Any Other LGBT Gamers Here?

[Jenvas1306]

Well, I'm still new to the Escapist, and I've come out of the closet recently as transgendered. It always helps, I find, to make friends with like minded people. Nice to have support, aye?

So, just of out curiosity, any other trans gamers on the Escapist? I'd hate to be alone here.

no you are not alone, there are transgroups her and i am part of the more active one.
btw, you shouldnt make being trans your identity, no matter how exciting it might be currently, like, there arent many others who state it in their username.

 

[GeneralFungi]

I'm also one of those gamers who happen to be gay. So hello there! I joined the escapist before I realized what my sexuality was. It was one of the really positive forces that helped me to discover myself. I'm thankful for that.

So yes, hello! You most certainly are not alone!

Captcha: Cold shoulder

That's not a nice way to treat our guest, captcha.

 

[Something Amyss]

There are tons of threads on this, for the record.

And, as usually for those threads, I'll throw my hat in.

 

[NinjaDuckie]

Gay here, though it doesn't really pervade my waking life too forcefully. I like the term 'stealth gay'.

 

[omicron1]

T here. You'll fit right in.

Unless you happen to be conservative or (Heaven help you) Christian. Unlikely, I know, but it happens. If so, prepare for the inevitable pillorying.

 

[Samantha Burt]

I'm L & T (guess I need some bacon now). I agree; it's always nice to know you're not alone.

 

[sextus the crazy]

Normally this is expressed as "Am I the only one who___________?"

The stock answer is "You're never the only one."

But yeah, lots of LGBT people. More likely to be an issue in the R&P threads, though.

yeah, pretty much.

OT: not LGBT myself, but good luck and welcome to the escapist!

 

[omega 616]

Before I say what I really want to say, I want to put a little disclaimer. my life philosophy is "as long as you don't hurt other people (unless they want you to) then do or be who you want to be" and I'm not just saying that.

Right, now we got that out the way....

Why do full post op transgender folk hold onto there previous sex? Instead of "hi, I'm a girl/woman" I always find it's "hi, I'm a girl/woman but I was a guy".

Why are you putting that call back to your previous gender on the end? Surely, it's a big risk to yourself ... especially to any perspective partners!

I think it's kind of like admitting you cheated on somebody, you admit your affair/previous gender to make yourself feel better by not keeping a secret but you just hurt the other person, who is now forced to deal with the truth.

I am honestly just asking, if you do leave out your past gender then please don't respond. Thanks peoples!

 

[Beffudled Sheep_v1legacy]

T here. You'll fit right in.

Unless you happen to be conservative or (Heaven help you) Christian. Unlikely, I know, but it happens. If so, prepare for the inevitable pillorying.

Well to be fair I think the general forums have become more religion friendly/tolerant. I won't speak for R&P though since that place is Hell I think.

OT:Welcome to the escapist newbie! I'm not LGBT myself but there are quite a few members floating about the forums. I'd suggest you join the two user groups posted way above to have easier access to the other users like yourself. But please also visit the forums
Diversity is awesome and we always need new personalities and opinions
Hope you have a good time!

Oh and stay away from the basement and if you see a red button somewhere remember to click it! You get a special shiny badge for clicking the red button

 

[Myndnix]

I think your question's been answered.
By like...everyone.
And I hope you thoroughly enjoy your stay with us!



Though I am clearly an unrepresented minority here, as a pansexual. Where's the P I can claim?
check ur privilege escapist

 

[snowfi6916]

I like wearing girly clothing. I'm not sure if that counts as LGBT.

Wearing female clothes alone is "cross dressing". Transgender is NOT "cross dressing".

Identifying as transgender means that you see yourself, every part of who you are, as the opposite sex. You want to live the rest of your life as the opposite sex.

There are two different kinds of transgender: FtM and MtF (female to male, and male to female). I myself am not transgender, I am cisgender (cisgender means you see yourself as the sex you were born as). Most people are cisgendered, just like most people are heterosexual.

It's important to know, that gender and sexual identify are two totally different things. So, you can be MtF transgender, but gay. Or MtF transgender, and straight.

It is also important to know, that transgender people want to be identified as the gender they see themselves as. Calling someone who is MtF transgender "he", is rude and insensitive beyond belief. And vice versa.

So is calling transgender people "cross dressers", just FYI.

There are different levels of transgender. Some go all the way, meaning they get SRS (sex reassignment surgery) so that they are as close to the gender they are as possible. Some just do HRT (hormone replacement therapy) and no surgery. Some don't do HRT either.

I know a few people who are transgender, and they are some of the nicest people I know. And they are happy being female. They aren't depressed or sad anymore. This life is too short to not be happy with who you are.

Thank you.

 

[Zen Toombs]

Well, I'm still new to the Escapist, and I've come out of the closet recently as transgendered. It always helps, I find, to make friends with like minded people. Nice to have support, aye?

So, just of out curiosity, any other trans gamers on the Escapist? I'd hate to be alone here.

You're not alone. I'm not trans, but bisexuality is a thing.

Also, I made a poll a while ago to assess the sexualities of the Escapist. I couldn't assess gender differences beyond male/female due to a limited number of choices available, but here it is [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.398724-Poll-SCIENCE-DEMANDS-ANSWER-Who-do-you-have-sexytimes-with?page=1].

Just so you can get an idea of the Lgbtqiiaaqwtfbbq population in the Escapist.

 

[Fire_Drake]

I'd hate to be alone here.

You arent alone. Theres quite a few LGBT Escapists. Like me.

 

[snowfi6916]

Before I say what I really want to say, I want to put a little disclaimer. my life philosophy is "as long as you don't hurt other people (unless they want you to) then do or be who you want to be" and I'm not just saying that.

Right, now we got that out the way....

Why do full post op transgender folk hold onto there previous sex? Instead of "hi, I'm a girl/woman" I always find it's "hi, I'm a girl/woman but I was a guy".

Why are you putting that call back to your previous gender on the end? Surely, it's a big risk to yourself ... especially to any perspective partners!

I think it's kind of like admitting you cheated on somebody, you admit your affair/previous gender to make yourself feel better by not keeping a secret but you just hurt the other person, who is now forced to deal with the truth.

I am honestly just asking, if you do leave out your past gender then please don't respond. Thanks peoples!

People who are transgender want to be called the gender they see themselves as. A MtF (male to female) transgender individual wants to be called "she", not "he". It is incredibly rude and insensitive to do otherwise.

Now, if it is an honest mistake, they will let you know "I was born male, but I am female now, so please use female pronouns". Or something along those lines. If you CONTINUE to call her "him", you are being an asshole.

I haven't asked my transgender friends this, but I would imagine if they were to get involved in a serious relationship with someone, they would have to let them know at some point that they are trans.

If they had SRS surgery, they still would need to tell their partner that they were born the opposite sex. If a MtF trans person was in a relationship with another man, she would have to tell him "I won't be able to give you children, because I was born a guy". But those couples can still adopt. SRS surgery gives you a vagina or a penis... it doesn't give you ovaries, a uterus, or testicles.

It's out of respect for the other person. Some might be happy to stay with their partner even though they could never have children of their own with them. Others may leave because they want to have children of their own.

 

[omega 616]

Before I say what I really want to say, I want to put a little disclaimer. my life philosophy is "as long as you don't hurt other people (unless they want you to) then do or be who you want to be" and I'm not just saying that.

Right, now we got that out the way....

Why do full post op transgender folk hold onto there previous sex? Instead of "hi, I'm a girl/woman" I always find it's "hi, I'm a girl/woman but I was a guy".

Why are you putting that call back to your previous gender on the end? Surely, it's a big risk to yourself ... especially to any perspective partners!

I think it's kind of like admitting you cheated on somebody, you admit your affair/previous gender to make yourself feel better by not keeping a secret but you just hurt the other person, who is now forced to deal with the truth.

I am honestly just asking, if you do leave out your past gender then please don't respond. Thanks peoples!

People who are transgender want to be called the gender they see themselves as. A MtF (male to female) transgender individual wants to be called "she", not "he". It is incredibly rude and insensitive to do otherwise.

Now, if it is an honest mistake, they will let you know "I was born male, but I am female now, so please use female pronouns". Or something along those lines. If you CONTINUE to call her "him", you are being an asshole.

I haven't asked my transgender friends this, but I would imagine if they were to get involved in a serious relationship with someone, they would have to let them know at some point that they are trans.

Example: A friend of mine is MtF trans. If she gets into a relationship with another man, and it starts to get serious, she would have to let him know, regardless of whether she has had SRS surgery or not. Because even if she did have surgery, she wouldn't be able to have children.

At that point, it is up to the other person to decide what to do. Some love their partner so much that they will stay with them, regardless of whether they are trans or not. Some might leave.

See, this is the kind of stuff I mean "A friend of mine is MtF trans" ... no "a friend of mine is a boy" ... I know in this context that would be fucked up 'cos it would make fuck all sense but you get what I mean, hopefully.

I wasn't attacking your post, just using that example from it.

I just think that gender should be left in the past. Make up a lie that you can't have children, "I got tested when I was younger and I'm infertile".

Then again, who the fuck am I? In terms of socially acceptable I'm privileged, I'm a hetro white guy. I'm not saying I'm better than anybody just unfortunately other people get hate for who they are.

(sorry, thinking aloud now)

 

[snowfi6916]

Well, I'm still new to the Escapist, and I've come out of the closet recently as transgendered. It always helps, I find, to make friends with like minded people. Nice to have support, aye?

So, just of out curiosity, any other trans gamers on the Escapist? I'd hate to be alone here.

You're not alone. I'm not trans, but bisexuality is a thing.

Also, I made a poll a while ago to assess the sexualities of the Escapist. I couldn't assess gender differences beyond male/female due to a limited number of choices available, but here it is [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.398724-Poll-SCIENCE-DEMANDS-ANSWER-Who-do-you-have-sexytimes-with?page=1].

Just so you can get an idea of the Lgbtqiiaaqwtfbbq population in the Escapist.

For future reference, you can either say LGBT, or say "quiltbag".

Queer/questioning
Undecided
Intersex
Lesbian
Transgender/Transsexual
Bisexual
Asexual
Gay

 

[West_Filly]

Right, now we got that out the way....

Why do full post op transgender folk hold onto there previous sex? Instead of "hi, I'm a girl/woman" I always find it's "hi, I'm a girl/woman but I was a guy".

Why are you putting that call back to your previous gender on the end? Surely, it's a big risk to yourself ... especially to any perspective partners!

I think it's kind of like admitting you cheated on somebody, you admit your affair/previous gender to make yourself feel better by not keeping a secret but you just hurt the other person, who is now forced to deal with the truth.

I am honestly just asking, if you do leave out your past gender then please don't respond. Thanks peoples!

Well firstly, generalizations. Some people will tell you about their history and others will opt for "stealth" as it's known. There's a very telling thing here, though. The fact that it's a risk actually says more about society's attitudes to trans people than it does about the individual in question. To say that you shouldn't tell people about it because they might be at risk of (whatever) puts the burden on the victim here.

"Forced to deal with the truth"? see, there's nothing wrong with being trans, but such a revelation hurts people because there's a widespread idea that it's not right to be. Some people are disgusted at the idea, fearful, hateful. You can't choose how you feel, but it's not right to restrict a person's actions just because you can't deal with the fact they're trans.

What needs to happen is for there to be more acceptance of trans people.
What doesn't need to happen is for trans people to feel like they need to hide for fear of these risks you speak of.

 

[Miss Layton]

Always good to meet people like me! I am also trans (Mtf), and I agree, it's always good to know people in a similar situation. Feel free to PM me if you want or just take solace in the fact that you aren't alone (there are more than just me, I know, but I'll let them tell you).

And good job on the coming out! I know that can be hard, so go you.

I've come out to my friends and my sister. They've all accepted me, and they don't mind it when - on gaming nights - I'm the only "girl" in a room full of guys.

Sure, they jokingly do catcalls whenever I enter the room, but you wouldn't believe how some of my more gentlemanly friends treat me.

And it's nice to meet you too!

 

[Miss Layton]

I'm L & T (guess I need some bacon now). I agree; it's always nice to know you're not alone.

It most certainly is.