Am I screwed?

[GameNeo]

Hello fellow escapers!

I have had some difficulty with my religion all my life and am just now realizing I am an agnostic.
How is this relevant you say? Well, I am wondering if I am going to be able to find any girl to get into a relationship or find some new friends that are the same or atheist. See, I live in Texas and since Texas is being Texas, religion is like sports.

Let me make this clear. This is not a pity thread nor a "nice guy girl problems" thread. I am just wondering since I live in one of the most religious states, when I finally get interested in trying to find someone to develop a relationship with, will I be able to knowing I am agnostic/atheist?

 

[Uber Evil]

Hello fellow escapers!

I have had some difficulty with my religion all my life and am just now realizing I am an agnostic.
How is this relevant you say? Well, I am wondering if I am going to be able to find any girl to get into a relationship or find some new friends that are the same or atheist. See, I live in Texas and since Texas is being Texas, religion is like sports.

Let me make this clear. This is not a pity thread nor a "nice guy girl problems" thread. I am just wondering since I live in one of the most religious states, when I finally get interested in trying to find someone to develop a relationship with, will I be able to knowing I am agnostic/atheist?

I would hope yes. If religion is really that much of an issue to your potential mate, then you are probably better off without them.

 

[Xangi]

If that person actually lets your religion determine their interest in you, they're not worth dating, let alone getting into a serious relationship with. As long as you don't try to force your beliefs (or lack thereof) on a person, they shouldn't have any business disliking you for it.

 

[Wierdguy]

Not all religious people are against atheism - and frankly if they are theyre not worth your time to begin with.

 

[Bassman_2]

Eh, I find that the better friends are the ones who don't care about difference in religion, color, etc.

But there's always some sort of a chance to find people like so you can, I don't know, talk about your non-religionness or laugh at others'?

Who says someone out there in Texas isn't having the same issue.

 

[LongAndShort]

I gotta say, does it really matter to you? If you find a good Christian/Muslim/Jewish/Hindu/Buddhist/Heathen/Wiccan girl, and it doesn't matter to her (because if it didn't, I wouldn't be cool with her at all personally), would it matter to you? If it does, yeah, you're gonna have a few problems anyway. If it doesn't, I think you'll be just fine.

 

[GameNeo]

IF that person actually lets your religion determine their interest in you, they're not worth dating, let alone getting into a serious relationship with. As long as you don't try to force your beliefs (or lack thereof) on a person, they shouldn't have any business disliking you for it.

Oh I know, that is not the problem. The problem is almost every girl I have ever seen or meet or even been friends with has been either baptist or catholic. It seems like I have a hard to finding fellow atheists/agnostic.
That is also part of the reason I am agnostic. I do not like shoving my views or beliefs onto other folks nor do I like it when someone does it to me.

 

[LikeDustInTheWind]

If they don't care about your religion, you shouldn't care about theirs. I'm an Atheist and I don't think I have ever actually dated another Atheist.

 

[GameNeo]

Eh, I find that the better friends are the ones who don't care about difference in religion, color, etc.

But there's always some sort of a chance to find people like so you can, I don't know, talk about your non-religionness or laugh at others'?

Who says someone out there in Texas isn't having the same issue.

You are right. I am generalizing a tad-bit but givin my experiences and the fact I grew up in a religious town, I am just going on what I see.

I gotta say, does it really matter to you? If you find a good Christian/Muslim/Jewish/Hindu/Buddhist/Heathen/Wiccan girl, and it doesn't matter to her (because if it didn't, I wouldn't be cool with her at all personally), would it matter to you? If it does, yeah, you're gonna have a few problems anyway. If it doesn't, I think you'll be just fine.

To be honest, no. I am fine if you believe in whatever you believe but as long as you do not shove it down my throat or expect me to participate in any religious events, it can work out.

Eh, I find that the better friends are the ones who don't care about difference in religion, color, etc.

But there's always some sort of a chance to find people like so you can, I don't know, talk about your non-religionness or laugh at others'?

Who says someone out there in Texas isn't having the same issue.

That is true. Although I would never laugh at someone's beliefs.

 

[deathninja]

1: Graduate High School
2: Move State for College
3: ?????
4: PROFIT

Seriously though, I've been in relationships where religion got in the way and eventually drove us apart; echoing other posts, if it's that big a deal to a potential mate it's not worth trying to make it work.

 

[Xangi]

IF that person actually lets your religion determine their interest in you, they're not worth dating, let alone getting into a serious relationship with. As long as you don't try to force your beliefs (or lack thereof) on a person, they shouldn't have any business disliking you for it.

Oh I know, that is not the problem. The problem is almost every girl I have ever seen or meet or even been friends with has been either baptist or catholic. It seems like I have a hard to finding fellow atheists/agnostic.
That is also part of the reason I am agnostic. I do not like shoving my views or beliefs onto other folks nor do I like it when someone does it to me.

Trust me bud, I know what you mean. Being an atheist in a catholic school is no picnic, and I'm in Canada. I also know what you mean when you express a desire to find "fellow" agnostics and atheists, but you really shouldn't let that stop you. Religion is such a small part of who a person is, if someone lets it bug them, they clearly do not see the person, only the beliefs. Also, it has been said that opposites attract, perhaps finding a religious girl who respects you and whose beliefs you can respect is exactly what you need to be happy (You's never be at a loss for conversation topics at least ).

 

[Kpt._Rob]

Of course you're not screwed. Like many things in life, finding that right person is about having both patience and determination. I do understand your frustration (as a Taoist in Oklahoma), but just keep yourself open and keep trying. There are other open minded people out there who won't care that you're not a Christian. Especially if you are in a college environment, while states like yours and mine may be center (or in our cases far) right, any college sub culture within that state is likely to be shifted left (at least in a relative sense). [Exceptions if, for some reason, you're going to a Christian college]. But, assuming you're at a normal college (and even more so if you're in a more heavily urbanized area), there will be girls who don't care that you're not a Christian. So, just keep patient, keep your hopes up, and keep trying. You'll find someone.

 

[The Epicosity]

Hello fellow escapers!

I have had some difficulty with my religion all my life and am just now realizing I am an agnostic.
How is this relevant you say? Well, I am wondering if I am going to be able to find any girl to get into a relationship or find some new friends that are the same or atheist. See, I live in Texas and since Texas is being Texas, religion is like sports.

Let me make this clear. This is not a pity thread nor a "nice guy girl problems" thread. I am just wondering since I live in one of the most religious states, when I finally get interested in trying to find someone to develop a relationship with, will I be able to knowing I am agnostic/atheist?

A fellow Texan, agnostic, and escaper!

I can't really help you that much, being the child I am, but I am sure that in some neighborhoods you can find people who would agree with your religion or were atheists, I know a few. Also, I haven't noticed too much religion being mentioned in my life, maybe it is just my community, but I am sure you could find someone who didn't agree with your religion but would accept that people can have thoughts on their religion, and their religion might not be right.

 

[PatSilverFox]

Sure, why not.

If you are straight then you'll be more lucky with finding someone than me :/

 

[Bassman_2]

Eh, I find that the better friends are the ones who don't care about difference in religion, color, etc.

But there's always some sort of a chance to find people like so you can, I don't know, talk about your non-religionness or laugh at others'?

Who says someone out there in Texas isn't having the same issue.

You are right. I am generalizing a tad-bit but givin my experiences and the fact I grew up in a religious town, I am just going on what I see.

I gotta say, does it really matter to you? If you find a good Christian/Muslim/Jewish/Hindu/Buddhist/Heathen/Wiccan girl, and it doesn't matter to her (because if it didn't, I wouldn't be cool with her at all personally), would it matter to you? If it does, yeah, you're gonna have a few problems anyway. If it doesn't, I think you'll be just fine.

To be honest, no. I am fine if you believe in whatever you believe but as long as you do not shove it down my throat or expect me to participate in any religious events, it can work out.

Eh, I find that the better friends are the ones who don't care about difference in religion, color, etc.

But there's always some sort of a chance to find people like so you can, I don't know, talk about your non-religionness or laugh at others'?

Who says someone out there in Texas isn't having the same issue.

That is true. Although I would never laugh at someone's beliefs.

I'm sorry if I seem as though I am accusing you of doing so, I can only imagine what athesists do together differently than religious folk.

 

[FalloutJack]

I know nothing about religion in Texas. That is to say, I don't even hear the rumors or the funny stories, so I can'ty even give you a humorous opinion there.

 

[Gitty101]

I'm sure that you'll make friends no matter whether you're religious or not. Those that judge you for being Agnostic aren't worth their salt anyway.

 

[GameNeo]

IF that person actually lets your religion determine their interest in you, they're not worth dating, let alone getting into a serious relationship with. As long as you don't try to force your beliefs (or lack thereof) on a person, they shouldn't have any business disliking you for it.

Oh I know, that is not the problem. The problem is almost every girl I have ever seen or meet or even been friends with has been either baptist or catholic. It seems like I have a hard to finding fellow atheists/agnostic.
That is also part of the reason I am agnostic. I do not like shoving my views or beliefs onto other folks nor do I like it when someone does it to me.

Trust me bud, I know what you mean. Being an atheist in a catholic school is no picnic, and I'm in Canada. I also know what you mean when you express a desire to find "fellow" agnostics and atheists, but you really shouldn't let that stop you. Religion is such a small part of who a person is, if someone lets it bug them, they clearly do not see the person, only the beliefs. Also, it has been said that opposites attract, perhaps finding a religious girl who respects you and whose beliefs you can respect is exactly what you need to be happy (You's never be at a loss for conversation topics at least ).

Heh, that is true. I do enjoy religious conversion topics. While I understand religion is a small part of the person, it is also one of the most make-or-break factors in a relationship or a friendship so it is hard to ignore it...to some extent.

Of course you're not screwed. Like many things in life, finding that right person is about having both patience and determination. I do understand your frustration (as a Taoist in Oklahoma), but just keep yourself open and keep trying. There are other open minded people out there who won't care that you're not a Christian. Especially if you are in a college environment, while states like yours and mine may be center (or in our cases far) right, any college sub culture within that state is likely to be shifted left (at least in a relative sense). [Exceptions if, for some reason, you're going to a Christian college]. But, assuming you're at a normal college (and even more so if you're in a more heavily urbanized area), there will be girls who don't care that you're not a Christian. So, just keep patient, keep your hopes up, and keep trying. You'll find someone.

I am currently going to a normal college (community). I am not saddened by this nor does it make me feel less happy. I am currently quite happy with my life and I am merely curious is all.
Forgive me for digressing but what is a Taoist exactly? I am not familiar with the term or religion (if it is a religion).

 

[Oinodaemon]

Hello fellow escapers!

I have had some difficulty with my religion all my life and am just now realizing I am an agnostic.
How is this relevant you say? Well, I am wondering if I am going to be able to find any girl to get into a relationship or find some new friends that are the same or atheist. See, I live in Texas and since Texas is being Texas, religion is like sports.

Let me make this clear. This is not a pity thread nor a "nice guy girl problems" thread. I am just wondering since I live in one of the most religious states, when I finally get interested in trying to find someone to develop a relationship with, will I be able to knowing I am agnostic/atheist?

I personally just tell everyone i believe in all religions, as long as there is faith, and therefore cannot belong to a single one. If people are giving you shit, fuck them, they're the idiots who can't decipher the truth behind the messages in the bible, rather than simply believing what they're told.