am i over reacting?

[Nemu]

I feel like we're missing a huge part of the picture here.

I agree.

Or it's just a socially awkward teen with no real life experience in which case I'd suggest either:
A: Attempting to talk to her again
or
B: Moving on

 

[Kathinka]

Fuck her, she obviously doesn't care about the emotional stress she'd putting you through, kinda makes me dubious of the "friend" she used to be before you decided to engage her in sexual pursuit.

Lots of women out there, don't waste time on the ones that jerk you around emotionally. If I were single, I would try to work on women in the work place.

well could be that the topic starter likes her and sees more in her then just an object that he can use to serve his pleasure...ya, rly, stuff like that happens.

Then the topic starter is thirteen, and he'll grow out of it once he prematurely devotes his emotions to thoughtless, capricious women who break his heart enough times. I never thought much past having lots and lots of sex with the women who took my fancy. Unless I got them pregnant. Then you can think about moving past the provisional stage.

and what if she has no bad intentions? what if the whole thing is just a misudnerstanding, what if she does not know the effect to the topic starter, what if she did not speak to him for an completely unrelated outside problem she had with something? so many possibilities, and the one that she is deliberately playing with him is NOT the most probable in my opinion.

 

[De Ronneman]

Dude, to answer in short:

YES!

To be less brief: Yes, you're overreacting. If she said yes, then don't sweat it, trust you're charm. She said yes for a reason, right? And if it just doesn't work out, at least YOU did everything you could(I hope...)

Whatever you do, don't call her 6 times, leave 13 messages on her voicemail, text her more than 19 times a day or serenade her, just be cool.

 

[David Bray]

I take it you didn't go on the date. Did she say no?

Just talk to her. Be certain. No 'Er, hi.' Go 'Hey, Gemma, how you doing?' And go from there. Try and have a good 10 minute chat before addressing the date and if you're getting on, don't bother at all.

 

[Dr. Gorgenflex]

It sounds to me she was in the friend zone, that means you are fucked.

 

[Kathinka]

It sounds to me she was in the friend zone, that means you are fucked.

ore precisely NOT fucked, that being the whole point of the friendzone-problem
but still, i disagree. she would not have said yes if it were so.

 

[viperthejedi]

If you need to get advice about girls from an internet forum then you're screwed. Time to bat for the other team.

well i wanted a un-bias opinion because if i ask my friends they would just say what i want to hear

My opinion is totally un-biased.

 

[The Anhk24]

If you need to get advice about girls from an internet forum then you're screwed. Time to bat for the other team.

well i wanted a un-bias opinion because if i ask my friends they would just say what i want to hear

My opinion is totally un-biased.

yah i know i was just saying

 

[Saul B]

Ask her out for another date and see how it goes.

 

[DemonicVixen]

So I asked out a girl Friday and we use to talk everyday. ever since then I bearly hear from her. I'm starting to think that asking her was a bad idea, or am I just over reacting

You think thats bad... I asked out my lad, we started seeing eachother and after that i quite often never hear from him... though i cant complain about that much at the moment... he is my rock during this difficult time for me, and soon i will see him everyday when he moves in with me (if i dont scare him away first lol).

If i were you, talk to her, ask her why she is barely speaking. Maybe she is busy, or unable to use her credit much.

 

[ad5x5]

Not being a relationship guru myself makes coming up with advice hard, but I'll give it my best shot. Here goes:

Try hitting her...

nope, that's not right. attempt 2:

Try hitting her.



On a serious note, you're one of the few who have managed to get out of the friend zone. Don't blow it by not speaking to her or being overly clingy.
Just be yourself, arrange to go to the pub for a few drinks, or go to the cinema, or go bowling. whatever. just do it soon - don't lose momentum.

 

[lacktheknack]

Ask her if she feels weirded out - VERY POLITELY.

If she says yes, LEAVE IT ALONE. She will be friendly again if you show that you just want to be friends.

 

[The Anhk24]

So I asked out a girl Friday and we use to talk everyday. ever since then I bearly hear from her. I'm starting to think that asking her was a bad idea, or am I just over reacting

You think thats bad... I asked out my lad, we started seeing eachother and after that i quite often never hear from him... though i cant complain about that much at the moment... he is my rock during this difficult time for me, and soon i will see him everyday when he moves in with me (if i dont scare him away first lol).

If i were you, talk to her, ask her why she is barely speaking. Maybe she is busy, or unable to use her credit much.

thanks , she says she been busy, which i hope is true because her parents have been saying she been acting weird...its sad ive been talking more to her parents then her

 

[Outright Villainy]

The important thing is to not jump to conclusions. It's always worse in your head than it actually is. Besides, she said yes, so relax about it, it's better for everyone...
If you get too paranoid, you're gonna seem off when talking to her and then you get a whole big ironic weird thing for no reason.

NO PRESSURE TO RELAX NOW!

 

[SextusMaximus]

That happened to me. We were technically going out. It lasted for a month of us being nervous and then I got dumped.

Hope that made you happier. Don't worry, it WILL work out for you - only if you make it work. I avoided her. Don't do that at all, but remember to give her her space.

 

[Liberaliter]

Its a bad sign, my advice - if you can't have her. No one can

 

[ad5x5]

thanks , she says she been busy, which i hope is true because her parents have been saying she been acting weird...its sad ive been talking more to her parents then her

bad sign.
I asked out a friend once - we never saw each other again unless one of our mutual friends was around.

It could be that she said yes because you were her friend and didn't want to hurt you, but now she doesn't know what to do because she's somewhere she doesn't want to be.
Alternatively she could be happy with where you now are, but unsure how to act around you.

TALK to the lass, ask her what's bothering her. Make sure you make it clear you want an honest answer, even if it upsets you.
Be prepared to lose her as a friend.
It sucks, but it's the way of the world.

 

[ad5x5]

thanks , she says she been busy, which i hope is true because her parents have been saying she been acting weird...its sad ive been talking more to her parents then her

PS. talking to her parents more than her??!?
Need more back story here... (Unless that link posted earlier was the story - I thought that was about someone else)
Shouldn't be talking to her parents more unless you are a very close family friend.
Or family.

 

[Revie]

She might have panicked and just said yes because she didn't want to hurt your feelings. Either way you just need to talk to her without totally harassing her about it.