men lose their women over this.)

Just catch her off guard, say hi, and engage in small talk to see if she acts differently. If so, then you're one step closer to figuring out the puzzle that is... Well... This woman at least.

Best of luck to you! Women's is hells!

Edit:

Pretty much what I'm trying to say is.. The key to figuring out women, is to play it cool and learn to read their actions.. Going by what they say, or engaging them about something before you get a chance to catch them doing wrong, will just make you out to look like the bad guy, or make you out to look very paranoid and not trusting..

Not saying you're any of these of course, so please don't take that the wrong way...