Anger and breaking things. Why does it feel so good the more expensive the item is?

[Daft Time]

When I break things in anger or frustration, the actual price of the object is irrelevant. If the subjects of my rage have a tendency to be expensive it's only because they are larger. The truth is, I like causing visible, practical damage and the larger the scale the better. My computer might be worth more than my door, but putting my fist through my door is much more satisfying than pulling apart the machine. If I was a Superhero, I 'd probably take out entire cities when I angry.

I'm going to go out on a limb and say giving a mentally unstable person, like myself, superpowers is a really bad idea.

With that said, the exception comes when I'm angry at somebody else and intend to cause them harm. Sure - creating a new window in their previously solid door may cause me to derive joy from the visceral act of destruction, but taking a hammer to their precious items is so much more satisfying. How much damage I desire to cause is obviously modulated by how much I want to cause them harm. Theoretically, at least. I don't think I've ever destroyed property to get back at someone.

 

[Yopaz]

I think it's because a lot of gamers have anger issues. Can't say I've ever broken anything in a fit of anger and it honestly scares me any time I see someone get angry enough to do so over a freaking video game. If the game makes you that angry, for the love of god, turn it off. You're obviously not enjoying it.

Yeah, I'm with you. Idon't feel any better if I break something, if I do then I would just be angry and have a broken object to deal with, if it wasexpenaive then it would be a whole lot worse. The worst thing I do when I play video games is that I might swear if I get really annoyed.

 

[demontrace]

Honestly the people who are having anger management issues make me wonder how old they are. I personally had much greater anger problems during my teenage years, and to a lesser degree, my very early 20s.

I want to say that it just kinda faded as I got older, but I don't believe that fully. While I DO believe that more experience with the world around you, causes you to be more hesitant to act rashly, to be a more careful, wizened type of person, however I don't think sheer experience or age is the defining factor.
I believe that my anger faded, and ability to deal with it improved, because I CHOSE to be that way. I decided not to get angry with things as much, to not get frustrated so easily. That when I felt myself reaching a point of frustration, that I had to let it go, do something else, find some way to not allow myself to reach critical mass.

It's a CHOICE that you make. You can choose to quit something, do it a different way, or take a break, to not allow yourself to reach the point of breaking things, or letting your anger go overboard. Even better, you choose to not let things get to you as much. Maybe not take things so personally.
It's not something that happens over night. Naturally some people will get over their emotions quicker, and learn how to deal with things better, others will take longer. The key isn't to be thinking of other people, but about yourself, and the progress you are making. Go ahead and congratulate yourself for dealing with a situation responsibly, and not getting angry, you deserve it.

You absolutely HAVE TO REMEMBER: The only thing in this world you can control is yourself, and the way you react to things. You have no control over anything else. If something goes wrong and you did something badly, the only person you have to blame is yourself.

Think about that and decide where you want to be in life, and then act upon it. Anger is way too dangerous to allow it to control you. You have to take control of your anger.