Am I really a dick?

[NeutralDrow]

If you do something, and you have to ask yourself... "Was I a dick" then the answer is probably yes.

But...I'd think that would only apply if the question of dickishness was entirely a personal inquiry. The OP asked the question of himself because someone else accused him of being a dick. Self-reflection is the natural response, in that case.

 

[Necrofudge]

No, you're just being realistic. What horrible parents would really put all their hope of saving their child into a chain text message?
Your friend doesn't seem too bright if he believed and sent along a chain letter thing.

 

[ExaltedK9]

Eh, I watched my infant sister die of cancer when I was three years old, and it wasn't that bad. Sure, it destroyed my emotional integrity and condemned me to live life as a clingy-neurotic trouble-seeking try-and-fail-to-do-well, and it eventually ended in my dad becoming an alcoholic and cheating on my mom with six different people; but I really think it's okay for you to say no if you think that's what needs to be done.

I'm truly sorry for your loss and trauma, but YOU and your parents are responsible for your own actions. This (albeit terrible) occurence couldn't have been responsible for your supposedly wasted life.

ut youre right, its clearly my fault because I didn't forward a most likely fake chain text, and I'm officially worse than Hitler.

I'm pretty sure he didn't call you Hitler or said it was your fault, but you really seem like dick after that.

I'm truly sorry for your loss and trauma, but YOU and your parents are responsible for your own actions. This (albeit terrible) occurence couldn't have been responsible for your supposedly wasted life.

ut youre right, its clearly my fault because I didn't forward a most likely fake chain text, and I'm officially worse than Hitler.

...So, you're saying I said you were a horrible person? I'm pretty sure I said I thought you were right. In fact, I know I did. And I never said my life was wasted... Are you projecting, or something?

Forgive my knee-jerk reaction but I'm under a bit of fire here, while I'm trying not to feel guilt ridden. Your attemt at a guilt trip wasn't appreciated, and I already expressed my sympathies. Sometimes life hands you a bad hand, and it happens to everyone.

When you got off on your rant that you became a "clingy-neurotic trouble-seeking try-and-fail-to-do-well" youth because of it, yea I got the impression that you believed your life was ruined because of it... you're right that was obviously baseless.

Sorry for misinterpreting your sarcasm, but tone is understandably hard to read over the interent, and no I'm not projecting, I realize that my path isn't chosen by the things that happen to me.

 

[thenoblitt]

no cause its a chain message, the story is most likely fake, i do the same thing, sending a chain message honestly isnt going to help anyone

 

[ExaltedK9]

If you do something, and you have to ask yourself... "Was I a dick" then the answer is probably yes. That goes for all future questions of whether or not I am or am not a dick scenarios. Undoubtedly it will most assuredly and probably be yes... yes I am a dick.

It's okay though we are all jerks from time to time. Next time though, I wouldn't reply at all to your friend if you get sent a similar mail in the future. I mean we're all jerks like I said but no need to advertise it.

I didn't at all think I was being a dick, and I posted this thread for some outside perspective. I didn't pose the question to myself.

 

[Cain_Zeros]

Sending it on wouldn't have actually helped the parents in any way, shape or form, assuming it's true in the first place, which I rather doubt.

 

[voetballeeuw]

I don't think you were a dick for saying no to a chain letter. I think it's absurd someone called you a dick for it, the letter threatened with karmic retribution. It's fake.Who responded with "you're a dick," a friend or? If so he may have been joking. If your actually approached with someone who's child suffers from an illness or an organization that supports families like this, then hell yes donate if you have the $$$.

 

[aPod]

If you do something, and you have to ask yourself... "Was I a dick" then the answer is probably yes. That goes for all future questions of whether or not I am or am not a dick scenarios. Undoubtedly it will most assuredly and probably be yes... yes I am a dick.

It's okay though we are all jerks from time to time. Next time though, I wouldn't reply at all to your friend if you get sent a similar mail in the future. I mean we're all jerks like I said but no need to advertise it.

I didn't at all think I was being a dick, and I posted this thread for some outside perspective. I didn't pose the question to myself.

Maybe I was confused but when you wrote the question "So that leads me to my question, am I really a dick for my response?" it seemed to have the atmosphere of self-reflection through peer opinion. If you had asked the question differently I would have taken it differently. I guess it doesn't matter because my answer would still be the same: Yes it was, but sometimes it is best not to advertise how we feel by replying at all.

Then you could have, as your friend said, been a dick without anyone ever being the wiser. Sometimes the wisest thing to say is nothing at all. So i think i'll take some of my own advice and end it with that.

 

[Worgen]

ehh sounds scammish

besides this is AMERICA, if they are too poor to afford treatment then its obviously GOOOOOOODS WILLLLLLLL that she die so they can learn a valuable lesson about being poor

thats why we have a political party that is so determined to make sure we dont have universal health care

 

[ExaltedK9]

I don't think you were a dick for saying no to a chain letter. I think it's absurd someone called you a dick for it, the letter threatened with karmic retribution. It's fake.Who responded with "you're a dick," a friend or? If so he may have been joking. If your actually approached with someone who's child suffers from an illness or an organization that supports families like this, then hell yes donate if you have the $$$.

I wouldn't hesitate to help out if that were the case, but I really doubt that it is. And yeah, it was a friend, and he was being serious.

 

[MR T3D]

sounded an awful lot like a scam.
Some young woman lied and said she had cancer and got people to raise money, even shaving her head to purport the fascade.
but you're response was rather dick-ish.

better idea would have been nothing, and/or doing some google searching as to who they are.

 

[smithy_2045]

Why would you respond to chain mail in the first place? Just delete it.

 

[feather240]

Eh, I watched my infant sister die of cancer when I was three years old, and it wasn't that bad. Sure, it destroyed my emotional integrity and condemned me to live life as a clingy-neurotic trouble-seeking try-and-fail-to-do-well, and it eventually ended in my dad becoming an alcoholic and cheating on my mom with six different people; but I really think it's okay for you to say no if you think that's what needs to be done.

I don't like it when people drop hints of their own tragic life in a thread. If you want pity make your own thread for it. There's about twenty 'help me I'm depressed' forums a week, make another one.
(Unless you're just joking by missing the point completely which in that case you are very funny.)

 

[Necator15]

Yup, you're a dick. Not for saying no, but for replying to a chain letter like that.
If you don't like them, delete them. Some people forward those things for fun, no reason to try to tear them down. (Although, a "Please stop sending me these" would probably go a long way.)

 

[ExaltedK9]

sounded an awful lot like a scam.
Some young woman lied and said she had cancer and got people to raise money, even shaving her head to purport the fascade.
but you're response was rather dick-ish.

better idea would have been nothing, and/or doing some google searching as to who they are.

No indication of who the author was, just the first name of the baby, or I would have pursued it.

And yea, a smarter choice would have been to just ignore it, but I was kind of put off by it, and wanted it to be known that I wasn't to be counted on for the circulation of the chain text.

 

[HT_Black]

Forgive my knee-jerk reaction but I'm under a bit of fire here, while I'm trying not to feel guilt ridden. Your attemt at a guilt trip wasn't appreciated, and I already expressed my sympathies. Sometimes life hands you a bad hand, and it happens to everyone.

If indeed you mean what you say, all is forgiven, stranger. I honestly wasn't really trying to guilt trip you. It just came out like that. It was supposed to be a form of extremely black humor, you see.

When you got off on your rant that you became a "clingy-neurotic trouble-seeking try-and-fail-to-do-well" youth because of it, yea I got the impression that you believed your life was ruined because of it... you're right that was obviously baseless.

There's an expression that I live much of my life by. That expression is thus:

"Shit happens."

And when shit does indeed happen, I don't believe in letting it keep me down. No, my life wasn't ruined, but I can totally understand why you might think so.

Sorry for misinterpreting your sarcasm, but tone is understandably hard to read over the interent, and no I'm not projecting, I realize that my path isn't chosen by the things that happen to me.

That is totally admirable, bro.

Also, that was totally a scam. Don't pay it any mind.

 

[Nouw]

You're not a dick, whoever created the chainmail is. Fake or not, the creator is a troll.
Everyone knows chainmails aren't to be taken seriously or to be sent and whoever makes one is obviously aware.

You did the right thing, handling it maturely.

Ask yourself, is replying to a chainmail and simply saying 'I'd rather not' really being a dick? It's chainmail, not a handwritten letter made out of tears.

 

[Siuki]

You lost karma. Seriously though, it's a chain mail. From the teary set-up: "6 month old girl who had cancer" to the delete threats: "karma would come back to give YOU cancer!" this light metal armor should be overlooked. (Not really though, because it's lightweight and gives you a better armor class.)

 

[MR T3D]

sounded an awful lot like a scam.
Some young woman lied and said she had cancer and got people to raise money, even shaving her head to purport the fascade.
but you're response was rather dick-ish.

better idea would have been nothing, and/or doing some google searching as to who they are.

No indication of who the author was, just the first name of the baby, or I would have pursued it.

And yea, a smarter choice would have been to just ignore it, but I was kind of put off by it, and wanted it to be known that I wasn't to be counted on for the circulation of the chain text.

no parent's name given, eh?
now I'm confident its a scam. don't feel guilty about it.