another one of those " how to deal with women" threads

[thespyisdead]

can't believe i am doing this

So i have this female friend. we get along fine. but for me, it goes further: i am sexually attracted to her. i have this feeling that she, too, has the same feeling for me. the problem is i can't verify it, and am too shy, and do not know how to bring it out to her. a few days ago i had the chance, and did not use it, to do something about it. it felt like she was giving me the signal to just take her, but i was not sure whether i was reading the signals right

my question is what to look for, and how to bring it out to her.

also please tell me if i am being too cautious for my own good,

 

[dmase]

"just take her"; are you imaging some idealistic moment where you take her in your arms and squeeze her tight and share a long beautiful kiss no words necessary? Don't, it could go like that or... not then things get awkward. If your not 100% sure then just say you like her of course not in such a "high school way", say something like, "you know... I really like spending time with you"; she reciprocates, awkward silence. Now you may have your idealistic moment.

If you do do this then remember its how you say it not what you say. When you say you like spending time with her you can't say it like you mean as a friend, you have to come off as someone with a crush. Thats the only way you can gauge her response correctly.

I get a little bit verbose in my posts but hope that helps or you can at least follow what i'm saying.

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

Above poster has it right. Just tell her that you like really her, and want to spend more time with her. Don't go overboard.

I was in a situation like this with my GF before I asked her out. Just find a time when you are both enjoying yourselves and just tell her.

If you don't ask, then nothing will ever come of it. And if you go overboard, you risk making things creepy or awkward.

 

[jacobythehedgehog]

You should just be honest and tell her. Not do the whole Sex thing, first it is not healthy to do in just a beginning relationship and it doesn't benefit very much. However keep being her friend. Talk about your feelings, and Man up and except the responsibly of pursuing a girl if that's what you desire. Trust me it is not a super easy thing, but in the long run it will be best. You deserve for yourself after, how many years you have been alive to have a good woman in your life and she deserves equally a good guy in her life. You just need to be that guy.

I hope this helped.

 

[Galletea]

Every woman is different, so what to look for is a bit of a mystery, some girls are just overly flirty. I would just ask her out on a date and see what she says.

 

[])rStrangelove]

I would just ask her out on a date and see what she says.

Thing is: when you say its a DATE date, its like bursting out 'You know i actually love you, what do you think?'. And thats coming from a friend... could come across as some sort of shock.

I'd also suggest what dmase said in 2nd post, go slowly and THEN date her after you're sure she got the point and seems to be smiling.

 

[Giftfromme]

What situation is worse: not knowing or having an awkward situation? Forever asking yourself what could have been or just a situation that will resolve itself with time anyway. If you decide the latter, then just do and say whatever comes naturally to you.

 

[nilco]

I find that the best think to do in situations where you like a girl but dont know if she likes you is to put her on the spot and just ask her straight up if she likes you. That might seem abit strange but I find that its very time effective and solves the immortal question of "does this girl like me"

Obviously you dont break the question out after you've seen the girl for 3 hours but if you've been seeing this girl for a couple of weeks and like her, just straight up ask her if she likes you back

 

[Phasmal]

it felt like she was giving me the signal to just take her, but i was not sure whether i was reading the signals right

May I just say that language is creep-TASTIC?

Jeez, just ask her. Even if you're shy it will come to a point that if you want to be in a relationship, say so.