Another relationship question.

[MasterOfWorlds]

This is sorta kinda related to my own relationship. How long was it before you met your significant other's parents if you have? I'm just curious. I know that some of the Escapist members are a little older and as such, they may or may not have met their significant other's parents since it seems that the older you get, the larger gap in time between dating and meeting the parents becomes. I suppose that's because people tend to start thinking marriage then, but I digress.

How long was it before you met your significant other's parents? On average, of course.

 

[BlueberryMUNCH]

Well, me and my Ex (who I was with for 14 months) actually met on the internet, and when I went to visit her, both our parents met, haha.
So, straight away:].

But err. I was only 14/15 during that relationship. So mmh.

 

[Sara Fontaine]

I met my boyfriends parents after a year. My friends have said that it was a long time to wait, but I don't think it was. I was nervous anyway; I get very shy and I didn't want to make a bad impression, because when I go shy I barely talk to anyone. It's now four years later and his mother still isn't that keen on me...

On the flip side he met my parents for the first time at a family party after we'd been together a few months. So he kinda met everybody at once, and it amazed me that he was nowhere near as nervous as I was just meeting his father. And they all really like him, which is good.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Well, I guess to be fair, I should put my own story up here.

I met my gf's parents about...4-5 months into our relationship. I was kind of under the impression that they knew about me beforehand, but they didn't. The way they found out about me was that a friend of my gf and myself told my gf that I had cheated on her with the friend telling her. I didn't of course, and I was on vacation for a week at the time, so I wasn't there to defend myself. Luckily, I texted her to see how she was doing and found out about it. We smoothed things over and actually just celebrated our 9 month aniversary. Unfortunately, when she was upset and crying about the thought of me cheating on her, her parents found out and that was their first impression of me. Not the one I'd have wished to leave.

Her dad hates me, but is finally refering to me as the "boyfriend" when he talks to her about me instead of, "that guy you're seeing" so I think I'm making some progress. Her mom likes me a lot though. Her step-mom also seems to think I'm OK. But I suppose it's just part of the game for the dad to hate the bf.

 

[smearyllama]

I remember seeing you for the first time here...
A relationship thread was one of your first, right?

OT: Never had a girlfriend, so I've avoided this problem entirely.
Though I've known a few friends for years and never met their parents.

 

[nunqual]

I met my girlfriend's mother on the first date. I met her father on the second. That's probably not average, but they're cool people and I like them.

Off topic: Woo! 500 posts. Yay!

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I remember seeing you for the first time here...
A relationship thread was one of your first, right?

OT: Never had a girlfriend, so I've avoided this problem entirely.
Though I've known a few friends for years and never met their parents.

I don't recall my first post, but you're probably right. I'm fairly certain that my first couple of posts were about relationships. I've only recently started to get away from those and onto other topics.

 

[clipse15]

I hate meeting parents it sucks nearly everytime. As a Black male who usually dates non-Black females it is extremely not fun to meet discriminating parents which happens very often.

Currently i've been with my Vietnemese girlfriend for 3 years and her Dad still doesn't like me because i'm Black. (Although he has become to except it atleast and isn't as bad as he was before) However i'm at least lucky that her mom actually does like me now.

 

[Stasisesque]

I hate meeting my significant others' parents. Always terrified they'll dislike me (and they have done in the past) so I put it off for as long as I can. In some cases it has been months, in others years.

As for introducing them to my parents, my parents are amazing so I have no qualms.

 

[jrubal1462]

First girlfriend I went to high school with, in a very small town, so I knew her and her parents for awhile before we went out. My mom went to high school with her parents, and my dad went to pharmacy school with her dad. Then I ran over her Aunt's mailbox whilst delivering her newspaper....Then we went out for couple months. Nothing in college, but in grad school I guess it was about a month or so before I met her parents, but I knew her Aunt and Uncle well before that 'cause I was rooming with her cousin, so they knew me by reputation. Last girl I met her parents before we were going out, 'cause I was over her house with a group of friends for a movie and a campfire.

Sorry, I just realized I may be of no help whatsoever. I guess I don't really ever look to meet somebody with the intention of finding a girlfriend. I just love almost all the people I meet, and sometimes that grows into a relationship. Thanks for prompting this moment of introspection.

 

[Aetera]

I never met either of my ex-girlfriends' parents, since both of them were still closeted. One nice thing about it, I guess? xD

 

[The Afrodactyl]

I met my current gf's mother on date 1 (when I picked her up). She'll be meeting my parents in a few days.

My last gf? Met her parents during week 3, and she met my parents during week 2.

 

[DigitalLight]

I first met my girlfriend's mum 3-4 months after we started dating, we actually went out to dinner with her siblings and their kids so I could meet everyone.

 

[p3t3r]

probably not that long. i haven't had one but sooner or latter they would come over to my house and my parents will be here or i will go over there and her parents will be there. it is no big deal. i'm 16 btw

 

[aseelt]

Well we dated (twice and stopped dating) and then I went to her birthday party. Eventually I got invited for Thanksgiving as a friend and that's when I met her parents.

Funnily enough we had to tell everyone we weren't dating throughout Thanksgiving, only to date a few months later.

 

[WittyName]

I met my girlfriend's mum and stepdad quite soon, I think it was about 2 weeks, when they invited me round for dinner. I was a bit nervous, but it went alright.
I first really met her dad about 2 months ago, and got on well with him, so I'm happy. ^^